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I am still no closer to fully understanding why a women wants to duck another woman with me My Ex claimed to enjoy watching me screw younger women with her. It ended up being a leash. While there are a few women that enjoy the sexual nature of it, they’re mostly looking for control. I liked the threesomes for awhile. Even that fades though.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/12/20 05:23 AM
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Mediation is a way for both parties to accept “a deal”. Not a great deal got YOU.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/20 07:46 AM
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You just done understand then. My GF is a HB9. She gets constant attention, conversations, compliments, etc. I had no idea hot chicks were hearing “you’re so beautiful” that many times a day.
/r/TheRedPill10/12/20 04:25 AM
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Any HB8+ will have heard how pretty she is a dozen times before lunch. EVERYONE is telling hot chicks how pretty they are and they tune that shit right out.
/r/TheRedPill09/12/20 11:37 PM
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You sound like you’re clueless as to what the score really is. You’re talking about “can I make her feel bad”?! You spent a year doing fuck all and seething in your own self hatred. You’ve accomplished nothing except creating a toxic environment to show your daughters what the perfect relationship looks like. Who cares that divorce isn’t “the direction you want to go”! She doesn’t want you. Let her fuck off. If there was a “play” here, you blew it with inaction. You should have consulted a lawye…
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/20 06:49 PM
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Solid video share. Thank you.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/20 06:41 PM
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You sound bitter. And weak. The real issue here is that if you can’t apply these principals and learn mastery in this relationship, getting out of a relationship or getting into a new relationship is absolutely jot going to aid in that end. Do the work today with a GF that you aren’t interested in staying with because that mindset will actually help you do the work properly - at least you won’t be afraid of damaging the pedestal of your delicate flower. Who knows, you might just see her turn the…
/r/askMRP27/10/20 09:33 PM
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I think you are used to listening to yourself talk to you. You are about to get your bell rung but you’re on Reddit like “hey bros, just wanted your positive feedback on this little thing”. Your baby gurl is going to have your ass and you’re clueless.
/r/askMRP19/10/20 05:36 AM
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So, the big problem is that you’re such a pussy, you’ve created the monster you love with. It’s because you aren’t engaged. There’s no action from you and she knows there is no backbone. So this is on you. As an aside, you are in a risky situation because your wife sounds crazy enough to call the cops on you. I recommend you call the local PD and ask about the process of filing a Police Report. I don’t necessarily want to file one get - as that could make some ugly gates occur (before you’re rea…
/r/askMRP14/10/20 10:08 PM
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You have no self control. Pot is a dead end and yes it stinks and you talk and smell like a loser. Stop making excuses.
/r/askMRP08/10/20 12:48 AM
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Underrated comment.
/r/askMRP08/10/20 12:45 AM
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Just bail. You’re too young to be married anyway. She handed back your ring. That means she’s self identified as leaving. Ever hear of that old Sales adage “the next person that speaks, loses”? Well that’s where you’re at if you say anything other than “pack your shit”. If she stays after you tell her to leave, you MUST set up this relationship properly. Right now it seems like you’re a dumpster fire with no purpose. Edit: also, for a guy that’s never had sex, you are 100% delusional to think yo…
/r/askMRP08/10/20 12:44 AM
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It takes two people actively committed to the same goal. What you’re doing is foolish since age isn’t in agreement. Stupid. Just stop now. Be done. Have some self respect and move on.
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/20 04:29 AM
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FWIW, you should immediately engage 2-3 divorce attorneys and have first consults. While it might cost you $300 you will learn the game your wife may be playing currently and this will help you make better choices over the next 12mos. The stay plan is the same as the go plan - but you need a plan.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/09/20 04:27 AM
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Get an attorney now and start learning about the storm that is headed your way. Makes your exit strategy now and stay in front. Pay off debt now or risk getting stuck with it in the settlement. Get your STBX working ASAP and at any cost - a non-working STBX is a person the judge will order you to support “at her standard of living”. Open your own bank account now and deposit as much of your paycheck as possible. Then transfer the money necessary to run the house. Many soft men find their wives “…
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/20 10:06 PM
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Lots of us were there. Your kids will have to learn to stand on their own. Counseling for them to cope with whatever anger management or narcissistic behaviors from their Mom will be critical. Good for you for declining the counseling. When you’re done, just call it over. I went the counseling route w/ my Ex, but more from a co-parenting perspective - that we’d need to figure out a way to get along. For co-parenting it was a total waste of 14mos and about $8K, but for me personally I was able to…
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/20 07:34 PM
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Family Law is different in every state. No fault states don’t take notice of infidelity as a punitive measure for the other spouse.
/r/TheRedPill08/09/20 07:15 PM
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It all depends on how you set these scenarios up. My(49) Ex(52) and I had threesomes years ago. She loved watching me plow some younger girl. If you don’t drive the bus when the action starts, you aren’t going to get what you want. Waiting for your girl to “get interested” isn’t the best strategy.
/r/askMRP07/09/20 05:48 AM
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To them, normal is a grown man that doesn’t have sex with young women.
/r/askMRP07/09/20 05:24 AM
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Under-rated comment. The person with the most power is the one that needs the relationship the least. Gets tricky with marriages and LTR obviously, but it cannot be overlooked.
/r/askMRP07/09/20 04:14 AM
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But imagine if there was some creepy loner guy at the office you didn't think much of, but he wanted to be your friend. And every day he offered to buy you lunch, told you how nice your tie was, and even bought you presents once in a while - some cigars, or a six pack maybe. Chances are you'd think he was a loser, and look down on him because through his actions, he's just reinforcing the inequality in your relationship - he's some dude desperate for a friend but too creepy to get one by being a…
/r/askMRP07/09/20 03:57 AM
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Lots of adults/parents forget that giving answers limit the value of searching for those answers. I’ve been coaching my kids sports for about 6yrs, either as head coach or an involved assistant coach - probably 30 teams and upwards of 500 kids. They all ask questions during the learning process like “what do I do now?” In the majority of situations, when I want to gauge their cognitive processing, I’ll ask them plainly “give me two answers you think are possible”. Guess what? In the vast majorit…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/20 11:08 PM
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It’s only because your actions allow and encourage her. You need to cut contact. No text messages unless she can’t make the transition or there’s a bone sticking out of your child’s injury.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/20 07:52 PM
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You seem incredibly dim or maybe just totally in denial of how screwed you are. Pick a monthly number you DON’T want to pay her and then triple it is the more likely figure. You could easily be on a $4K/mo given your income without even breaking a sweat. And your STBX has no reason to negotiate lower because she’ll probably get it.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/20 11:33 PM
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Just use a calculator from another state. It isn’t looking good for you though for two reasons. 1) length of marriage 2) non-working spouse the entire time. You’re likely on the hook for lifetime alimony. I’d have an aggressive offer - give her the house and your 401K or something stupid like that.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/20 11:29 PM
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A major issue is when one person goes through their personal hell to finally decide to divorce and they let the cat out of the bag and verbalize. That is NOT the time to go to marriage counseling. The relationship is over for you. Your STBX would have to be supermodel hot and bring in 7-figure salty for you to justify staying. But and aging, angry woman that doesn’t put out?! Here’s the thing; YOU are the problem. You allowed and encouraged all of this. Your STBX is really the only person that c…
/r/askMRP19/07/20 04:54 AM
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A person only says that when they are exhausted with their partner or the relationship from too much time in distress. So, either you aren’t paying attention to how seriously fragged she is or she let herself become lost and someone new has come into the picture. Neither scenario adds up well for you. You must see an atty so you can understand the playing field of a relationship moving into divorce. Then, once you understand what you’re up against, I recommend you put the ball in her court. If s…
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/20 07:31 PM
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The Go plan is the same as the Stay plan.
/r/askMRP30/06/20 07:44 PM
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It is time for you to envision your ideal plan and move in that direction. My Ex was terribly combative, argumentative, and would go completely dark for weeks at a time. I left the house and she ran it into the ground and we almost lost it to foreclosure. Mediation doesn’t work if you don’t have a functional relationship w/ your STBX. Don’t waste any money there. How can you have 50/50 legal custody with a person that you argue with? Might as well push for full custody and use her failure to coo…
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/20 10:41 PM
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Most difficult part of threesomes is scheduling. Girls are down for way more than we give them credit, but confidence is critical. If you aren’t sure you can completely satisfy one chick in bed, don’t bother dreaming about several. I’ve had lots of threesomes and one night we pulled in a 4th. I mean, great as fas a bragging rights, but I wouldn’t say it’s worth being a “life goal”.
/r/TheRedPill18/06/20 07:45 PM
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What does your lawyer say about it? Also, in general, you should wait until you’re clear of divorce to start dating. I(48) had our plans in place to leave my Ex(52) and for 2yrs worked on the exit (counseling for co-parenting which was a waste of me and good money as well as paying down debt), however, I found someone very shortly after moving out of the house. The divorce wasn’t final yet, but seemed like it was almost ready for court. Then my Ex dragged everything out, nearly putting us into f…
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/20 10:09 PM
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If a guy ever wonders if he’s “being red pilled” by his girl, that means he’s a drunk captain and he’s so proud of being “red pill aware” that he doesn’t realize he’s just plain blue.
/r/askMRP07/06/20 10:01 PM
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Valid point that is often taken at face value. The actual point is that to allow sex to rule your life is to give control to the person that gives you sex. My Ex kept me for many years by ducking my brains out regularly and bringing young single girls into bed for me as well. You can get great ex from any partner, but you can’t let your life slide just to empty your balls.
/r/TheRedPill06/06/20 09:26 PM
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Frankly, it sounds like you are the one that isn’t getting the message from her. You stated your case and she wasn’t interested. Move on.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/20 11:23 PM
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It’s a terrible idea. Just get your own lawyer. You are stuck on this childlike notion that things are going to work out fine. You’ll burn a few months screwing around. Just get a lawyer now, educate yourself and make the plan that you want.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/20 01:55 AM
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Planning ahead is smart. Talking w/ an attorney before you make those plans is BRILLIANT!
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/20 12:32 AM
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Mediation isn’t going to be awesome. My Ex was so dumb, her great idea was that I take all the debt and she would keep the house. If you don’t have your attorney keyed up to shift into hard mode, do that now. And get your money out of joint accounts. It does make sense to pay the credit debt now, out of a joint cash account rather than risk getting stuck with it later.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/20 10:59 PM
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Dude, don’t ask strangers, ask all your friends that live in the area. Meet w/ 3 lawyers and choose the best ones. You are going to be in for an uphill battle if she’s that uncooperative and demanding today. Lock your finances down, cut off credit cards immediately. Used shared money to pay down debt (otherwise you’ll most likely get stuck with it). Protect cash and savings rather than risk her depleting it all and you having to ask for it. Get the house ready to sell.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/20 09:00 PM
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Did you just say you “looked at the sidebar and like what you see”?! So you’re nowhere. You don’t even have frame with a child when it comes to bath time.
/r/askMRP25/04/20 07:42 PM
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The BIGGEST mistake people make is staying w/ a bad Partner “for the kids”. You teach your kids, with your actions, how to choose a Good Partner. You are showing your kids the best relationship.
/r/Divorce_Men25/04/20 07:40 PM
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Run it by your lawyer first, but conventional wisdom is to get a separate bank account as soon as you don’t want someone else (your STBX) to access your money. You didn’t list your State, which makes a huge difference as all States have different laws, but you will also be on the hook for any credit debt, so make sure you cut up those cards or report them stolen/lost to prevent them from being used.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/20 08:37 PM
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It’s best to delineate between Physical Custody (time spent w/ each parent) and Legal Custody (which parent is the guardian VS which pain is the babysitter). Parenting time is healthy but Legal custody isn’t smart to split between parents; especially if there’s a conflict w/ communication.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/20 08:27 PM
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It’s really subjective to judge the work or effort another puts in. Ultimately, the person that has a larger share of work for change either does enough (in your eyes) or not. Most problems like this are when you wait to go to counseling until after one of the couple has flushed the relationship. How do you get back after that? But yes, I(48) initiated the divorce from my ex(52) and reluctantly agreed to go to couples counseling - not to “ save “ the marriage- but because I knew we’d need to get…
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/20 09:00 PM
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The greatest hurdle for society today is the trend away from personal accountability. If something fails, blame someone else. If you didn’t succeed, offer an excuse. The best thing to do is to teach kids to accept ownership for completed or failed tasks alike. While it differs based upon age, most children in the home lack training, skill mastery, and motivation. Ergo, doesn’t matter what age your child is if they don’t understand how to load a dishwasher properly, that is your fault for not ove…
/r/askMRP11/04/20 06:58 PM
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Depends on your STBX. Mine was so illogical and demented that I finally did a mass email to all of her friends and family about how close we were to foreclosure and bankruptcy. Got two calls; SIL and extended cousin asking me if it was true. They took care of business and snapped her out of her failure spiral. Don’t do anything without consulting your attorney. I know it costs, man, but you’re lying for his experience in the last 100 divorces.
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/20 06:17 AM
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You’ve provided very little information here to evaluate; namely the structure and quality of your marital / emotional / sexual relationship. That being said, since you asked, it takes a tremendous amount of strength to move to divorce a long-term partner. That says a lot. I have a little perspective since initiated my divorce at a similar time period from my(48) Ex(52) about 4yrs ago after almost 17yrs married. You say your husband says “a switch turned off” in his head. Totally understand. Tha…
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/20 09:02 PM
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The same way you convince kids to do their homework or spouses to lose weight - you can’t. Now you might be able to entice him to meet w/ an attorney. Set an appointment and pay whatever fee yourself (but don’t tell your Dad about the money) and tell him you’ve set an appointment. If he goes with you, great. If not. His loss.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/20 08:59 PM
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One person cheats on you and suddenly “Humanity ” is a failure?! You might look into reasons causing depression and manic thoughts. Why can’t one person be a piece of crap in your view?
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/20 09:31 PM
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Careful of the covert contracts here - “if I’m nice to her, she’ll be nice and give me what I want” You need to start living your life and making plans within the boundaries of your current parenting arrangement.
/r/askMRP01/03/20 11:04 PM
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If your wife is pregnant and you’re still learning just sit down, shut up, and enjoy the ride. Way too many unpredictable hormones for you to figure out what’s happening.
/r/askMRP25/02/20 05:23 AM
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It’s like you’re too stupid to know not to shit where you sleep.
/r/askMRP25/02/20 05:20 AM
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Start with attorney; actually visit with 3 of them and pay whatever their consult fee is. Stop having unprotected sex immediately. Next, within the guidelines of your legal advice: Get wife working a real job if she isn’t. Pay off all credit card debt and cut up cards. Prepare to change title of your car to your name only. Start accumulating off the books cash. Protect savings account.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/20 09:39 PM
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Which idiot made that deal without consulting an attorney?
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/20 06:11 AM
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Christ, it’s the hottest economy in decades. Get a new job. You’re talking about some bizarre corporate gamesmanship that’s akin to a 6-ball combination shot in pool. Leave already. Oh yeah, I’m a corporate recruiter in Tech. The deck is going to be stacked against you because you aren’t a woman.
/r/askMRP18/02/20 06:45 AM
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This isn’t the divorce sub. You don’t even have a lawyer yet and you think you are doing anything relevant to a case. You have to figure it out. Get a lawyer today! You are making moves that will cost you money or time or a better deal. Don’t let her file first. The person that files controls the pace of the divorce.
/r/askMRP13/02/20 10:35 PM
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It’s ok to say “No” to these crazy ass plans of hers you know? She doesn’t have to happily agree with you. Just say “No, that’s not happening. Your Mom can come here or we’ll pick baby up after work each night”.
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/20 10:09 PM
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You’re in a tough spot mainly because you’re comparing two completely different scenarios; being happily married with a loving partner that wants to have sex with you against paying alimony and child support. Make an 18mo plan. Learn how to speak your mind and set boundaries in your marriage. Get your wife working at a real job so she can oh her own bills!! Heavily pay off debt and get off credit (you’ll get stuck with most of it anyway). Start improving your personal self; eat healthy, lose wei…
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/20 03:36 AM
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The answer varies depending on what you call mediation. Are you using a closed ended source m, where you mediate with them and then draw up a document to submit to the court or are you both using attorneys that are acting as mediators? Short answer is that mediation doesn’t produce the best outcome for you. They only want the two of you to agree. The longer answer delves into how functional or combative the two of you are. Theoretically, if there’s no animosity and there isn’t any alimony or chi…
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/20 03:54 AM
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It’s up to you to set boundaries for this crap I’ve got the same agreement with the stipulation that we can’t make plans on the other person’s time. My idiot Ex was like “oh, I can take them”. She would sign them up and then ask me if it was OK. Here’s how I fixed it. 1. Sit down talk with the kids to explain the custody agreement. 2. Get a copy of the parenting time agreement to both kids (mine are 13 & 16) so they can reference it any time. 3. Let the kids know it is their responsibility to be…
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/20 03:37 AM
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Have you heard the concept of “FUCK YES!!!” or “no”? If you aren’t totally motivated to marry that girl because you’ve done your work and the relationship is an efficient machine, then do not marry her. Be up front “I’ve got concerns” or “I’m not there yet”. If anything it will force you to punt or grunt the relationship. Qualities:- this assumes you are a man of value and not a weak dough boy with no frame. She should be slightly subservient at all times, she should be respectful. You shouldn’t…
/r/askMRP08/02/20 03:24 AM
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Oh sure, your wife’s friends act like it’s all secret right up until they decide it isn’t. All those birds talk and gossip.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/20 03:08 AM
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Bro you are a weak little man and she is grooming you to accept her fat guppy ass so she can dole out the Pusey to you when she feels like you’ve earned it. She can’t lose weight but you want a wife that can stay fit? Put that wedding on hold. You’ve been warned Same program as my Ex. Got so fat, she came home one day from a doctor appt crying about “he said I was clinically obese!!!!” I was like “ well, you are overweight big time”. New GF is like “I’m getting fat” (still better body than the m…
/r/askMRP05/02/20 06:24 AM
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Terrible. What is this crap?
/r/askMRP01/02/20 07:21 AM
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Mediation is crap. All that person cares about is “can we agree and move on to the next point?” You have yourself to blame for not being educated and engaged. This is YOUR future at stake. Joint legal custody is terrible. Many Family court judges won’t consider it. You’re going to have to put on your jig boy pants and push for it with confidence.
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/20 01:49 AM
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You need to it close attention. Some of you answers make it sounds like you’re a passenger in this process. Legal custody - makes decisions with input from other parent Shared legal custody - both parent MUST agree before an action can be taken (obviously not preferred). Parenting time - percentage of time with each parent. It’s hard to argue about going to a school when you don’t live in that district. Have your daughter go to the school in your district and your Ex can live where she wants and…
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/20 01:37 AM
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I mean, good for you for waking the fuck up, but what are you really doing to change the course of your life? It seems like nothing. You’re still with a woman that was fucking another dude. That should be a non-starter. Staying with the cheating whore for the kids? Great example of a relationship for those kids. The funniest part is how content you are with your HB5 lazy wife. At least see a divorce attorney and figure out how to make a plan to the end. I finally dropped my(48) HB6 Ex(52), that …
/r/askMRP22/01/20 04:09 AM
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Yeah, that’s a tough position. Sounds like she’s a SAHM? Get her working. Pay off debt now as you’ll end up paying for it anyway. Rotating in and out of the house each week while the kids stay there is ridiculous. Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/20 01:09 AM
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Why would you marry a woman that claims to have been raped “several” times. Major red flag. Now you’re the rapist too?! Get out now.
/r/askMRP21/01/20 02:09 AM
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You don’t sound like the kind of man a woman wants to do those things for. So clearly, it’s silly for you to keep asking her to do those things since she clearly doesn’t think of you as a person that she desires. If you don’t want the kids in the room, tell her and the kids. When the kids come in, turn them around and take them back into their rooms.
/r/askMRP21/01/20 02:07 AM
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You’ve got some difficult decisions in front of you. What exactly is your plan to move forward, so your family can move forward to the next stage; post-divorce?
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/20 02:01 AM
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The debt will be shared or negotiated during the split. My unsolicited feedback to staying in the same house “for the kids” is that all you are doing is A) delaying the inevitable and prolonging the pain B) setting a terrible example of a relationship for your kids to use as “this is a model relationship that I should try for in my life”.
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/20 07:31 PM
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If you’re worried about “keeping frame” then you don’t have frame.
/r/askMRP18/01/20 09:53 PM
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The first problem is that you’re looking to be something to other people. That’s why they don’t listen to you. You don’t even know your own value, why would they assume you have something relevant to say?
/r/askMRP18/01/20 09:51 PM
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Some guys have the halls to go through with divorce at your stage and other guys just shift to cheating. I(48) happily started the divorce process w/ my Ex(52) 4yrs ago - after 17yrs married with 2 kids. There was plenty of sex but she was just a crappy narcissist that would explode every time she didn’t get her way. I woke up and realized I wasted half my life with her and made a plan to leave. That was a shitty 4yr process, but today, my kids are happy and my life is good and I’m with a gorgeo…
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/20 04:47 PM
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Are you cheating? No. Are you cheating? Asked and answered.
/r/askMRP16/01/20 09:16 PM
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You’re barely capable of making a decision about posting in OYS, you’re in no position to pull the top cord on your marriage. You haven’t learned anything. No wonder your wife is not on board.
/r/askMRP13/01/20 10:47 PM
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Incorrect
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/20 03:16 AM
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There’s a difference between being great enough in bed that you can give any woman an orgasm and “caring” if she has one.
/r/askMRP12/01/20 05:00 AM
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Stop being an insecure faggot. Going through her text messages? Only Cucks do that.
/r/askMRP12/01/20 04:29 AM
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Well, nice you retire, you’d technically have zero income, so there’s that to inspire you. Are you in the negotiation process now? If so, just find out what she wants and give it to her. Also, depending on your situation, you can ad a “non-modifiable component to the agreement. It’s a double edged sword but could be worth it depending on your situation.
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/20 05:47 AM
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Just because you think something is servitude doesn’t make it so.
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/20 05:44 AM
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A real man does what he wants without asking Mommy. Do you want her there or not? <— trick question
/r/askMRP09/01/20 09:45 PM
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Wow brother, you are so deep in her frame. At least you’ve figured that out. I’ll give you my(48) perspective as a guy that recently divorced his Ex(52) after 20+yrs together. Your wife sounds like my Ex, but it’s you that is making your own life hell. Because you are so clueless and you are not even close to a high value man, you’ve got quite a few months in front of you before you’ll even have the tools to make a decent life decision. But I will share a Spoiler Alert: if you’re marriage has be…
/r/askMRP09/01/20 09:38 PM
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You’re struggling with basics here. In life there will be times he is not around you and he will make his own decisions. Your only responsibility is to educate him with the financial principles you want and then show him how they regularly play out in life. I started doing this with my kids (to varying degrees) before my divorce and have continued now that they are 16/13. Their Mom is a mess and terrible with money. So I talk with them regularly about money; how it works, how you earn/spend, and…
/r/askMRP09/01/20 09:15 PM
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A funny thing happens when you take responsibility for your own actions. It’s the first step of manhood. Now try not to fuck up the next steps.
/r/askMRP09/01/20 03:52 AM
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It’s code for a few situations that are generally avoidable. 1.married the wrong person from the start and of course could never build a functional relationship. 2.one person let themselves get so physically unattractive (fat or drugs or ??). 3.after a few years, a few kids, a few financial hardships, you realize the person you’re with has a completely different life view than you do and that you’ll always be arguing with them or frustrated with their decisions (closely related to Number 1). Don…
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/20 03:43 AM
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Not your circus, not your monkeys.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/20 12:15 AM
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Are you one of those guys whose wife says she doesn’t want to be married to him so you do everything you can to convince her to stay? Pathetic. You have a divorce attorney for divorce. I sure hope your attorney isn’t helping you do stupid things s so you can stay married.
/r/askMRP05/01/20 12:09 AM
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You are putting yourself into these terrible positions. You are your own greatest liability at this point. How is it that you can be successful in work but not life? Staying for the kids only trains your kids exactly how to pick the best partner and life. They see EVERYTHING between you and your wife and they are learning. You married the wrong woman because she was Hot. How’s that working out for you? Why are you trying to make a marriage work with the wrong woman ? Here is the one question to …
/r/askMRP05/01/20 12:07 AM
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Lose the ego and start being fun and witty and learn how to take a joke. Meet with Divorce attorney to study up on how fucked you’ll be with divorce. Then make an 18mo plan to become a better man and if she’s the one that you want at the end, then great. But start paying down debt and getting cash off the books now. The Stay Plan is the same as The Go Plan.
/r/askMRP04/01/20 10:59 PM
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The issue is that debt incurred during the marriage is shared debt - whether he knows about it or not.
/r/askMRP16/12/19 09:51 PM
5

