I keep having this reoccurring problem of not feeling anything when I am with a women. I have made an effort to put myself out there in the last year and I've gotten lucky a few times. I've had this fantasy of what it would be like to have a girlfriend, but I just can't feel any interest in the real thing, she hugs me and I feel nothing, I cuddle with her I feel hot and uncomfortable, I take her out to places and I feel like I am just taking care of a child or that its a chore, not that I really care about her. This has caused me to feel lonely, but not interested in dating or even hooking up with men or women. Its like I am asexual but still crushingly lonely. Its an ass backwards circle of loneliness. Anyone have this problem? I'm not even fantasizing about a specific women I see on the street or anything, its just a random placeholder apparition that creates an intense feeling that ends in longing for it in real life but never feeling it when I'm with someone.

Anyone had this problem? I wouldn't actually mind it too much if I didn't long for it in real life making me depressed when I don't feel it in real life.