I think the most appropriate category this falls under is theory, but not traditional sexual strategy theory.

This post is inspired by the recent ask-trp shitposts that have been making their way into the sub and being removed fairly quickly. To avoid any more bans, or at least mitigate them, I encourage everyone to read on.

There is no TL;DR because it honestly isn't more than five minutes of your day and it is useful information.

There's nothing better for anyone, and that includes us men improving ourselves, than learning from our own experiences.

A friend of mine always say "you need to make your own mistakes and you need to make them seven or eight times before you learn." I want to take it one step further and say you need to make your own mistakes until you drill it into your subconscious that it is a mistake and there is a better response to the given situation whether it be ten or a hundred times. Fucking learn it.

The problem with asking advice (here or on asktrp) is that you are looking for and receiving a band-aid solution. It is a band-aid because it is a quick fix for your given problem. The individuals here are giving you non-emotionally invested and objective advice. You are not taking active steps to improve yourself and how you handle situations. You are asking for a fucking bandage to your boo-boo.

But guess what? The moment you fix that problem and another one arises, you will run back here and ask for another fix. Surely you can't live through life that way. Constantly asking for advice and validation from some online strangers.

You don't learn your lesson, you don't understand why the individual is giving you the dream response that fixes your problem. You just enjoy the good feelz it generates for you in the moment.

The endorsed contributors, the mods, and the other higher-ups have read theory, applied it, and made the same mistakes you probably made (some less than others and some more than others.) But they learned from their mistakes and knew what responses to give in certain situations.

Some examples

Text game shitty? Fucking keep practicing until you get more than a one-worded response. If the ten girls you message all give you the same line of response, then maybe try shifting your approach until you get it right. Then if you falter mid-conversation, start with a new girl and fix the mid-conversation approach. Abundance mentality dictates that there will be more girls to come. Use them as test dummies for whatever aspect of game you are trying to learn.

Are you maintaining good conversation in person but failing to escalate. Baby steps until you are fully comfortable pushing the envelope. But please stop coming here and asking for advice and validation every damn step of the way. Same principle as above applies.

Learning from your own experiences and mistakes will better you permanently as long as you understand where you went wrong and take active steps to change your missteps. You become self-sufficient and no longer need advice from others.

Now, some of you might whine and bitch about your "true love" relationship that if you get that advice fix, nothing else could possibly go wrong and it is smooth sailing from there. Wrong.

Relationships are a constant struggle where balance and frame must be maintained and losing your "one true love" will be a shining example to you regarding what not to do next time.

For the love of whatever you believe in, get out there, make your mistakes and learn from them. Stop asking advice for the most meaningless situations. Take active steps to internalize and understand what you are doing and why you are doing it.