Has to be a joke. OP, can you ask your wife if you get both balls back after she divorce takes you or if you’ll only get one ball?
/r/askMRP10/12/19 10:50 PM
1

You didn’t differentiate between shared parenting time VS shared legal custody.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/19 06:21 AM
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Wrong sub for looking for a hug friend. It’s time to do some real work. There’s a sidebar with a copious amount of information for a lost soul like yourself. Don’t bother posting again until you’ve read it thoroughly and you’re in a position to tell us why you are in this position rather than asking us.
/r/askMRP26/11/19 12:47 AM
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You absolutely CANNOT “get your wife/LTR to work out until other younger, hotter women are approaching or flirting with you while you are in public with your wife. You can also stop placating her when she asks “do these jeans make me look fat?” No babe; eating all those burritos and never doing any working out does that. I’m off onto the gym. Edit: to clarify, the response above would be more apt to my lazy, fat Ex(52). She went to Dread10 and earned a divorce. Now, the response to my HB9 GF(32)…
/r/askMRP24/11/19 06:20 AM
1

Responding to this, not just for you, but for everyone. Just because you have a non-traditional work schedule does t mean you shouldn’t fight for full legal custody. The point I’m making here is, in many states (Oregon for instance) a judge won’t issue shared legal custody without a very strong justification for the simple reason that for major decisions, you can’t have two people arguing. So, you working 12hr shifts doesn’t relate to Legal custody in the same way it relates to Parenting time, o…
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/19 05:52 AM
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Holy wow. Friend, you don’t come vomit here without reading the sidebar. You sound like you are drowning in a kiddie pool This didn’t come out of nowhere. Your wife has been sick of your shit for years and has probably been telling you as much, but you never changed. Now she’s made up he’ll mind to divorce you and you are starting to get an idea of how much of a lazy captain you’ve been. I’d consider this one a loss and move on.
/r/askMRP20/11/19 04:55 AM
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Why on earth did you “fight” for joint/shared decision making w/ a person that cheated on you and argues with you? My(48) Ex(52) is a bi-polar narcissist and extremely argumentative. I pushed for sole custody, 50/50 shared time, and (according to the judge) a clever and thoughtfully thorough Parenting Plan that would remove discussion, collaboration, or agreement unless mutually decides. Everything runs like a machine. Edit: as a reminder, the way you talk makes me think that you are still learn…
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/19 04:37 AM
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You are definitely in the middle of shit town. Now isn’t rally the time to make too many decisions on your life/marriage and that includes the typical BS roadblocks of “I’m staying for the kids”. This is the worst possible place for you to be at your skill level: fat bitchy wife that runs your ass and you barely have the tools to find your own frame. Now you’re realizing that she’s been such a fat bitch for so long you can’t find any redeeming reason to look at her. Totally understandable. I was…
/r/askMRP20/11/19 01:11 AM
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She’s a reflection of you. Barely interested in bondage. Gets bored after being tied up for awhile. That just means you skipped progression and haven’t read her body signals. She’s just not into it in the way that you are into it. Want to have a wife that is into whatever you like? Get better in bed s be a Man if Value.
/r/askMRP19/11/19 04:48 AM
1

For fat people, fasting absolutely is not the answer. They need to keep moderate movement energy and low food quantity with low sugars. Every fat persons I’ve seen that is “struggling” is still eating a massive amount of food.
/r/askMRP19/11/19 04:39 AM
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That’s quitter talk. If you’ve been at or below 10%, then you know. I’ve spent all day running stairs and spitting in order to make weight. You don’t need gear, you just need to eat very little.
/r/askMRP19/11/19 04:36 AM
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You’ll learn the concept of doing what you want to do in time. You’re too deeply invested in her to see it today. But let your guide be your natural instincts. The Stay plan is the same as the Go plan. Find the strength and meaning. But visit a divorce attorney today. Pay the $200 fee for the two hour meeting so you can learn from an expert on what moves you should be making (or not making) today that might pay massive dividends in 12-18mos when you pull the cord. At some point you should decide…
/r/askMRP15/11/19 10:28 PM
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So, if you make around 3600/mo after taxes, that’s roughly $60K. You say your Ex makes around $70K, yet you’re paying almost a grand each month to Her. It just sounds like you weren’t thinking and didn’t look at your incomes and didn’t factor in a budget for single-you.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/19 09:30 PM
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You haven’t really provided complete details. Is $3600 your gross or net? How much does Ex earn? When you made the alimony agreement, was there any consideration for your income/expenses? Just looking at the numbers, to me, it looks like you’re getting “screwed” mainly because your expenses to your Ex and CS is about 55% of your Net and leaves you with about $1600/mo.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/19 06:34 PM
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Well u/johnnyapocalypse pretty much covered the obvious issues. However, I’d reiterate that your focus on “I want sex but I want my wife to want me to do things the way I want her to want them” is just so weird. You don’t like her approach? Her approach isn’t sexy enough for you? I’m not sure what logic you’re operating by where you’re turning her down when she’s trying to suck up her massive disappointment in her husband to consider having sex with you but like some idiot, you’re turning her do…
/r/askMRP14/11/19 05:56 PM
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Lots of missing details here. What state? Is your name the only name on the deed? If she was a stay at home Mommy, you are almost always on the hook for her “standard of living”. This is a major risk for you. A judge could easily award her enough Alimony + Child Support that you’d barely be able to find an apartment to live in. This is only a question for your attorney. If you don’t have one, stop, do not pass Go, do not as more questions on Reddit, get an attorney. Usually the houses need to ge…
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/19 10:57 PM
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What’s best for kids is to see their parents as functioning adults. They will watch everything you and your wife do together. You’ll never fool them that your toxic relationship is actually a good relationship. You will train them that your toxic relationship is a model of a “good” relationship. Now do you think it’s a good idea to stay?
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/19 10:38 PM
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Guys take a pill for acid reflux, headache, high blood pressure, anxiety, but as soon as he wants to take a pill to make his dick hard for all hell breaks loose. Who really cares? This is your confidence journey. If you’re hiding things, that secretive behavior isn’t a good look.
/r/askMRP06/11/19 08:46 PM
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No, a low motivation man is never going to succeed in life let alone make RP work at landing or keeping a high value woman. Those kind of women want a high value man but what would your woman possibly brag to her friends about you? Besides, it sounds like you’re already maxed with your living style and will soon be under water if your lazy but demanding wife isn’t working and your job and low motivation to better yourself are barely covering the bills. It doesn’t even sound like you’ve got enoug…
/r/askMRP05/11/19 05:10 AM
1

Wow brother. Congrats on sobriety! You’ve got a ton of things going at once. Back story plays some part here. Who wants the divorce? Who is driving the “I need time to think”? Are both of you working? Do you have a pre-nup? Which of you has spoken with an attorney? Step one: meet with an attorney to understand the game you’re about to play. This will help your make very smart decisions as you move forward. Don’t waste any energy on formal Separation (or any separation for that matter). What’s th…
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/19 03:34 AM
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The worrying about n-count or her looking at other dudes is insecurity. If you really are a successful business owner, this is just easy proof/confidence in a prenup. The bigger issue is how deeply you were reading into those messages. Who cares? My GF is a HB9 and I don’t care what she’s done before me. Probably some guy w/ a horse cock and another guy with way more money. But today, it’s my turn and she has great behavior, treats me like a king and fucks my brains out. That other shit is a dis…
/r/askMRP05/11/19 03:19 AM
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Sounds like she’s just not into you. Otherwise, if she thought you had any value, she’s probably fuck your brains out. Surely someone is getting to see that side of her?
/r/askMRP02/11/19 04:10 AM
2

You’re talking confidence and skill but it seems like you’ve optimistically measured yourself. Industry girls or whatever you want to call them are everywhere. If you’re “gaming” them while they’re at work, you are already behind EVERY swinging dick in that place. It’s also the last thing they’re thinking of because they’re working. If you’re the guy that games them for their number at work, you come off desperate or lazy.
/r/TheRedPill31/10/19 08:12 PM
0

