TL/DR: You're up against literally decades of entrenched thinking and beliefs. Good luck undoing that with a paragraph.

Here's the bottom line. When guys do self destructive stuff like get married and hamster away blatant infidelity and other female misbehavior, it's not because they're necessarily idiots. They've just been indoctrinated to serve women even if it costs them their lives.

The way men are raised today is similar to military boot camp or rigorous Law Enforcement academies. Why are those institutions tough ? Why are recruits yelled at and treated like shit? Because war and police duty are stressful jobs.

Yeah we have drones and in car cameras. Bad guys don't care, and the instinct which says "fuck this people shooting at me shit, bye" has to be trained out of people who do those jobs. A sense of teamwork also has to be forged out of a gang of selfish civilian nematodes (I realize cops are civilians , but stick with me). Because when the lead is flying and the Bosses have left you out to dry , all you'll have is the backup next to you, whether you're in a foxhole or a ghetto drug tenement.

The goal is : The Job Must Be Done. Even if a man has to risk personal injury or death to get it done.

So it goes for how boys are raised today. Much like a soldier in the military, boy children aren't necessarily totally disposable, but if one has to die to ensure the Mission of Female Happiness is accomplished, it's just a casualty of war so to speak. Males are raised absent any male influence (akin to being isolated on a military training base) , denied outside perspectives not consistent with the feminist narrative (no TV or internet in the Trainee Barracks!) , and raised to deify the Mission of female prosperity ahead of their own survival (A Sentry Never Abandons Their Post!).

Except instead of 10 or so weeks, women have 18 years of indoc time.

Is it any wonder modern custom is for men to be sniveling , weak ass betas?