If mgtows don't consider sex as a heavily central element, why tell potential mgtow or red pill ppl that you have to be burnt by relationship breakups, divorces and lots of rejection in order to go MGTOW?

I can understand its to avoid the image that mgtow is another word for an incel, tflers, man child, Peter pans and whatnot but mgtow is a state of content and freedom from all arbitrary labels and definitions of masculinity from feminism and the common female that leads to an unquestioning sheep provider. That's the difference between mgtow and those labels, we're alone but we're fine with it and don't see it as a masculine failure.

Does it really matter other than one's motive in terms of experience with women and one's own qualities qualify if you're a mgtow or not? I know, I know, I'm talking out of my ass and that there's no one enforcing membership but maybe has it occurred that some people go mgtow simply because of the social climate and know relatives that suffered a fate in divorce or false accusations and maybe they know nothing satisfies them no matter how much of a quality man one is?

As the saying goes: "You don't need to jump off a cliff to know that it's dangerous and you could die."