It was too obvious.
/r/askMRP31/10/19 06:25 AM
2

Look in the mirror and confront the person that out you in this position. Until you fully accept your failures and discontinue making trite statements about the severity of your fuckups you will be stuck here as the Mayor of shit town.
/r/askMRP29/10/19 08:12 PM
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Your relationship will not move forward until you take more control in moving it forward. It always surprises me when I read stories of people “hoping their spouse will come to their senses” when they should really be saying that to the person in the mirror. Try to make it easier on yourself. Have the counselor ask both of you this question that has only two possible answers - agree that you only move forward if the answers are the same: “do you want to stay married - “Hell Yes” or “(any other a…
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/19 08:09 PM
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This is a question for your Lawyer or at least from a lawyer that practices actual Family Law in your state. That aside, there is no reason you can’t split your time at the other residence. You aren’t exactly squatting to protect your Right to ownership, but you should be able to show that you’re actively using the marital home.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/19 12:03 AM
2

This guy fucks
/r/askMRP21/10/19 05:14 AM
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How bad will you get fucked? Fucked so hard you’ll cry. get Mommy working and file in 3yrs. Otherwise you will absolutely be funding her “lifestyle” that she become accustomed.
/r/askMRP21/10/19 05:11 AM
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You don’t live in the same town w/ this girl and you got engaged 3yrs ago?! Also, learn how to get to your point more efficiently or make a TL;DR
/r/askMRP21/10/19 05:10 AM
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OP, sounds like your reference to getting limo has more to do with the fact that you can’t believe you’re fucking someone s is gusting as your wife and less to do with “my dick doesn’t work”? Swallowing TRP doesn’t mean you “save your marriage”. It just means that you think more clearly. Lots of guys wake up out of their blue fog and question was the hell they were thinking. How do you manage to stay enthusiastic for that kind of woman? If you’ve lost all interest in trying to stay w/ her, then …
/r/askMRP21/10/19 05:08 AM
1

If you look at successful athletes, professional salespeople, and sports coaches, they all have deep shades of TRP because they know how to hold themselves accountable and measure against their goals, all while maintaining their frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/19 10:15 PM
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I kind of felt that OP saying “ok, I decided the - no sex” was a cringe-tastic and hilarious reverse psychology moment. It also came off as a but too focused on sex, but there was a ray of brilliance there as well. The whole “sex? Will there be sex? Sex tonight?” Isn’t optimal, but from a sales perspective, he red flagged her until she had no more excuses to give. I’d leave you with this; the risk here is assuming that every time chicks don’t want to fuck that it has something to do with you.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/19 10:11 PM
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I feel it brother. Look at my first post. I gave him the value of feedback “too much rambling, have a point and get to it”. I Didn’t even call him a faggot.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/19 10:03 PM
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Clearly my criticism troubles some, so they take it personally, rather than seeking to understand. When you put yourself out for public view, expect to get public criticism. Don’t complain that you didn’t receive praise. In life, some will follow, others do not. When you can’t take criticism, you show your weakness. I’m just surprised you didn’t move on.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/19 03:56 AM
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I hear ya. I’ve tried to read it a few times. Even the title has no clear point. My suggestion that you might have missed was for OP to have a cogent topic and provide clear examples. If one of my employees came to me with this as a rant, my suggestion would be to take a moment and think of what you’re trying to accomplish and then start with a clear subject to speak from.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/19 12:53 AM
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Your observation is noted. You’d come off less defensive if you weren’t so sensitive.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/19 09:31 PM
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If you didn’t care, you wouldn’t be defensive.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/19 05:34 AM
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Clearly emotional. The rambling isn’t inspiring. Either mount up a cogent point and get to it or stick to Instagram.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/19 05:00 AM
1

Jesus dude. Moving into a new house and you buying a house in your own while your cockroach GF does fuck all are not the same thing. Please tell me you did NOT out this mooch on the title?!! Please don’t be a blue pill faggot.
/r/askMRP17/10/19 04:46 AM
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This is not the post of someone with frame or outcome independence. It’s of a clueless fucktard. You married someone that was cheating on her husband but had to sneak into your parent’s basement?! Talk about making stupid decisions.
/r/askMRP17/10/19 04:43 AM
1

This feeling is incongruous with the claim that you’ve wanted this for months. Look into imposter syndrome and co-dependent relationships.
/r/askMRP17/10/19 04:39 AM
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If you need the sex and validation that badly, then do it. For me, it just clouds your drive to spend any time thinking about a person you’re going to flush out of your life. It also has a high risk of confusing your intent (why am I doing this again?) or delaying your goal. When my(48) divorce began about 6yrs ago, it was the awakening that I’d fucked off and fell asleep at the wheel for about the prior eight years (if you’re doing math, that’s 14yrs ago, or when I was 34). What happened? Well,…
/r/askMRP17/10/19 04:28 AM
1

You’ll have to elaborate on what you mean exactly when you say “can’t use my legs properly for 5 days”. Also, talk about how you stretch before and after lifting and how much water you drink.
/r/askMRP15/10/19 08:52 PM
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One issue is your stamina of a pre-teen. You need to figure out how to control your sensations and control your orgasm. The far majority of women are going to bed with 2-minute men that don’t know how to give her an orgasm. As far as “I want her to have XX type of orgasm” - that is not the goal a guy that can’t fuck for longer than a handful of minutes gets to have. Your goal is “I want to get better in bed so “I “ can have sex for longer. You should be afraid of threesomes at your level. You’ll…
/r/askMRP15/10/19 03:50 PM
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First rule of Fight Club. Do NOT help your wife on her journey. She has to show her own initiative to find her own org; otherwise there is no meaning for her.
/r/askMRP15/10/19 06:33 AM
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Yes you are responsible for half the debt. Angel the add immediately. Download and document the statement for the month you began your divorce as proof of the balance. Get control of your finances. Stop letting her do everything. Open a separate bank account for your direct deposit and force her to wall through the bills with you. Everybody can withdrawal $40, $80, or $200 per week in cash for walking around money. Start doing that religiously and don’t spend it. Certain stores pay cash refunds …
/r/Divorce_Men15/10/19 05:15 AM
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Christ man! Have you read what you wrote?! Cut the citizenship process immediately please. Get a lawyer. And next time, don’t marry a person because you enjoy her company. Find a fucking amazing woman that you don’t need to have, but that you want to have around like you like oxygen.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/19 02:09 AM
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If you aren’t posting your stats it’s because you are a fat faggot. That is at the heart of your issues. Stop being a faggot and stop being fat. Picture the youngest (legal age), hottest woman you interact with why would she want to have sex with you? If you don’t have a solid answer, this is the reason your wife doesn’t want to have sex w/ you. NOTHING you do matters until you are a man women want. However, in the interim, you can start trying r e a l l y hard to remember what it was like to do…
/r/askMRP14/10/19 02:06 AM
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When women talk about “how hard they’ve been working out but they can’t lose the weight” - - that’s just a smokescreen so that Blueboys leave them alone and quit nagging about how overweight they are. If you’ve got a fat depressed wife, you have problems in every area of your relationship, you’re most likely too accustomed to them to realize it. Instead, call her out for making shit up. But you should be at the gym and increasing dread with gym bunnies or attractive non-depressed, non-dependent …
/r/askMRP11/10/19 10:54 PM
2

You’ll have to clarify what being an authorized user means and what you’re afraid of. Is it that you will get stuck with the debt or that you have that much to spend or that you share it with her or that you don’t have your own card? Getting out of a shitty marriage is the best thing in history. It is going to cost you dollars and stress. To make the best of the situation, you’ll HAVE to have cash off the books that you can do whatever you want with. Secure an apartment you can afford that is so…
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/19 10:39 PM
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Congrats. I can sympathize with an emotional abuser that yells and screams when things don’t go their way. About mediation, I HIGHLY recommend that you begin in separate rooms. Don’t even start in the same waiting room. I noticed that my Ex was more unstable in front of the mediator - she had to cross out words she didn’t like in the contract, she couldn’t cope with descriptions like “Parent A” if it would be construed that my designation came before hers. I did enjoy watching her argue with the…
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/19 07:57 PM
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Ask yourself one question: if there are zero changes from your wife, is this the person you ABSOLUTELY, without hesitation, want to spend the rest of your life with? Only you can determine if you have “tried” enough. At the time I finally pulled the trigger on divorce, my(43) Ex(48) was a mean, overweight, no self confidence person that I could no longer stand to be around. I did what I could do for myself and I let her know the marriage wasn’t gonna to last unless she made some specific changes…
/r/Divorce_Men06/10/19 10:51 PM
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Bro, you’re on a 50/50 plan! How hard is your hamster running to make you think worrying out her Mom’s influence” is productive? Be a leader. Set clear rules. Praise performance and personal responsibility. Punish appropriately every time. (Another Dad w/ 50/50 time and a batshit crazy Ex who is always in my son(13) and daughter’s(16) ear)
/r/askMRP05/10/19 02:43 AM
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Is the issue only that you feel like you’re losing a night of time w/ her? Ultimately, you want her developing healthy friendships and demonstrating her responsibility. If you’re more concerned that you’re losing a night of your parenting time, I’d say you might be overly petty or just not coping with her growing up. Go with the flow.
/r/askMRP04/10/19 11:14 PM
1

That story doesn’t really jive with any court system I’ve seen, so either you haven’t provided the full story or you’ve swallowed this story and don’t have the details yourself. Either way, these types of matters are different in every state, so if you’re asking for help from Internet strangers, you’ll want to provide clearer details for which State the divorce was filed, where Ex lives, where husband lives. But in reality all of that will just be useless since this issue is a legal situation an…
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/19 07:09 PM
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Life on your own terms or life with a partner that wants you are really unparalleled if you’re in a low-functioning marriage. Sunrises are more beautiful, air is cleaner, and your kids notice every second that you appreciate life in a greater way.
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/19 06:50 PM
1

Top performance. Sad but true.
/r/askMRP17/09/19 05:39 PM
2

Most of us that are RP don’t fucking care enough to ask about it.
/r/askMRP17/09/19 05:22 AM
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“Red pill aware” is code for “I’m a gay retard that hasn’t done shit”.
/r/askMRP17/09/19 05:21 AM
2

Just from your example, it sounds like you’re reporting to her. That’s more likely the issue.
/r/askMRP16/09/19 10:35 PM
2

Who lets kids have a television or internet laptop in their own room? Terrible idea. You sound but hurt about your wife’s comments, so it sounds like you’ve got more of a problem here than you’re admitting. You missed a prime opportunity to ignore her idle chatter and play w/ your wife. “Eating cookies out of the box again?! Off to your room for a spanking!”
/r/askMRP13/09/19 12:06 AM
2

You are still negotiating with her and I bet you are even presenting your ideas as options for her approval. Christ, can you at least picture what a relationship looks like where one person is in charge?
/r/askMRP09/09/19 05:47 AM
3

Sidebar: that reminds me of a concert I went to decades ago. All my guy friends were against it. It was the first big tour for Alannis Morissette in the 90’s. It was like a pussy fest! Amazing talent. Don’t write off a good thing.
/r/askMRP09/09/19 05:45 AM
1

You sound like you don’t know what you’re doing. Having the element of surprise is fantastic. You are totally unprepared for divorce until you spend two hours with a divorce attorney and learn what you’re getting into. My suggestion (after you talk w/ an attorney) is to spend 12mos straightening your finances, reducing debt, getting cash off the books, and getting her back to work in a real job. Might be a good time for you to get a car that you want and can have paid off quickly.
/r/askMRP04/09/19 09:33 PM
1

What state do they have jury trials? I’ve never heard of that in family law.
/r/askMRP04/09/19 09:29 PM
2

Please edit your post to get rid of that faggot phrase “RP aware” and substitute “faggot BetaBucks”. You are a clueless drunk captain that couldn’t find his way out of a paper bag and would be embarrassing to explain to people that you have such a low mastery even though you’ve been “aware” for 4yrs. I can’t say you made the wrong decision by nuking your marriage, but you don’t express any command of what to do or how to find frame. So now you’ve nuked your marriage to an otherwise attractive an…
/r/askMRP04/09/19 09:09 PM
1

Still can’t get past that you were on a date with a “HB6.5”.
/r/askTRP04/09/19 08:41 PM
2

So you’re basically asking what’s the minimum threshold of effort and skill required to be in the top 20%? I’d guess not worrying about how little effort you need to put in to get there is a start. Also understanding that the answer will be different based on geography, age, social setting, etc The top 20/100 at work? Probably pretty easy. The top 20/100 at a concert or when you’re wakeboarding at the lake on a given weekend? Considerably more difficult. The top 20/100 of 45yr olds? Pretty damn …
/r/askTRP04/09/19 08:33 PM
1

No, she gave you a dose of reality and the truth hurts your fragile ego and soft hands. You sound like you’ve got no reason to continue if your business isn’t making any money and you need your girl’s validation. How much does she earn? Saying top 5% could mean $75K? And what’s your business and why do you think you’re going to earn anywhere your GF’s income level? The bigger issue is that you haven’t been making money for 5mos but you guys are still eating dinners on the town and doing weekend …
/r/askMRP04/09/19 08:17 PM
1

Wow, you fucked yourself good. You are in the absolute WORST position for a divorce that needs to happen; or shall I say the most expensive. You’ve rewarded shitty behavior with the crown prize of SAHM. The courts will want to make sure she maintains her elaborate lifestyle at the cost to you. You still have no cock or balls, so she has no reason to get a job. You also want her family to have no influence on your kids?! LOL. Good luck with that. Best advice is to start being a man and not a litt…
/r/askMRP04/09/19 08:07 PM
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You sound weak for even giving a shit. Just focus on Nexting her and making sure you are properly strategizing your exit. Otherwise you could sound like a beta cuckold faggot for caring about what she’s doing.
/r/askMRP04/09/19 06:50 PM
0

Don’t bother talking to anyone until you have a frame and a mission. Your girl just sees you as the faggot you are.
/r/askMRP17/08/19 12:11 AM
2

All you can do at this point is work on yourself. You were a poor captain for most of your relationship and waited until she finally got the balls to tell you that she was finished with you before you woke up. There’s no saving this marriage because it wasn’t a good marriage. So let it go. The ONLY thing you can do is work on yourself to finally be the best man you’re capable of being. A Man of Value that women are attracted to. Your current wife might be one of those women, but you’ve got so ma…
/r/askMRP15/08/19 04:04 PM
1

You need to stand up and make a decision on what you want. You aren’t acting like a man that instills masculine traits in young men if you can’t decide to take a break from this activity. I coached my kids in sports for about 5yrs. Between soccer, wrestling, baseball, I was either the head coach or a heavily involved Assistant. It helped me practice leadership skills and helped me identify some areas I wanted to grow personally. I was absolutely passionate about coaching and developing these you…
/r/askMRP09/08/19 04:49 PM
2

You are playing yourself so well, your low value wife doesn’t even need to put in the effort. You have two choices only: stay in your shitty relationship and train your precious child exactly what to strive for with their PERFECT relationship - OR - you leave your shitty relationship and establish yourself on your own and demonstrate how to take control of your life without letting some low value shitty person ruin it.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/19 01:47 AM
1

You’ve got far less confidence than you might think. You can’t control what your STBX does. You are being passive. Things are happening TO you as if you are a passenger. It’s time to be the captain and make the decisions. I get that you don’t want a divorce. My question is why do you want to stay married to a low value woman? Your life is gong to change. You’ll see your kid less. You’ll spend more in legal fees. You’ll sell your house. You’ll start your life over. But THIS time you’ll do it on y…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/19 11:11 PM
1

Close your eyes and think about what you want to do. Next, open your eyes and then do what you wanted to do. Just stop living in your wife’s frame. It’s embarrassing.
/r/askMRP02/08/19 05:03 AM
1

Sure, there are plenty of women that make a comment that sticks in your brain like a seed until it grows. They aren’t telling you to do something or. Aching, it’s just a simple comment. I had a younger girl make that type of comment to me about 6yrs ago. I was making dinner for my wife and her. She was a very attractive and classy girl;. She made the comment when my wife left the room. Something about appreciating a capable man handling dinner and knowing how to please two women. Yada, yada, yad…
/r/askMRP02/08/19 05:01 AM
9

Comfort tests = she says “I” or “me” Family dynamic + sister dynamic + her Mom dynamic + kids = shit show of emotions. Just be the oak. Plan some time to get a very nice dinner away from everyone.
/r/askMRP02/08/19 04:53 AM
1

These are decisions you can make today. “Waiting to see” isn’t exactly taking the bull by the horns. Show some initiative.
/r/askMRP23/07/19 02:27 AM
1

All signs point to you needing to wake up and you understand that - that’s good. That said, you’ll be in for a rough ride because it sounds like you made a terrible wife decision in the first place so you very well might be extremely disappointed w/ the end result
/r/askMRP19/07/19 09:04 PM
4

You don’t reason with a woman. Don’t listen to what she says; watch what she does. FYI you should start her back to work.
/r/askMRP18/07/19 09:31 PM
2

There isn’t much women enjoy more than orgasms. Why would a woman want ONE organs and then quit? Because she’s faking it and the duty sex is finished. My girl has somewhere between 2-3 before PIV sex. Then maybe 2-10 more. None of this is for your marriage. It’s all about fixing your autism first. Until then, nothing positive will happen. It’s almost like you’re not even trying. A person that has done all that reading would certainly be seeing some success by now.
/r/askMRP18/07/19 03:02 AM
2

So how do you do it then; getting her turned on? Do women want to fuck you? Are women curious to get a chance to fuck you? Are women talking about how good you fuck when you leave the room? How many orgasms does your girl have each time you have sex? be honest when you answer.
/r/askMRP16/07/19 09:12 PM
2

It’s because you are not someone she wants to fuck or she thinks you aren’t worthy of fucking her. There’s a serious issue if you e been “owning your shit for a FEW YEARS” but still getting hard No. either you are a pussy and don’t know it or she isn’t into you. Or you’re totally unskilled at getting her turned on and interested in fucking you. Regardless, this is all in you.
/r/askMRP16/07/19 08:43 PM
3

I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve been so tired from the day that I’m dozing off while we’re on the couch watching a show. It might even be close to midnight when we go to bed. But when I slide under the covers and she’s naked and pushing back into me I am suddenly very interested in fucking for an hour or two. A few times I’ve gotten up early after that long night and we fuck again. Depends on the relationship you establish. My GF and I sleep naked. Period. If she’s wearing a thong when…
/r/askMRP16/07/19 04:25 AM
4

Research “drunk captain “ and that applies to you. Figure out the kind of man you want to be and then begin that journey. Nothing else will change until you are who you want to be.
/r/askMRP16/07/19 04:22 AM
1

Every word you say to your spouse / SO will leave a mark. The kind of words you use determine your relationship health. Without assessing blame, this sort is situation happens when one person says “well, I knew I needed to make the changes my spouse asked, but I didn’t realize it was this bad”. It just reflects a person that wasn’t present enough to observe the pain, frustration, or anger from their partner. Going to counseling now because you’re afraid is a waste. You can’t wait until he’s gone…
/r/RedPillWives15/07/19 10:01 PM
1

Technical recruiter here. Drop the contract job for a perm offer if the new company is good. They’re looking for a reference, just give them a peer your trust or a former boss. Reiterate they cannot contact anyone else at your contracting company or the site you’re working.
/r/askMRP29/06/19 02:17 AM
1

Is morning sex not an obvious option?
/r/askMRP29/06/19 02:05 AM
2

Women want you to be a man she can follow. Yup. End thread right there.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/19 05:42 AM
1

Jesus dude. I couldn’t finish reading it. This is a dumpster fire because you aren’t in control of the money and are clueless as to how that might work. The way you talk about your expenses sounds like s person that is rich-broke. The divorce court judge is going to have you paying some ridiculous monthly alimony unless you get her working and close her off from your money.
/r/askMRP16/06/19 05:23 AM
1

You can’t motivate someone to want to do something if they don’t want to. You slowly keep adding dread until either she breaks and comes into line or you break and pull the divorce cord.
/r/askMRP15/06/19 10:15 PM
3

I divorced one like this. I also see a lot of “she, her” in your post. What are YOU doing? It all comes down to this: are you satisfied with your progress and your current status? If you are, then stop trying to fix her or change your actions to reduce her volcanic eruptions. Volcano gonna do what Volcanoes do. Is she high value and who you want to spend the next 30yrs with? If not, pull the cord on the relationship sooner than later. My Ex was terrible like this. Yelling and screaming whenever …
/r/askMRP13/06/19 10:56 PM
1

Solid. I agree w/ that assessment.
/r/askMRP08/06/19 02:07 AM
1

That makes better sense. Thanks
/r/askMRP07/06/19 11:10 PM
5

Been there, done that. Fun while it lasts, but that lifestyle gets old. I did enjoy going out for drinks w/ both and watching people try to figure out which one I was fucking. The biggest issue becomes scheduling. Career, kids, and man time all limit exposure. Pretty easy to hunt for fresh blood pit on the town as a team though. That’s good times. At one point I was using an app to track both their cycles to help w/ scheduling.
/r/askMRP07/06/19 11:08 PM
1

Yeah, if you’re this clueless, you are too deep in the fog. she’s already lost her respect for you. It takes far longer to earn it than it does to lose it. Start by figuring out what things would you do if you were alone, with no obligations, how would you spend your time if you can’t think of anything, that’s just an indicator of how far you’ll need to travel to unfuck yourself.
/r/askMRP06/06/19 05:24 PM
2

You can do one thing. Be the best version of you. You cannot do the other thing - force your wife to want to fuck you. Your marriage is toast so at least go to an attorney and figure out how to plan and strategize for the best possible outcome.
/r/askMRP01/06/19 03:03 AM
3

Do you think there’s a correlation between not having any Red Pill awareness and your ability to goose a high value woman?
/r/askMRP01/06/19 02:59 AM
1

Everyone is similar when they’re afraid to do the work. Stop making excuses and own your incompetence. If your LTR is a total bitch and even says rude or mean things to you...so what? You’ll need a set of balls. You didn’t unplug 3yrs ago and you haven’t swallowed the red pill. You haven’t even laced up your shoes. Your disgusted with yourself and it’s killing you. But until YOU do something about it, no amount of reading will get it done.
/r/askMRP29/05/19 07:16 AM
2

Wow. You sound clueless. The primary reason marriage so young is an issue is that you have little time to understand how to choose a high quality woman. You also have little time to enjoy multiple types of women or learn to develop frame. Just hg the way you talk it sounds like you are already struggling with basic concepts. For instance, who cares what other people think about you?
/r/askMRP28/05/19 09:36 PM
2

RedPill = Sales = RedPill If you can put your personal energy into exuding genuine enthusiasm across the board w/ your interactions, EVERYONE will notice. They will begin to pace YOU. Women love this energy. Also, the point about controlling topic creep is a great one. You must learn to be comfortable stopping and re-directing the conversation back to where you want it to go.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/05/19 07:49 PM
5

The purpose is to identify the thing(s) that YOU feel make you a high value man. Generally you do that by envisioning what things would you be doing if you weren’t worrying about your relationship or getting enough pussy. Sometimes it’s financial reward from your career (I can’t take that promotion because Wife wouldn’t want to relocate) or from your hobby that you could turn into your career (people always want to pay me to take photos and I’d like it to be my business, but Wife does t want me …
/r/askMRP23/05/19 08:25 PM
3

So your girl goes out w/ a girlfriend and they act like gays? Was it for more attention and free drinks or are you just a jealous bitch? Then your girl comes home and fucks you”into the wee hours of the morning” - so you fucked for 10mins or 3hrs? But apparently it was “shitty sex”? Like how? Without any of these questions answered, it just seems like your an autistic dumbass.
/r/askMRP17/05/19 01:17 AM
5

That “annoyance” you get is from looking in the mirror (your woman) and seeing how much of a pussy you are. Have you read the sidebar?
/r/askMRP13/05/19 07:54 PM
2

A bigger concern is that you’ve been with one woman for half your life.
/r/askMRP13/05/19 03:28 AM
2

At least sack up and read/apply some of the material before posting this drivel. Why would you even let her continue for more than a few words of her diatribe. YOU are the one encouraging her to act like this because you have no frame, no boundaries, no MAP, and no balls.
/r/askMRP09/05/19 07:49 PM
3

Honestly, it’s a real favor that your replies are so comprehensive. Otherwise it would be taxing to highlight the layers of faggotry in this one.
/r/askMRP09/05/19 07:46 PM
1

Ive been w/ plenty of chicks that will mention something about anal during a non-sexual time. Usually that they aren’t into it. But then I put them through anal training by connecting her orgasms to me touching or penetrating her ass and suddenly they’re asking for it. I’ll even use reverse psychology and tell them “nah, not tonight. You’re not ready for it anyway”
/r/askMRP02/05/19 04:42 AM
2

It’s not about what to say, it’s about why you’re in this situation in the first place. Time for this one to move out. Tell her it isn’t working out and tell her you want her gone. Obviously she isn’t paying you any rent. You did not choose the woman wisely and your attempts to fix it and make her better will fail because you can’t figure out your frame. You won’t move into a respectful relationship because you aren’t giving her a reason to respect you.
/r/askMRP22/04/19 05:02 PM
1

Are you asking besides the lying, low ethics, low morals aspects? Can’t tell if you’re autistic or just taking some kind of injections.
/r/askMRP20/04/19 02:12 PM
1

Exactly. This Piker is a waste of time and energy.
/r/askMRP19/04/19 09:28 PM
2

You sound like a mess. Married 2yrs and your girl is already putting you on the side piece program. This is a trap mainly because you sound so weak. Your relation shouldn’t have any dread or work to be done if it can live through threesomes. Just wait, you’ll get to pound a fatty or two and then your GF will mysteriously meet a couple that “looks fun” and she’ll stoically accept the fucking the other dude is going to lay on her. Why did I get out of a marriage with regular threesomes and daily s…
/r/askMRP19/04/19 09:18 PM
1

Cheating is weak ass behavior. Regardless of the scenario, no woman I’m with is having sex w/ another dude. Even when my Ex and I were regularly picking up younger single girls for threesomes, i had a rule about no dudes.
/r/askMRP19/04/19 08:40 PM
3

No one in your household views you as a leader by the way. Sadly, you woke up from your slumber at the time when you are already losing influence with her. The time for you to develop a trusting relationship where she can actively seek your counsel is out the window. Add to that, you’ve been modeling a terrible relationship for her to use as a blueprint for her own life. Your only option is to develop a frame and actually use it. Your relationship w/ your STBX is done. But there might be hope fo…
/r/askMRP19/04/19 08:33 PM
3

See a lawyer so you understand your boundaries. Your life today is the life you fostered and encouraged because you lack frame and leadership. Your wife has no reason to want o change because you are weak. IANAL - Domestic abuse will fall in you, much easier than her. So file a police report today. Talk w/ your local precinct and talk about options and guidance. Start getting some video of her flipping out on you. Never touch her. Leave the area. Meet with your priest or pastor and talk about yo…
/r/askMRP18/04/19 01:05 AM
2

If you’re asking a question as basic as “how can I get frame?” then you haven’t done shit about reading the sidebar and owning the monstrosity of your beta nature.
/r/askMRP16/04/19 04:47 AM
2

Hey brother, you are in a rough place right now, but let’s be clear: “in no way are you Alpha anything unless it’s alpha fuck up”.
/r/askMRP16/04/19 04:44 AM
2

It’s the dumbest love you can make. See you start out thinking you can fuck this side piece because you’re not getting fucked at home. You are justified. But then your wife finds out and Divorce rapes you because you fucked up. Don’t be that guy. Also, don’t be the guy that thinks he’s tried “everything” to take back control in the marriage but since you can’t, you’ll just puss out and fuck a few skanks until you get caught. Have some honor, plan your exit, stash some cash, and divorce your wife…
/r/askMRP09/04/19 09:43 PM
1

I just can’t respect a person who lets their wife talk to them like that. The only people that might do it are adversaries. Not people I go screw later. Your issue is frame and respect. Missing one. Haven’t earned the other. If you let your wife talk to you like this, I can only imagine what your kids are like. I’d suggest you leave, but you’re lost with her and you’d be lost without her. You haven’t earned the right to leave her because you haven’t learned how to MRP.
/r/askMRP07/04/19 12:37 AM
2

Just end it. Terrible when people start relationships when they are HS teenagers and they are still with that person in their 20’s. You’re clueless about women. Sounds like you don’t even trust your girl for some reason you give a shit about her phone. End it already. Nothing to salvage here, except this might be the last time you’ll get to easily bang 19yr olds for quite awhile, if ever.
/r/askMRP07/04/19 12:28 AM
1

Anyone that says “that is not how you talk to me, I am your partner” is so far out of the race, they haven’t even laced up their shoes yet.
/r/askMRP07/04/19 12:22 AM
1

Even better is when they intro with “I used to be Alpha..”
/r/askMRP07/04/19 12:13 AM
1

Can we flag this post as Autistic?
/r/askMRP07/04/19 12:10 AM
1

Morning says creeper to hot chicks than a mid-40’s guy in a peeler bar. Strip clubs are lame. Strippers are cold savage. They’ll have you pegged as a loser that isn’t getting fucked (by anyone) before you find your seat. You won’t find relief with strippers because you need relief from your faggotry. ALSO - can you clarify - did you have your vagina removed with the “gyno surgery”? If your wife had surgery, you might need to figure out what in the hell it was, because at your age and hers, she’s…
/r/askMRP07/04/19 12:08 AM
1

u/SBII doing the heavy lifting on this one. Solid capture here brother your work is done.
/r/askMRP07/04/19 12:01 AM
1

You’re asking about rejection when your cow wife is 250lbs?! What in the actual fuck? Why would you have sex with that?! You have let this relationship slide to the manure field it is today. Pulling the rip cord might be one of those fantasies you have (I had my own fat guppy that I dumped, so I get it), but you don’t have the stones to be driving the bus right now. Just for perspective, my SMV is an 8. I’m 6’0 and your wife has me by a solid 50lbs. My GF is 123lbs at 5’5”. Her SMV is a solid 9.…
/r/askMRP06/04/19 11:58 PM
2

You still sound conflicted and weak. Your description of her is not good for your long-term outcome on this area. YOU have trained her by being a drunk Captain. Sounds like you need a reset to a new training regimen. You’ll have to do the heavy lifting and lead by example. Just get past the mindset of “asking her” to do something. Give direction with outcome guidance; be clear not bossy. As a captain you need to give directions that are followed. Your first mate needs to want to follow. But deli…
/r/askMRP06/04/19 11:45 PM
1

I set up this situation w/ my(48) girlfriend(33). We both sleep without any clothes. Given the simplicity of the first situation, I naturally assume that any time she sleeps in my bed naked, she is interested in sex. Makes initiating sex a lot clearer. Occasionally she gets in bed w/ underwear on and when I roll over to pull her close I’ll tease her “what is this crap? “ She literally days “oops, sorry” and giggles as she gets takes them off to be naked. It’s all in how you set it up. Now someti…
/r/askMRP06/04/19 11:35 PM
5

men who don’t have the time. This is a major issue in social and the professional world. Too many people slipping into the “I’m just so busy” mode as if that justifies anything. Don’t be “so busy”; be getting your shit handled. Maybe I’m old, but when I was growing up through the sales ranks, the Top dogs only stayed at work past lunchtime on Friday if THEY wanted to. Otherwise they were done for the week or already golfing.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/04/19 05:55 PM
2

All of the failures that come in here with so many “Alpha qualities”. Probably best to avoid that phrase if your record for holding frame is a handful of days.
/r/askMRP31/03/19 05:13 AM
1

Women only have sex with men that thru are attracted to.
/r/askMRP30/03/19 04:52 AM
5

Top level savage truth
/r/askMRP28/03/19 09:13 PM
4

Savage.
/r/askMRP28/03/19 09:11 PM
5

You don’t realize how pathetic you are. Not only are you so terrible in bed that your willing wife is less and less willing, but you’re starting to grow that crippling jealousy that “I’ve missed out on great sex and my wife dicked a bunch of Chads; therefore I should get that treatment also” Also, lots of chicks or been with are not into anal sex ... until they start having sex with me. Then, magically, they are totally open to it. Why is that? I’m great at sex and they know when they have six w…
/r/askMRP28/03/19 09:10 PM
1

On a scale of1 to 10, how Autistic are you? It sounds like you’ve got no frame, no vision, no control. Even “your” girl is not invested enough to keep up the charade.
/r/askMRP28/03/19 02:30 AM
19

I(47) had a version of your life for about 10yrs if marriage. My Ex(now 52) was constantly gaining weight (and so many years of failing), but there was always sex on tap and then we started picking up younger single girls for threesomes. So I get the whole “I like my wife and it’s safe staying, but she isn’t sexy and doesn’t turn me on” component. I’ll come out and say it; you’re a cheater and cheating is weak. It doesn’t mean you have frame and worse you lack control. You also don’t really like…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/03/19 04:59 PM
20

What’s the First Rule of Fight Club?
/r/askMRP16/03/19 01:57 AM
3

How did you find a guideline for daily doses of those supplements?
/r/askMRP05/03/19 09:32 PM
2

When InSay No I Feel Guilty. Too often, rookies like you confuse answering with your intention and getting agreement from the other party that your answer is acceptable. “I don’t care that you want me to be on call 24/7 and $10K raise wouldn’t be enough money.” “ That sounds like your problem that you fabricated a story for your boss about me agreeing to be on call 24/7”
/r/askMRP01/03/19 08:39 PM
1

Agree. When the woman I’m with starts this shut, it’s time for immediate shut down. Close up shop.
/r/askMRP27/02/19 08:07 PM
1

I’d also add, that while removing ourself from the situation is actually a valid strategy, that’s supposed to be limited occurrences. If leaving the house or her becomes normal, it’s a major issue.
/r/askMRP27/02/19 08:06 PM
1

“Trying to like her” is not your purpose. YOU are your purpose. Today, you sound like a drunk Captain. What have you been doing in Two Years?!How are you bettering yourself? You need to have some kind of goal that you’ll have positive changes in the next 12-18mos so that either your wife cleans her act up or you have your pick of other high SMV women. It’s far too early in your journey to let you off the hook easy, however, I will tell you that not every course can be corrected. Too much of your…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/19 01:07 AM
1

Looking at it from your comment, I can see that. I meant it more from developing his purpose (natural attraction from wife and other women), being a fun person that is accomplishing things irrespective of her influence (she wants to be on the exciting train before she needs to change her behavior).
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/19 01:04 AM
1

No indication of your age or if you guys have kids and those are relevant details. That being said, you sound inexperienced; especially asking a question about how you should view your SO. The answer is simple : Today you view her as a boulder that the twig (you) can’t move; in other words you are in her frame. Reality is, if you were floating in a river, the boulder would be insignificant. Her frame doesn’t matter. Also, what are you doing to draw her to you? How excited to see you is she? What…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/19 08:27 PM
1

You’re close, but still missing the point. There will also always be entry-level, low skill jobs. Those jobs just won’t be the same ones we had in 2004. People will actually need to do different, learnable, basic skills. There will be no revolution of unemployed people that successfully demand higher wages. Liberal fallacy fantasy.
/r/askMRP24/02/19 04:32 AM
1

Are you not able to see HB8+ chicks in your normal course of the week? Daygame was always best for me. You see chicks everywhere. Just approach with some form of purpose.
/r/askTRP24/02/19 03:22 AM
2

This might just be a solid copy/pasta post before mods lock newbie threads. You outline what I was thinking from reading the first paragraph. It was as if this faggot thought this was r/askreddit.
/r/askMRP24/02/19 03:16 AM
8

You’ve likely misplaced your self-loathing with an opportunity to blame her for your overall (newfound) insecurity at how much of a drunk captain you e been.
/r/askMRP24/02/19 03:02 AM
1

Not all women like it when strangers grab them like that. You already noticed she was only slightly of responding to you and putting your arm over her like this was overcommitting too soon. But if you’re fine with it, keep doing this with every women you’ve only known for a few hours.
/r/askTRP21/02/19 04:50 PM
1

Surprisingly, if you want to build a relationship with an actual high value, nice girl, you need to. It fuck other woman and you actually need to not be a self-centered cock. What you do need to do if you want a high value woman in a relationship is pretend like you need to do things that invest you into the relationship AS LONG AS IT DON’T MAKE YOU COMPROMISE YOURSELF.
/r/askMRP20/02/19 05:47 AM
1

valid #verbose #guilty
/r/askMRP20/02/19 05:32 AM
3

Your second answer was actually more accurate. She’s not leaving you for a woman, so they aren’t competition. I(47) Had lots of threesomes w/ my Ex(52) when I was in my lat 30’s. Had regular girls, scheduled girls, and even picked up some girls in the wild. It was always fine because it was something WE wanted from them. We were landing some great talent for us to play with and then be done with. Unicorns is the word, but these girls we started picking up in the wild were like pre-Unicorns. A fe…
/r/askMRP19/02/19 06:09 AM
1

I love the casual lead in with “here’s the totally logical reason I was scoping my girl’s text messages. It’s legit” My dude. Your girl is going to a ChadFit gym and there’s messages with some trainer guy?! Unbelievable!! Autism isn’t a reason for having zero frame.
/r/askMRP19/02/19 05:55 AM
1

Oh, I’m liking u/sorcererking #peopletowatch
/r/askMRP19/02/19 05:52 AM
1

Automation and A-fucking-I?! Stop your mental masturbation. Machines are not coming for our jobs. Automaton is for burger flippers. AI is grunt work analysis with visualized results. When I say “our” I mean myself and others that can think and make high performance decisions. I’m(47) divorced with two kids; 12 & 15. Peak SMV. Earn a bit over $130K. Technical recruiter. I’ve been the head coach for my kid’s sports team about 12 teams now. I know how to lead and they know what a leader looks like …
/r/askMRP19/02/19 05:47 AM
17

Yeah. You’re a tweener. Not ready for MRP; not ready for divorce. You aren’t prepared for shit. Step1 - see a divorce attorney. Learn about what you’re up against with the law. Step2 - get Mommy working. You didn’t mention it, but I assume you’re such a NG that she does t have to work for money. Vacation is over. Now. Step3 - MRP. You’ve got to work on yourself. You sound like a mess. You think you’re aware, but you’re not. You’ve just recognized the wreckage of your marriage and you’re almost r…
/r/askMRP19/02/19 05:05 AM
3

This guy gets it.
/r/askMRP19/02/19 04:55 AM
1

No details about your relationship (ages, length of marriage, age of kids, etc) ? You think we’re mindreaders on where you’re at in your journey? Sounds like you are inside your wife’s frame if you can’t handle this type of test. It also sounds like there’s more going on w/ your relationship than you getting injured. Work on acting like a leader. Work on cleaning up your ship.
/r/askMRP19/02/19 12:36 AM
1

It’s not necessarily the leaving that you need to figure out; it’s the relationship they had when Mom was there.
/r/askMRP18/02/19 11:56 PM
2

This vomit is better suited to r/askmrp. That being said, you were a pussy, let your marriage spiral far out of control and you encouraged and trained your wife how life could be. Now, you’ve had an epiphany that “gee, it turns out I want to have sexy with the person I’m with. I even want to spend time with my wife”. Since you still couldn’t control your marriage, you took part in all this lying/deviant behavior to give yourself the good fix. And surprise surprise, you’ve found some girl that yo…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/02/19 09:53 PM
6

Thanks. I didn’t have the energy to write all of that. What a faggot.
/r/askMRP10/02/19 08:15 AM
0

Maybe some guys are in to mediocre chicks. There are plenty of High SMV girls that aren’t drama queens that are great in LTRs. The real difference is that a RP man knows how to manage or mitigate the way women act. If you see a guy with a homely chick, he either has low confidence, low social skills, or he married for money.
/r/askTRP10/02/19 04:47 AM
1

I don’t want any part of it. If you’re so nervous or jealous or weak that you give a fuck what she’s doing or who she’s texting, you are hopeless.
/r/askMRP05/02/19 10:30 PM
10

I love how you’re so confident “I didn’t fuck it up or anything”. Clearly you nailed it.
/r/askTRP01/02/19 08:48 PM
4

Nothing screams SMV more than paying for sex from hopeless sex workers. I bet they told you that you’re their favorite.
/r/askMRP01/02/19 07:17 PM
0

That’s life in a split family. You haven’t even scratched the surface; wait until you meet a professional chick that’s a high performer at work or a Doctor. Then you’ll see how much effort scheduling requires. It gets pretty easy once you get to the mental place where you aren’t interested in plates. You’ll still find plates while you’re looking for an LTR, but, but it becomes very clear how to sort through we. That are a waste of time. Much easier to identify and pursue the high value one’s wit…
/r/askMRP30/01/19 11:49 PM
3

Are you meaning to say he’s self-deprecating? I thought self-referential was utilizing yourself as the example and main character too frequently.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/19 11:44 PM
1

Not if you know what you’re doing with your tongue. If you can give her so many orgasms with your tongue that she can’t think; who is in control at that point? But if you need to ask her if she came or if it feels good, you don’t know what you’re down there.
/r/askTRP25/01/19 04:33 AM
1

By “dating Muslims” are you talking about the migrant gang rapes? Because generally a very small percentage of high quality women are dating any immigrants unless they immigrated in a yacht and brought their Maserati and Ferrari.
/r/askTRP23/01/19 05:23 AM
2

Just use it as a perfect example of what NOT to do. A reminder of how you won’t allow people to treat you.
/r/askTRP23/01/19 04:06 AM
4

Do you know how we know you’re gay?
/r/askTRP23/01/19 04:04 AM
-3

You sound like you Iack frame. That “old school” mentality is something you don’t understand - real world experience. If they say you haven’t done something well enough, then confirm where you need to do better and thank them for their time. The worst thing in these reviews is when the employee is stupid enough to think they rate at 5-stars in every category. News flash! You don’t rate as a 5 in more than one category unless EVERYONE in Executive leadership already told you that you’re killing i…
/r/askTRP20/01/19 05:16 AM
1

Sorry; he definitely did the right thing. I meant to present that you hold your frame and she’ll do what she does.
/r/askMRP04/01/19 05:42 PM
3

Yup. A buddy of mine held this stance. Even went as far as buying wedding invitations to send out. He’s a contractor with his own business and pulls in about $130K. She was a hairdresser or teacher pulling in about $32K. She wanted marriage and her name on the house deed. He was a strong no “I’ve already given half my shit to someone I not like; not doing it again”. Held his frame. So they aren’t together anymore. Had to move her two kids out of the house and all. Edit: a great real world exampl…
/r/askMRP04/01/19 07:24 AM
1

If you walk into a restaurant and tel them you are hungry, what are they supposed to do for you? Not much. You need to internalize what YOU want. It isn’t easy and it’s different with all of us. But you can’t just decide you want your prude, inexperienced wife to be an anal sex slave.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/18 03:02 AM
9

High value Women like manly men. If you imagine women bragging about your gay ass anime bullshit, then knock yourself out.
/r/askTRP28/12/18 02:03 AM
3

Strongly agree. How much time each day do these gamer guys usually spend, “alone”, playing a game? As an OG gamer (back when we went to arcades), I understand the thrill and the longing for these activities. You plan your day and your calendar of activities around then. But while there are benefits, they don’t lead to any form of betterment. At least being on a golf course would allow for a better shot at networking to land a job. When I’m with my GF, we engage in activities, discussion, or inti…
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/18 08:39 PM
1

Yes, lots of masturbation whole thinking of you. I think that’s what powers their Orbiter engine.
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/18 06:58 AM
2

People change only if they see a reason or a benefit. Right now, you are the only person that wants her to change. Giving her a book is a waste of time.
/r/askMRP04/12/18 08:50 PM
2

Sounds like too much mental masturbation. You are your own obstacle by finding reasons you can’t accomplish those same goals on your own.
/r/askMRP04/12/18 08:49 PM
1

You sound like you’re too deep in her frame. Probably best to start actually adopting TRP principles.
/r/askMRP04/12/18 08:15 PM
1

I think you forgot the component where Married RedPill is a man that recognizes he wants to be with (married, exclusive, dating) one woman and recognizes there are compromises to true TRP method. Note: not too many compromises.
/r/askMRP30/11/18 04:21 AM
3

Choosing an arbitrary BF percentage that you want as your goal is just mental masturbation. Many of the people that have done extensive weight loss or weight gain truly understand the trade offs for certain levels. As sick, any scale you use will be “good enough” as long as it’s your primary scale.
/r/askMRP20/11/18 01:04 AM
5

There’s a lot of gold in here, and while there are some strong responses in this thread, I’d say the only thing I’d add to this response to make it perfect is the fact that you have to know how to fuck your woman well. She has to know that she’ll get to orgasm or that you know how to keep her excited. If you’re a guy that isn’t CERTAIN you’re giving your girl the best fuck she’s ever had, you are at risk of this “bait & switch”.
/r/askMRP13/11/18 03:49 AM
1

Nothing about you or your age or your wife’s age of how long you’ve been married. What kind of advice can you expect? Always remember, we only fuck the person that we are attracted to. Are you that person to her? Can you get any woman that’s better today? Or do you have to lose weight and stop being a pussy all the time? Past sexual trauma, or worse; childhood sexual trauma, will always come home to roost with a woman that has never had to A) face her own issues and deal with them B) been shelte…
/r/askMRP31/10/18 08:10 PM
2

You haven’t explained a detailed situation that is an issue, so how could we point out your mistakes? You should lay out a FR and walk the gauntlet. HOWEVER, I can add some general thoughts to a person that writes the post you have. It won’t get better until you look back and realize that you haven’t had so many problems - - it’s early for you. I can tell because you’re so worried about “her” and you aren’t talking about the things you’re doing for you. You know how you can’t manufacture her des…
/r/askMRP25/10/18 07:45 PM
2

Average girls don’t get that many opportunities; so when an opportunity presents, they need to doh lie and triple verify that they aren’t being tricked. Hot chicks get hit on more times before they arrive at work on Monday than average chicks will get hit on all month. It’s fact. The only way to get their attention (beyond the obvious) is to give them something they don’t have or to reduce the friction in their life that makes it logical to be with you.
/r/askTRP19/10/18 12:02 AM
2

So wise for only 15yrs. Obviously you’ve got it covered. Ever met any kids your age that are home schooled? Yeah. Total losers that have no clue about social dynamics. But feel free to learn everything by ha going out at the mall and the pizza joint.
/r/askTRP17/10/18 04:39 AM
-1

Mistake. I can’t think of an online school that’s worth a shit. Are the girls online really hot? Spend much time cold approaching attractive girls online? It’s like you’ve just wasted some of the best years of your life when you can learn about girls and developing social awareness. Terrible.
/r/askTRP17/10/18 04:05 AM
1

You already failed her shit test. She suspected you of being beta and you confirmed it. Next time, loft mote, frame more, get better at sex.
/r/askTRP16/10/18 03:38 AM
1

That’s why it’s easiest for those of us with daughters to treat women like little girls for their shit tests.
/r/askMRP12/10/18 08:29 PM
2

He’s saying you need to be a leader that she wants to follow. Right now you’re all “where should we go to dinner honey?” and she’s thinking “why am I with you?!” You need to be a desirable man; job, physique, talents. Never you need to have a plan and be moving in that direction. She needs to see the place for her AND want to be there. You’ve got none of those things today. Stop worrying about sex. The infrequency or low quality is a symptom of your greater problem.
/r/askMRP08/10/18 03:35 AM
3

The silver lining is that OP exposed which layer of failure his marriage is hovering. She doesn’t respect him. She isn’t motivated by him. She isn’t attracted to him. She thinks he’s replaceable. No woman of value would do make her man out to be a joke in front of her crew.
/r/askMRP08/10/18 03:30 AM
2

Still brutally autistic my dude.
/r/askMRP08/10/18 03:26 AM
1

That is not an admirable trait. It translates into you being awkward or a creeper.
/r/askTRP06/10/18 01:35 AM
3

Remind me why you married up? I urge you to cut the cord right now. Your losses will be minimal and your learning lesson is just beginning. But if you’re sending a text message like that to a skirt that just left you, I don’t think you know what the hell you’re doing.
/r/askMRP03/10/18 09:15 PM
1

You believe the people that get laid. Of course women are sexual; possibly more sexual than men. Put yourself in their shoes for a quick moment and imagine having 8 or 10 orgasms every time how have sex. If that was possible, would you look forward to sex? Fuck yes. That’s why my GF sleeps naked and likes to fuck before bed and when we get up.
/r/askMRP27/09/18 06:15 PM
1

If you think she’s cheating and no longer trust her, then it’s done. The next step is prepare for your divorce properly. It’s not like you need to solve the crime of which fucking app she used to message some Chad. That’s a wasteful distraction.
/r/askMRP27/09/18 06:12 PM
2

Get. The. Fuck. Out. This is not a Main Event because that only happens after Red Pill application. If you had any clue about TRP, you wouldn’t be caught dead asking a woman “what can I do to make you happy?” That’s not to say your marriage isn’t finished, but of course your Frame is nowhere to be found.
/r/askMRP27/09/18 06:03 PM
2

You are a mess. Organize your post with all the information up front. If you aren’t married or have no kids, Jose are major fucking details to omit. You’re also a fatty and it sounds like you have no clue how little you “deserve” based in your laziness and fatness.
/r/askMRP25/09/18 05:43 PM
3

Sounds like you just have no confidence. The past is what it is; history. Get over yourself.
/r/askTRP25/09/18 05:25 PM
16

Yikes! Thats a pickle; having girls recognize you as a person that other girls like to be around. That would probably make more girls be interested in you in sort of a competition to get your attention. Not sure that’s a good idea.
/r/askTRP21/09/18 10:34 PM
2

A reasonable person will make reasonable decisions. It’s more concerning that you’d need to ask here. It’s almost as if you lack frame. Keep in mind: she doesn’t need to agree with your decisions or even like them. But you need to be satisfied with your decisions if you’re to be able to like yourself.
/r/askMRP21/09/18 08:31 PM
5

Who would even want a Porsche 911 turbo? I mean, they can’t carry plywood from Home Depot and only the two of us from the Dungeons & Dragon’s club can drive anywhere. Don’t get me started on the terrible gas mileage or the maintenance costs! Moderation and compromise my Dude. Life is about managing a balance. Understanding there aren’t unicorns just helps to make sure you don’t incorrectly pedestalize your LTR. There’s a time a place for that.
/r/askTRP21/09/18 06:35 PM
14

Worth is relative. I married the wrong woman for the wrong reasons and then stayed with her for 15yrs and two kids. I added MRPl and realized that I was getting great benefits, but she was still atrocious. The realization that you could be stuck with a low-value harpy for the rest of your life is pretty sober. So, I ditched the Ex and ended up with a HB9 that's 15yrs younger. It's amazing how different a relationship can be if you start it with a good woman and you implement RP principles from t…
/r/askMRP20/09/18 07:00 PM
1

If you ready lack the skill of experience and confidence of skill, an 8” cock won’t do anything more than you’re already capable of failing with 6”
/r/askTRP19/09/18 08:25 AM
1

What would that information do for you?
/r/askTRP19/09/18 05:07 AM
4

which part was unclear? The part where you decide when you've put in enough effort or the part where you recognize what you did to contribute to the current level of failure?
/r/askMRP18/09/18 06:01 PM
6

There are a lot of pussies out there that can’t muster up enough confidence to hang with a tall babe. Additionally, because they’re tall, they’ve most likely also been ostracized by their “girlfriends” (jealous bitches). If it were me, I’d make sure she knows you like women in high heels and then make sure you don’t act like a short pussy.
/r/askTRP18/09/18 01:15 AM
2

Came here to point that out as well.
/r/askTRP18/09/18 01:12 AM
4

Your marriage is over when you are confident you’ve put in a worthwhile effort to salvage whatever kind of shitshow you created.
/r/askMRP18/09/18 12:37 AM
2

“I’ve got a great Sports Car. It does everything I need. Except the transmission is failing and I can’t shift into 3rd gear and sometimes can’t shift out of First gear. But it’s a great car” If you are this wound up and excited, it sounds like A) you aren’t as far along in TRP as you think it B) your wife is far lower value than you can admit and your trying too hard to make a failed relationship work. Mostly this happens when you’ve either chosen the wrong person from the beginning or when you …
/r/askMRP16/09/18 07:05 PM
1

If you can’t figure out a way to make time for something that you feel is important to you, how do you think we’re able to help?
/r/askTRP16/09/18 06:19 AM
5

You’re overthinking this. It means they’ll fuck anyone.
/r/askTRP15/09/18 09:37 PM
-1

You only resent women because that’s easier than resenting what a pitiful excuse of the male species you’ve been. Once you stop projecting your self-disgust at women and own your active role if being sub a loser, you’ll start feeling better.
/r/askTRP15/09/18 09:33 PM
1

What are you trying to use this measurement to ascertain? So you have symptoms you are trying to overcome?
/r/askTRP14/09/18 03:50 PM
2

This is a critical point that I’m happy to see highlighted. While you can game hundreds of women and treat them all like hot sluts, and you might get a few that are totally into that for the moment, you need to read your audience and pace the moment if you want higher success rate sooner. You hear guys all the time complaining “my LTR/wife doesn’t suck my cock when I come through the door” and it shows they haven’t evolved to the point where they understand the timing component with women or the…
/r/TheRedPill13/09/18 05:38 PM
13

Terrible. But congrats on picking up English as your second language.
/r/TheRedPill12/09/18 05:55 AM
2

This is funny. She has been very clear that you are below expectations and is contemplating ending the relationship. You continue to be a drunk captain so she ends it. Now you’re thinking you’re in a position to do anything except suck it up and accept your failure?
/r/askMRP08/09/18 05:51 PM
2

It doesn’t sound like you understand how to use the tools yet, so I’m. It sure how you think you’re at D9 but still saying pussy shit like “you know I need sex (except that I haven’t needed it much for the last 4yrs because I haven’t done anything about it)”. Stop waiting for her to wake up. Stop waiting for her to agree with you. Stop waiting for her to do anything. What are you doing about you - that has nothing to do with her or your marriage? More importantly, what are you doing to prepare f…
/r/askMRP06/09/18 08:01 PM
1

Oh I don’t know, maybe stop masturbating ever day?
/r/askTRP05/09/18 11:55 PM
1

Just accept your actions bro. She said think. You acted. It’s like you e got no idea what accountability for your actions s is, so why even worry about shit tests?
/r/askTRP05/09/18 10:40 PM
3

It wouldn’t work for me. Indicates a thought process that you’d always encounter; not just in political discussions.
/r/askTRP05/09/18 10:39 PM
1

Sounds more like you weren’t aware of your surroundings and interrupted the class. It wasn’t a shit test, you lacked accountability for being a twat.
/r/askTRP05/09/18 09:27 PM
1

I feel like you can rationally guess the answer to this question, right?
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 08:44 PM
0

You’re just lazy. It feels just as awesome to all of us that can last longer, yet for some reason you lack the control. Women have nothing good to say about a man that can’t last in bed. Get some focus.
/r/askTRP03/09/18 03:23 AM
1

Solid perspective. I agree that staying out of the bottom 80% makes most of this easy. I don’t need to run faster than a bear; I just need to run faster than the others.
/r/TheRedPill28/08/18 06:55 PM
2

The sting of realizing you landed a post-wall, low value woman with declining sex attraction to you. Honestly, you’d probably see more results if you weren’t so focused on getting sex. You need to go through he hanged before you’ll get the sex.
/r/askMRP23/08/18 04:47 PM
1

You spent a lot of time rambling on without getting to a point. I can’t see that you’re offering up anything, aside from your confusion.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/18 09:12 PM
2

It sounds like you’ve got no clue and haven’t read any of the sidebar. You’ll need to tighten you routine up.
/r/askTRP16/08/18 11:29 PM
6

First, it sounds like you haven’t read the sidebar. Second, you don’t mention lifting. Third, you self-assess your SMV as a “5” - that means you are really limited to girls that are 4 and below. Here’s your issue: you think you are funny and you’re showing off for hot chicks (7+) that are clearly out of your league, when in actuality you are perceived by your target market as an awkward, scrawny, creeper. And to top it all off, you e got a chip on your shoulder that you aren’t getting sex and ev…
/r/askTRP16/08/18 06:40 PM
10

They all say that. Don’t fall into that trap of answering her seriously.
/r/askTRP16/08/18 05:25 PM
2

If this guy is so awesome, why would he duck your Wall wife when he is more than likely shagging younger chicks that are happy to be on the carousel with his bank roll? She’s just demonstrating her lower value and does t realize how deep past the wall she is. Meanwhile, you don’t understand your increasing SMV because you’re too insecure. The Stay plan is the same as the Go plan. Have you even consulted a divorce attorney? You should at least be getting some FU money and prepping for a collapse.
/r/askMRP14/08/18 07:56 PM
1

I can’t say if you’ve got bigger issues or not and I don’t know what your relationship goals are. If you’re more TRP and interested in banging as many women as possible, more power to you. If you want a relationship w/ one woman and you identify with MRP, then screwing other people opens up a can of worms that gets in the way of your LTR. And my record is 3 girls at one time. I’ve already climbed that mountain.
/r/askMRP12/08/18 05:29 PM
1

Step one is a Paternity test. Step two is an attorney consult. It’s the dumbest thing to start with some random chick just because you were foolish enough to believe she couldn’t get pregnant. Now what’s your plan? Marry her and stay w/ her for 18yrs? Great plan.
/r/askTRP10/08/18 07:01 PM
1

Not for nothing but with an answer like that, you still sound like you don’t know what you’re doing.
/r/askMRP07/08/18 03:40 AM
3

If you have a high value woman and you’re a real man, I can’t understand how you’d let some other dude fuck her. I had a similar shitty relationship with a lots of sex. Relationship got worse, but sex frequency stayed strong. We both talked about opening up and I said I wanted to fuck other women but not a chance that I’d want her banging some dude (mind you my Ex’s value was rapidly declining at this point - harpy, overweight). So we went to work picking up unicorn girls in clubs and then fucki…
/r/askMRP06/08/18 01:05 AM
3

You’re absolutely not any Captain America, writing that self-aggrandize has drivel.
/r/askMRP31/07/18 01:36 AM
2

You said you followed the levels up to dread level 10
/r/askMRP30/07/18 08:17 PM
1

It’s your life; who knows. Sometimes you wake up to RP life and realize you’re with a static value, static attraction woman. Not who you’d choose today. So you might feel the crushing disappointment of the decisions of your youth. I’m still trying to figure out how you got up to DL10 and now you’re not sure what to do.
/r/askMRP30/07/18 07:46 PM
3

What part of “it’s your turn” did you not understand? You still have a ways to go before you learn how to pick a decent girl. Designing around w/ sluts and being surprised when they’re tucked by someone else is pretty surprising. Wake up.
/r/TheRedPill30/07/18 04:06 AM
2

It’s a distraction with false feedback and inaccurate expectations. Also, name one person that improved their current situation thanks to a heavy steady porn diet?
/r/askTRP30/07/18 03:43 AM
2

Are you in High School?! This is stupid. Literally, how to look for the wrong person, but maybe she’ll change and I’ll win. As a response to “how to find?”, I am 100% behind Day Game. No clubs. No distractions. No posse. Just meet regular hot girls in their normal habitat.
/r/TheRedPill30/07/18 02:03 AM
2

You are right that end of the evening sex isn’t ideal; but that’s mainly from a perspective when your sex life isn’t working properly. You just need to be more efficient with your side hustle and do it in a way that your wife knows “hey, just because I’m running an errand and will be back at 10P, that does t mean you aren’t getting fucked when I get back”. That way you won’t have to worry about her negative hamster getting in the way. I’m mid-40’s and my GF is early 30’s and I can’t tell you the…
/r/askMRP29/07/18 08:10 PM
3

You are failing when you try to hard to apply a formula because you think applying the formula is the same as frame. You’re confusing her lame texts with her flirting with you and as a result you shut her down while she’s engaging in good behavior. Why am I not surprised you are in a low sex marriage? Also, if you are on a 6mo business trip away from her that’s the same as an LDR and we usually don’t respond to questions about those.
/r/askMRP29/07/18 07:24 PM
1

It’s a setup from her to keep you distracted from leaving. That sounds like she’s low value. I was in a similar position and my Ex-wife distracted me with a steady diet of young single pussy and regular threesomes. 10/10 would NOT do that again waste of time.
/r/askTRP27/07/18 10:30 PM
1

I still remember a girl, that I met through my GF at the time, about 20yrs ago. She was an absolute smoke show; HB9.5, California beach bunny, killer attitude, and she was throwing all kinds of fuck me signals when we’d be at the same parties. But damn, that herpes situation was an absolute “no fly” for me. I don’t want any part of a disease that stays with you for your life and you always have to worry about infecting someone.
/r/askTRP27/07/18 07:58 PM
1

Those marriages aren’t “working”. It’s lack of awareness. They’ve been lying to themselves for so long, they’re drinking their own punch.
/r/askMRP22/07/18 07:46 PM
48

I only need to be strong enough to lift your legs over my shoulders.
/r/askTRP21/07/18 04:45 PM
3

Did you think failing to include your dance with divorce in your post description was wise? It’s a major piece of where you are at this moment, just as much as your stats for lifting. You just got Distraction Sex from the wife. She’s probably laughing about how happy and dumb you are.
/r/askMRP19/07/18 09:03 PM
2

It does t sound like anti-slut defense at all. Frankly, it sounds like a combination of you not being an awesome lover, not getting her off properly, and not being the one that she wants to give her ass up for.
/r/askMRP19/07/18 08:55 PM
1

You have either trained her to have this behavior or you are encouraging her to act this way.
/r/askMRP19/07/18 05:45 PM
1

Can we add this description as his flair?
/r/askMRP17/07/18 07:17 PM
1

Do you know what it means to be a leader? Do those things. Remember, you can lead but they will decide if they follow. Lay out a clear plan about your expectations. This should be an easy to recite goal. Let her know there is a timeline that you expect to be at a certain point in the plan by the 6, 12, 18mo mark. Then hold her accountable. As she continues to fail to meet your desired outcomes, take heed that she’s just telling you she is interested in the lifestyle (of no accountability or boun…
/r/askMRP16/07/18 08:59 PM
1

You lack the ability to lead decisively. What advice would you ice to a friend whose wife is a 5 at best and also an active alcoholic? You need to prepare for the Go plan, so visit some attorneys and figure out what you’re in for. Get her working if she isn’t already and get some cash out of circulation for your rainy day fund.
/r/askMRP16/07/18 08:55 PM
1

I like my girl. I’d figure something it. It wouldn’t be dumping her and it wouldn’t be celibacy. After all, what kind of cancer precludes blowjobs, handjobs, anal sex, PIV sex? Beta cancer does, but that’s for guys.
/r/askMRP13/07/18 03:15 AM
2

She isn’t going to respond until you look like you know what the hell you are doing. Clearly you don’t. Also, they don’t necessarily turn around just because you found Red Pill. You spent all that time training her that you were a Beta and why would she want to sign up with the new program? What have you don’t to make her consistently want your program?
/r/askMRP11/07/18 07:47 PM
1

In-laws are out. I don’t care what you think your relationship is with them. Do you really think they’d choose you over heir daughter? Think man, think.
/r/askMRP11/07/18 07:45 PM
2

“It’s a great car, I just can’t rely on the transmission because it regularly leaves me stranded”. Are you listening to yourself?
/r/askMRP11/07/18 07:42 PM
1

Your feelings of disrespect are partly from too much ego and partly too little frame. An isolated incident is one thing. But repeated behavior that she’s been corrected on previously calls for a harsh boundary.
/r/askMRP11/07/18 07:34 PM
9

I’ve got a bit of perspective. I divorced from an Olympic hopeful gymnast. Like you, but unlike a lot of other guys that found this sub, sexual chemistry wasn’t an issue at all. It was literally everything else. Victim condition, heated fighting, and god damn the singular focus on being stubborn. I tried to explain to a lot of people that gymnasts at the level my Ex was at are in a completely different world for stress, pressure, and pain threshold. They take those things with them the rest of t…
/r/askMRP08/07/18 07:11 AM
6

Who cares if she’s responding at this point? Focus on yourself until you can not worry about what she’s says or thinks. The bigger problem is that you’ll find out that you don’t care if she changes because you’ll start to see how little value she brings to your life. Don’t forget, if you chose the wrong woman years ago and then gave her 14yrs of training, it’s highly possible she won’t make the turn.
/r/askMRP07/07/18 05:48 AM
2

I marked the wrong one, with that lackluster devotion to keeping herself fit, and ultimately her obesity was one of the contributing factors in my choice to divorce her. Here are my thoughts; have ONE talk with her about the importance of physical upkeep and attraction in your relationship. If she doesn’t want the same things as you, that’s perfectly fine, but let it be a deal killer. Don’t be that beta that comes back here in 8yrs saying “help, my wife keeps eating and doesn’t work out and she’…
/r/askTRP04/07/18 06:04 PM
3

Christ on a crutch. So.Many.Words. The issue is you expect her to be something she isn’t. Then when she breaks your little heart that she’s get distracted with an avocado you are extremely butt hurt. You’re no fun at all. Probably have a declining SMV at the same time. In this while example you should have just gone to the store yourself if you can’t have fun with your girl while she’s acting like All Women.
/r/askMRP04/07/18 04:59 PM
5

How is it any different? Same principles apply. The vast majority of guys that find TRP/MRP need to seriously shore up their own shit. Success has less to do with women and more to do with recognizing they turned into a fat, lazy, drifting, beta and understanding that THEY are their biggest obstacle to success w/ women. A divorced Dad might find more success w/ TRP since they need to learn to not care as much about all the emotional baggage they carried for women. MRP is for guys that have reali…
/r/askMRP04/07/18 04:45 PM
0

What’s your age?
/r/askTRP01/07/18 10:32 PM
2

You’ve got no frame and no boundaries, so it really doesn’t matter. Stop doing things get help her under the guidance of “its good for my kid”. Her week is her responsibility. Your time is yours. There shouldn’t be any “helping” until you figure out how to grow a spine.
/r/askMRP26/06/18 12:01 AM
3

Is there a question or are you just admitting how fucked your marriage is?
/r/askMRP25/06/18 11:52 PM
1

You want to know why you’re afraid to tell her? Because you know you’re in her frame. So it’s easier to ignore. Tell her about raise and promotion casually. “Hey, swing by the salon tomorrow night for a blowout because we’re going out to celebrate. I beat out two other people and landed a promotion!” Seems pretty easy, no?
/r/askMRP20/06/18 10:44 PM
2

When your only tool is a hammer, everything begins to look like a nail. Since you’re so focused on sex and she doesn’t feel like having sex with you, the rejections will continue. You aren’t worth easy sex or quick BJ’s at this point. Maybe put in the work and you turn this ship around. At the moment, if this is your routine, that looks marginal.
/r/askMRP20/06/18 10:41 PM
1

He’s 12 and he’s in Rec sports (the lowest denominator of the realm of organized sports). For those of you that don’t remember, this means 5th or 6th grade. At this age he should care about enjoying the sport, not what the scouts will think in High School. It’s acceptable to tell your wife to chill the fuck out and see how he develops. Hint: I’ve been coaching soccer, baseball, & wrestling for my two kids over the last 6yrs. At this age they need to learn and master the fundamentals and very few…
/r/askMRP18/06/18 08:22 PM
1

You are a mess. However, you calling her bluff on divorce and her leaving and then coming home was her coming into your frame. After years of sailing the Blue Boat, the first few times you try to change course will be Rambo moments - or they’ll feel like a Rambo moment. Hold your course.
/r/askMRP18/06/18 03:15 AM
6

That time a cogent reply comes through the vapor and he sadness of reality sets in.
/r/askTRP14/06/18 08:05 PM
2

I belong to a lot of car forums. You see the same trend. People post that they’re having an issue with the transmission or the hunting idle or oil consumption but they rarely post that “hey! shit is awesome and everything works.”
/r/askMRP12/06/18 04:06 AM
4

One of my buddies had an accident and lost his leg before our senior year in high school. Dude got more pussy after that than I did for sure. It’s all in how your hold yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/18 05:36 PM
1

Absolutely do not do that. It’s shitting where you sleep.
/r/askTRP07/06/18 04:01 AM
7

FYI, opening your relationship to the bonding experience of your man having sex with another woman is absolutely risking losing that relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/18 03:12 AM
3

For reference, at the same height, you’re almost 30lbs and 15% higher BF than I am. My GF (15yrs younger) sleeps nude so it’s easier to fuck. If she does come to bed wearing a thong, I’ll ask what she’s doing and then she takes them off. She rarely initiates and I don’t care - - because she’s always available. If she’s in my bed, she’s initiated enough.
/r/askMRP04/06/18 07:57 AM
1

There’s only desire to trade in if you me shit isn’t together and your marriage is dysfunctional or non-functional. I married the wrong woman and stayed in a dysfunctional relationship for too long. Attempted to salvage the marriage but then realized, at best I’d be with an overweight harpy. Decided I didn’t want to fuck a bitchy fat chick for the rest of my life and BOOM - divorce. My GF is at least an HB8, about 15yrs younger and barely bumping the wall and she’s more redpill than most of you.…
/r/askMRP01/06/18 10:20 PM
0

It sounds like you’re playing a video game instead of life. Put some effort into your relationship and you might not be so apathetic.
/r/askTRP30/05/18 07:30 PM
1

It’s like none of you have been in sales before. Give a few weeks and message again, but assume you actually need to put some effort into it.
/r/askTRP30/05/18 07:23 PM
10

LOL, she isn’t “Alpha”, you’re just that much of a pussy. Figure out how to have a boundary and how not to DEER.
/r/askMRP30/05/18 06:47 PM
2

Don’t stay for the kids. Their ages are very important - you are training them on what a healthy relationship looks like. Don’t fuck that up with whatever bullshit you’re doing now. You don’t sound like you have solid frame. That’s an issue. You need to really understand and employ IDGAF. See a divorce lawyer today to understand what elements will be in play of things go sideways. Your marriage is your wife’s to keep. Is she doing a good or bad job of keeping you guys married? You need to be pre…
/r/askMRP25/05/18 03:48 AM
1

Ha! You’ve got a long way to go if you think she’s using shark week as a reason for not having sex with you. She currently has very little attraction to you, so now is absolutely not the time to tell her you want a blowjob because she’s just thinking “this fat fuck wants a BJ?!”
/r/askMRP24/05/18 11:31 PM
1

You’ll still need to make the risk for “loving” her, but hopefully a person has learned to use the tools this time. My relationship today, with my GF, is light years beyond what I had with my wife. Forget the fact that she’s 15yrs younger, I know how to avoid overextending myself in ways that I never did before. I find it easier giving that gift now. If she doesn’t like it, she just gets less next time; whereas before, I would keep overextending and then become bitter because my love wasn’t appr…
/r/askMRP22/05/18 09:46 PM
2

I missed how old your daughter is, but your “wife’s” behavior toward her is a non-starter for me. At however long you two have been dating/together, it should be pretty damn obvious that you’ve got an obligation with taking care of her.
/r/askMRP20/05/18 05:52 AM
1

While your candor is thoughtful, you sound weak.
/r/askTRP17/05/18 04:39 AM
3

Grow a pair and stop hiding abhorrent behavior. Why get into an LTR if you intend to cheat? I was in a one-way marriage; I had a pass to engage other women, but my (ex)wife wasn’t allowed to be with other men. I found out she was just a shitty LTR and ended up getting a divorce. Don’t fake being something you aren’t.
/r/askTRP16/05/18 05:19 PM
1

You’ve got a major issue that needs to get resolved nits that perfect crutch of “anxiety” you’ve given your Oneitis. Put an end to that and then come back for more. As for catch and release, it really depends if you’re practicing game, honing your game, or upping dread levels. For instance, my GF is an HB9 and she’s a great FO and has great RP tendencies - hence, she’s on track / we’re on track. I’m in my prime, and she’s at the wall, but our formula works very well. So when I do catch & release…
/r/askMRP14/05/18 04:31 AM
2

So you’ve really done nothing related to TRP or MRP? Take a breath, relax, STFU, read the sidebar, and lift for Christ sakes.
/r/askMRP14/05/18 04:29 AM
1

These are ordered correctly. Frame rules all. Lifting and game will smooth over gaps.
/r/TheRedPill11/05/18 02:53 AM
1

The best part about the stay plan being the same as the go plan is that you’ll never find a better sparring partner that will so accurately force you to grow or fail. It you have to get to the point of success within yourself before “going” will mean anything.
/r/askMRP09/05/18 05:26 PM
1

You claim to see the red flags but you’re still ignoring them. Not sure what else to tell you. Enjoy your difficult life lesson?
/r/askTRP07/05/18 09:48 PM
1

I can’t see how this changes anything for you. You’re overthinking how relevant a prostitute will be since you’ll be no closer to landing girls or having sexual interactions w/ girls that are in to you. A prostitute is going to be as personal and intimate as a cashier at the grocery store.
/r/askTRP07/05/18 09:46 PM
4

This was my motto. When women are taking about how good of a fuck you are, it’s like shooting fish in a bucket.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/05/18 08:23 PM
60

Yeah, I had a choice btwn my chronically overweight wife of 18yrs that had BPD & Anger Control issues and a sensationally got and smart 27yr old. Dropped my Ex happily as she brought zero value to my life and was not going to change. It is shocking how sweet life is lately when I spend it w/ a high value woman w/ strong TRP morals. Damn youth is intoxicating.
/r/TheRedPill07/05/18 05:09 AM
1

Christ it’s half the damn population and you’re having a “tough time” finding one? I used one called MyDays years ago to track my Ex and a few of the unicorns we’d have threesomes with. You thought having a threesome was tough, wait until you’ve got a willing and eager 3rd, but joe you’ve flight to align 3 different work schedules and periods for 2 chicks. I know, First World problems, but still. It ain’t easy.
/r/askTRP07/05/18 04:57 AM
2

No, you’ve just got her on such a high pedestal that she’s got you competing with a gay orbiter for her attention.
/r/askTRP07/05/18 01:04 AM
1

Eyes wide open. FWIW, a man’s life cannot grow to what it should be wit dead weight around. I had a Hall Pass for years w/ my ex and we even had regular threesomes w/ younger chicks we picked up at lounges or functions. As I look back now, being post divorce, on top physical fitness, and dating a much younger HB8, the phrase “if she isn’t adding to your life, she’s subtracting from it, is absolutely true. Weather the storm.
/r/askMRP05/05/18 03:49 PM
2

I didn’t see your other reports, but be aware that getting some sex at this point in your journey doesn’t change the main issues in your marriage. My wife was similarly low value, low SMV, not adding to my life, but she was fucking my brains out on the regular. At the point I divorced her, I’m not sure I’d had a hard no in over a decade. But sex is only on aspect of a healthy life and she was near zero in any other category. So I practiced what I needed to on her and pulled the cord. I much pref…
/r/askMRP04/05/18 11:04 PM
3

Jesus. She’s in her 3rd trimester but you think she’s “needy”?! She’s not letting the squad down, but it sounds like you are. How about getting into action to solve the things that are making her “needy”?
/r/askMRP03/05/18 08:15 PM
4

It’s almost like you want to get divorce gang banged. You are all bark and no bite. She most likely is disgusted by the big pussy that you are. Suck it up and practice some frame while she’s pregnant. You’re barely prepared for marriage, let alone a divorce. Oh, and if you thought the deck was stacked against men in divorce court, think about how stacked it is against losers that leave their pregnant, defenseless wife.
/r/askMRP30/04/18 05:16 PM
1

Show some frame and treat her like she deserves. Stop putting yourself in situations where you rely on her. I’d tell her directly today “your scheduling has become disrespectful. You need to make changes that allow you to be on time and reliable like the rest of the adults” - and drop that and plan to STFU on your way to something you do on your own. Then stop allowing her to be late. The two of you going somewhere together? Tyler her know well in advance the time you expect to leave. Let her kn…
/r/askMRP30/04/18 05:13 PM
2

It seems like you missed the most obvious reason you’d avoid this until a much later point in a developed relationship. A compliment on a woman’s obvious, outstanding physical attributes can’t be the tip of the spear for making contact or gaining her attention. Why? Because she’s been given that same compliment a dozen times already that day and she’s heard it most of her life anyway. Therefore, she knows you’re in manipulation mode and she isn’t accepting of the gesture.
/r/TheRedPill27/04/18 10:46 PM
1

They aren’t mutually exclusive. It’s possible to hone your approach skills across the board and not be chasing women. Most guys starting out couldn’t talk to a cashier let alone an HB9. Practice, but don’t let the chase obscure your oath.
/r/askTRP27/04/18 02:38 PM
3

I like re-terming, but I call this situation False Alpha. It’s the guys that seemingly had success, when in actuality, they just didn’t encounter the adversity many guys do. Then, later in life, they get into a tough marriage situation and realize they never had a toolset to begin with. Not Alpha, but False Alpha.
/r/TheRedPill26/04/18 07:40 PM
1

He isn’t Chad or Alpha, he just happened to wander through the battlefield without much damage. If he’s near marriage, he won’t see a way to subtly untie the noose around his neck, so your suggestion is likely similar to showing him how to fly. You could throw up a flag and only support his awareness. “Lots of guys have second thoughts when the date gets close, but those chills are too afraid to postpone or call it off and then they get locked into a bad decision. “
/r/askMRP24/04/18 10:53 PM
3

Why mess with something that works? Day game is shorter anyway. You e got to have a frame of confidence that enables you to have purpose to be “there”.
/r/askTRP24/04/18 08:06 PM
1

She tells you that she wants to be dominated so your first thought is to wait a few days and then ask your internet friends how to grow a pair? I’m thinking she’s moved on w/ a real man.
/r/askTRP24/04/18 08:00 PM
1

The woman I spend my time with gets one shot at saying “I hate you” before I pull the plug. Have some respect for yourself. Your wife hates you so doesn’t want you at (your?) child’s birth. What do you want? Go or don’t go. You have no clue so it doesn’t matter much what your actions are. Find something to feel and do though.
/r/askMRP24/04/18 07:40 PM
1

Have you identified the behaviors you need to change and those that you need to implement? Hint: I already know the answer.
/r/askMRP24/04/18 07:36 PM
1

The corollary is that if she’s out of compliance, they’re shit tests. For instance, if she’s fat and you’ve told her it’s an issue but she’s not doing anything.
/r/askTRP20/04/18 07:51 PM
7

You are failing because you can’t stay confident and interesting when approaching an HB4, so obviously you can’t approach HB7’s - especially since their SMV probably crushes yours. Learn to talk to ALL women without trying to get numbers or close them.
/r/TheRedPill20/04/18 07:36 PM
2

I’m an Eagle Scout. My son isn’t in cub scouts and won’t go into Boy Scouts. It’s a shame really because my experience was so awesome. Then again, it was the 80’s and my Scoutmaster was a former Vietnam Cobra helicopter pilot and we had a great group of parents involved with the group that coordinated monthly camp outs, trips to go snow camping, summer camps, 50mi and 100mi hikes. For reference, I coach today’s kids in soccer, wrestling, and baseball; directly impact about 70 kids each year. Ver…
/r/askMRP18/04/18 05:55 AM
1

Oh shit! She’s calling you on something? I guess you better make some changes, right?
/r/askMRP18/04/18 05:30 AM
16

So.Many.Words.Without.Saying.Anything.Meaningful. How about trim this down and see if there is any meat left.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/18 05:03 AM
1

What’s that web page that exposes those “models” as essentially prostituting themselves to go on trips with these guys?
/r/askTRP15/04/18 01:08 AM
7

Plus one on scheduling being the biggest hurdle. You’d think it’s finding the girl, but they’re easier than you’d think to find. My Ex and I once had two different unicorns lined up for regular threesomes and the shot that would come up would make you cry. Between work schedules, business travel, or kid schedules, shot would regularly go sideways. I even resorted to using an app to track both girls’ cycles because shark week started becoming a variable. Also, my personal theory is as follows: wh…
/r/TheRedPill13/04/18 12:15 AM
2

There’s a ton of issues here. Not attracted to SO (I’m assuming she’s also turning into a guppy), not enough sex, you aren’t attractive to her (appearance or behavior), you aren’t leading the relationship, you can’t handle shit tests. The fact of the matter is that your answer was most accurate - you aren’t attracted to her because she isn’t throwing off quality sex to you. Essentially “I’m attracted to women that have sex with me, not roommates” was a more appropriate answer. But you e got so m…
/r/askMRP12/04/18 10:14 PM
1

So many questions about one situation. You do not give the impression that you are ready financially or emotionally. Why in God’s name is your wife not working while you’re trying to pay down student loan debt? Why in God’s name are you considering expensive IVF treatments while you are living with your parents? I mean hell, does your dad just roll his eyes at you and spend a lot of time working in the garage so he can get away from you? How can you possibly lag this plan out to him while you ar…
/r/askMRP12/04/18 10:06 PM
1

This is a pathetic post about how you aren’t getting the sex you want. Lots of information about what your wife isn’t giving you but little accountability for who you think you’re so repulsive or disgusting that she isn’t attracted to you anymore.
/r/askMRP12/04/18 10:00 PM
1

You sound like a caretaker that is also an enabler. For some unfashionable reason, you married someone already suffering from depression. Instead you should have used that as a screening gate - if the depression isn’t addressed and turned around, we aren’t getting married. Your most staggering statement is “if I followed the advice of NMMNG, I feel like my marriage would fall apart” - - that’s because you are doing so much to prop up a failing marriage that if you started minding your own busine…
/r/askMRP12/04/18 09:57 PM
5

The life of a man with a great marriage/relationship? That man is truly blessed. He spends time planning the things he’s going to do with his spare time. He enjoys reviewing his career plan because the wheels are in motion that allow him to increase his potential and he sees opportunity around him. He looks at his financial health and his expenses are under control and his savings is growing. He thinks about the moment he sees his wife after a long day of work (for one or both of them) and he th…
/r/askMRP12/04/18 09:39 PM
1

Anyone on the outside always sees those of us on the inside as “cocky assholes”. In reality, it’s confidence and a solid mission that you can only grasp as “cocky asshole”. Fake it before you make it is a misnomer that people interpret too literally. Think of it as priming a pump. At some point you actually need to attempt to try to apply these concepts. Get in the game.
/r/askMRP12/04/18 07:31 PM
2

It’s said that when a hammer is your only tool, everything looks like a nail. If you can’t control your ego, every interaction is a shit test.
/r/askMRP12/04/18 07:26 PM
1

Usually only for low confidence guys.
/r/askTRP11/04/18 03:09 AM
13

What part of “it’s just your turn” are you not grasping? Are you unaware that attractive and sexually active girls have tons of options?
/r/askTRP11/04/18 03:03 AM
0

All of them have a vagina. The keepers have a great brain. Adjust your sights accordingly.
/r/askMRP11/04/18 01:23 AM
1

With finger fucking you can be more precise and work on increasing a woman's sensitivity in her vagina, which consequently, makes orgasms easier and more frequent during full intercourse. Video here: https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=1448472188 Totally agree. Never seen a video so close to the way I've been building up my current GF from the fingering buildup to the massage to the light stroking of her body while she's nearing climax. If you want to be great at sex, then you should …
/r/TheRedPill10/04/18 08:42 PM
3

Empty and pathetic. Can’t even call that a victory.
/r/askTRP10/04/18 04:00 AM
3

Don’t forget that a threesome is supposed to be no- holds-barred fun and frankly, you have to treat them like every time is the last time. Also, If your girl is setting up with “and you can’t kiss her on the mouth” or “no penetration with the other girl” or some other bulllllshhhhhiiiit like that, you need to shut it down. Part of he success of a threesome is that ALL the participants have fun. Believe me, the new girl is. It going to have fun if she can’t get fucked. Set it up as it wouldn’t be…
/r/TheRedPill10/04/18 03:45 AM
1

Based on your intense reading of the sidebar, what do YOU think your next move should be? STFU is a simple concept, however it seems you are still able to fuck that up. Have you ever done leash training with a new puppy? They are your best friend until you put the collar on. They complain or resist. Then when you attach the leash, it seems fine, but they are now distracted by the leash. Then when you give them the first correction they are shocked and may react, whine, or cry. The second correct…
/r/askMRP09/04/18 07:56 PM
2

That’s a bit obvious. Besides, he’s got an established record of his earning power.
/r/askTRP08/04/18 07:07 AM
8

This is a big fuck up that you’re in. It doesn’t seem like you’ve got enough frame, but you might be able to get out using the long con. Get that STBX working at a full time job. She’s got to earn her keep now. You start pulling cash off the books regularly. Build an aggressive savings for legal fees. Start evaluating assets for sale or ownership transfer. Do these things over the next 18mos while you work on your life and then pull the cord.
/r/askTRP08/04/18 02:11 AM
2

You can’t lose what you don’t have, but you are acting like a pussy. There’s really only two ways to respond: “Nevermind” or “K” Now go make plans with someone. That isn’t giving you their flake plan and leading you on.
/r/askTRP07/04/18 10:12 PM
0

You must be quite a high SMV specimen of an attractive female. Attender is openly flirting with you. Wow!
/r/askTRP07/04/18 09:50 PM
1

Did you ever think that since you are so clueless and vacant when it comes to understanding frame and TRP/MRP that you lack the mental framework to correctly understand that she’s already screwing around?
/r/askMRP07/04/18 09:23 PM
1

Standard advice is this; people do not change. If you aren’t overjoyed to accept this person 100% today and for the rest of your life, then consider ending the relationship immediately and stop wasting time on a dead end road. How could you stand to be with a person that has a temper like a 4yr old and doesn’t exhibit any high value traits and who isn’t bedding you properly in a regular basis? The most concerning is the depression.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/18 07:43 PM
3

I’m sure you aren’t an artist, although with this question it sure seems like it. In the big picture, it’s when you are in a situation where you’ll HAVE to be around or interact or see a person regularly after you’ve had sex. If the situation goes sideways it just creates more drama hag you can’t avoid.
/r/askTRP06/04/18 07:29 PM
1

Why not just give her a string of orgasms and then let loose on number 5 or 6? My ex was a former Olympic hopeful gymnast and still flexible as hell. When she got close to orgasm, I’d just pull out and make her keep her legs spread wide or I’d stop again. Worked like a charm. It took her so much concentration to keep her legs spread that she couldn’t orgasm unless she squeezed me with her legs.
/r/askTRP06/04/18 07:24 PM
2

So you’re into this journey about 6mos and you don’t know if she’s the one you want to continue with? Sounds to me like you haven’t really processed your internal confidence. However, you have opened your eyes enough that it sounds like you don’t see the value she brings to the relationship and that’s a good thing. But I’d recommend a slow pace before you do. You’ve got far more to learn and she’s the perfect sparring partner while you do. Take it from me though, don’t stay for the sex. I got su…
/r/askMRP06/04/18 07:18 PM
1

There’s gold here OP. Anyone can pilot a boat, but navigating rough sea and returning to port requires a captain.
/r/askMRP30/03/18 09:24 PM
20

Yes, good catch. She’s a mirror for you OP. she had fun in college and that’s fine, but more concerning is that it sounds like you’ve pegged yourself as the safe Beta guy. Maybe postpone the wedding indefinitely until you figure this out. I’m not saying she’s not worth it. Some of these chicks do figure their shit out later in life and they find their place so to speak.
/r/askTRP30/03/18 01:31 AM
1

You’ve got a ton of work to do. It’s ok that your SMV Is lower than hers, but that only increases the obvious risk. Not sure how in the hell you wouldn’t be very good at sex, but you should start working on that ASAP. For instance, my current GF sent me a text the morning following our first night that said “thinking of you stud. A girl could get used to being rocked like that. When do I get to see you next?”. It doesn’t sound like you’ve read the sidebar at all, so come back when you’ve actuall…
/r/askTRP29/03/18 10:44 PM
1

You are already in a death spiral and you don’t see it. She can smell it on you like the putrid stench of your broken past that it is. PUA skills are funny that they get you into bed w/ gurls that are out of your league, but by the nature of their setup, you’ve painted yourself into such a shallow corner that you can’t get out. Where is your depth of character? If you’re actually asking how you lead someone famous/successful, it shows how much you are scrambling. Lead by building the team, archi…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/03/18 12:15 AM
1

If you don’t want another kid and you already have 3, why don’t you just schedule the damn operation? I’m 46 with 2 kids and a new relationship w/ a a great girl, but even I would have a hard time with having a kid win her. Also, I’m a no condom kind of guy, so I can’t imagine how you’re managing in a relationship.
/r/askMRP26/03/18 11:04 PM
2

Having a frame in this type of question means not worrying about whether she’s shit testing or not. I don’t think these are a comfort test if she hasn’t been putting any effort into no longer being fat; so your instinct is correct in that you don’t want to let her off the hook for poor habits. Then respond with “sure she’s hot; but she’s probably going to the gym and working for that ass 3 or 4 times a week”. That way you hold strong with acknowledging that another woman on the planet, that’s ac…
/r/askMRP26/03/18 10:08 PM
1

Agree. Direct approach.
/r/askMRP26/03/18 09:09 PM
1

Chad is a concept that occurs naturally and isn’t necessarily duplicated. A Red Pull Man is built on purpose with effort and satisfaction.
/r/askTRP24/03/18 12:39 AM
3

That’s BS. I’m 6’ and I’ve cut to 160 before with 9% BF.
/r/askTRP18/03/18 12:03 AM
4

This comment should be higher.
/r/askTRP17/03/18 12:13 AM
1

Doing it wrong. That’s a convenient covert contract you’ve made.
/r/askTRP07/03/18 08:33 PM
2

Trust is simple. Give 100% trust to the one you’re with. When they break it, they’re finished. It’s up to them, not you.
/r/askMRP05/03/18 04:20 AM
9

So you feel like you’re her primary orbiter and don’t feel like all the other orbiters realize this?
/r/askTRP28/02/18 01:48 AM
1

With you consent, but without you? A slippery slope to nowhere good. Without your consent and without you? Cheating. Next. Don’t get distracted. Threesomes are fun and I’ve had a fair share; even an FFFM. but I’d never do them again in a relationship. Gets too complicated.
/r/askMRP27/02/18 07:13 AM
1

Sometimes you need to understand more about their expectations of what they want you to accomplish in the role. You’d also want to be confident that you understand the challenges included (communication, fear, org structures, etc). The best way to proceed is when YOU know your number. Not a range, but your number. Ideally this would be a full comp number that includes your benefits, bonus, stock, parking costs, etc. so it isn’t a stretch when asked for a salary number that you need more details …
/r/askMRP26/02/18 12:40 AM
1

No LSR posts.
/r/askTRP24/02/18 04:14 AM
1

Don’t overthink it. She isn’t on board until she’s on board.
/r/askMRP23/02/18 02:43 AM
2

My understanding is that there isn’t such a thing as recurring Main Events; that’s known as status quo friend. Remember, it’s your poor leadership that brought you to this point. She’s playing the part you gave her. You haven’t communicated the script change clearly to her or you haven’t done so in a way that demonstrates frame. I was in a similar situation w/ my STBX. I sprinkled some Alpha crumbs around my Captain Save A Ho program and when it came time to swap the script, it was similar to wh…
/r/askMRP22/02/18 08:43 PM
1

So they were all supposed to stop their conversation and give you attention because you said “hi”? What do you offer that makes you think that anyone would pay attention to you for saying that?
/r/askTRP21/02/18 09:36 PM
1

u/ich_bin_doch_geil - so alpha that you deleted your post, huh? LOL! Amateur hour.
/r/askMRP20/02/18 08:05 PM
5

Communicating w/ your wife during the day by flirting or teasing is actually a good thing. Staying radio silent with the exception of “hey why did you spend money that I didn’t know about?”badgering will dry her up and drive a wedge between you.
/r/askMRP20/02/18 05:52 PM
2

You are lost. Orbiting some skirt that you’ve pedestalized as a “10” and all the beta texting only makes you look like you’re having an emotional affair. You’re getting starfish sex from a tired First Officer because you aren’t taking care of business. You were off in your own world passing shit tests when your wife was throwing comfort tests at you.
/r/askMRP20/02/18 05:48 PM
1

Trick question! It doesn’t lower your SMV at all, but you need to have had SMV previously.
/r/askTRP20/02/18 02:48 AM
1

You only mentioned initiation and not declines. Are you asking about why you always initiate or are you asking if getting so many declines is a problem?
/r/askMRP19/02/18 11:32 PM
1

So evaluating he enquirer list of contributing factors is counter-productive to the knee-jerk “ban guns” argument? I don’t understand why you’d look at that collective list of thugs that regularly happen (the Uber comment was a joke) and then say “look at this example of how delusional...” My unsolicited feedback for you is to avoid pointing fingered and calling names. It’s so funny in the moment, but you’re being counterproductive if you can’t listen to another persons viewpoint without having …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/18 10:53 PM
2

Wrong attitude brother. You still don’t get it. The PI can’t give you frame. You’ll still lack frame and then be a frameless fool making decisions. Stop. Think. Act.
/r/askMRP16/02/18 09:29 PM
2

She was pre-approving a request to eat donuts all day and check out of life. Yoga pants turn into baggy sweats and no showers. He reinforced that she didn’t gain a servant w/ her cancer diagnosis.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/18 08:03 PM
2

If only you had a frame and weren’t a harmless mouse. Talk to her like you really want to instead of hiding. Stop using so many words. Give her two choices; continue and lose your invitation to the home or comply.
/r/askMRP16/02/18 07:18 PM
2

If you can’t afford to seek the advice of a professional in the single greatest event of your life, then you aren’t ready. Quick masturbating yourself by asking unqualified internet strangers for advice.
/r/askMRP16/02/18 07:16 PM
2

It’s because you still lack frame, confidence and leadership. Don’t present your thoughts.plans as a question and don’t present them in a combative or butthurt manner. You start by presenting the activity that is going to occur. Then present how it’s going to occur - and consider asking her for feedback in making the plan happen. If she goes back to declining it (like you’ve trained her to do for every one of your “ideas”) you can redirect her with a cocky smile and tell her “And now try answeri…
/r/askMRP16/02/18 07:14 PM
2

I think getting a PI is just you on hamster drive. Otherwise you’d be able to make a clear decision. What are you going to do when the PI provides similar partial corroboration? What about when he confirms she’s on the CC? If you don’t have a plan now, you need to get engaged. But I don’t think it matters if she is or isn’t doing something behind your back; you aren’t in a mental frame of mind to do anything about it. That needs to change.
/r/askMRP16/02/18 07:09 PM
2

The phone contents are irrelevant. Don’t get blinded by distractions.
/r/askMRP12/02/18 05:11 AM
3

Yes. The point at which you realize you get to make your choice with your life. Either she adds value and is worthy of being part of your life or the years of her disrespect and weight gain and excuses and she is left behind. But choose you must.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/18 12:37 AM
1

TRP isn’t to make a specific girl want you - that’s what hypnosis is for. TRP makes you understand how to control your value and frame to help you screen out the wrong women. It sounds like you chose the wrong woman and now you’re trying to make her want you. That’s a losing proposition.
/r/askTRP07/02/18 06:56 PM
1

This is one of those times when you don’t need to “convict” her or get her to admit anything. It’s an egregious overstep. HOWEVER; the element of surprise is your ally here. You should be 100% into divorce strategy planning. Visit Wilsonville lawyers and start getting cash stored. If she is SAHM, now is the time to get her working. Good luck. Now is the time to be strong and maintain focus on building your exit plan.
/r/askMRP07/02/18 06:38 PM
1

Every man goes into his own crucible. How he comes out is a function of his willingness to break down the ego and soak up wisdom. If you are in pain after cutting out the dead weight from your life, you didn’t spend enough time in the fire, finding YOU. 46, divorce in process after 20yrs together, living apart for almost 18mos, early 30’s GF - having the time of my life really.
/r/askMRP07/02/18 05:57 AM
6

Yeah, soft hands on that post. “One overseas dalliance and I’ve learned that lesson...”
/r/askMRP07/02/18 05:41 AM
93

Go watch her dog and work off your debt. It’s not like you’ve got anything going in your life that would preclude you from clearing up your debt to her. We don’t have to be worried about you compromising your frame since there isn’t any; so that’s lucky.
/r/askTRP06/02/18 04:20 AM
1

Isn’t there a rule about no posts if you’re in a long-distance relationship ?
/r/askTRP06/02/18 02:44 AM
2

Lifting heavy weights.
/r/askTRP06/02/18 02:37 AM
6

You sound like a lane entitled owners son I worked with one time, named Toby. And you talk like him about “all the hours” you out in that other people don’t. Tony was a real bag of dicks and not in the good way.
/r/askTRP06/02/18 02:18 AM
2

There’s a point where writing more words isn’t helping. If you focus on brevity you could crystallize your point into a consumable and powerful post, rather than risk losing the majority of readers that don’t have time to read a tome. That said, your anger issues are with yourself but you keep talking about your wife. You are so focused on sex that you think it’s the thing that is holding you back. Finally, there is something that happens in a marriage after a period of time where the code begin…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/02/18 12:03 AM
1

This weight conversation comes up here. A.Lot. The truth is that you can’t do anything about her. Just you. I recommend the following. Be honest with her. She’s fat and that isn’t long-term good. Then you start working on yourself like a mad man and you ignore her. Never give her compliments for her false progress (lost a pound, gained a pound, etc), and encourage her when she’s performing. But ignore her and don’t coddle her or help her make excuses unless you want to stay with a fatty
/r/askMRP31/01/18 08:56 PM
1

Yeah. Wow. Doesn’t want to use the primary tool for the job.
/r/askMRP31/01/18 08:53 PM
1

This is an example of DEERing btw. It’s a good practice to avoid.
/r/askMRP31/01/18 08:47 PM
1

Yeah, I stopped reading early on. If your wife isn’t physically fucking attractive at her age, she is just fat. Congratulations on realizing that you want to have arc more than twice a year, but you’ve got 20yrs into a contract with that arrangement. I recommend not being surprised that nothing changes - - so don’t be surprised, but don’t fail to learn. I’d plan for a divorce by visiting w/ an attorney today so you can educate yourself now and start cleaning up your situation in advance of pulli…
/r/askMRP30/01/18 05:35 PM
7

Your first and only response should have been “k”. Sounds like you were the one being a total bitch. You’ve got little game or frame and you barely know this girl. You talk too much and you’re overly sensitive; like a woman would be. Telling a girl “I won’t be disrespected” is the same as going around to all your employees and telling them you’re the boss. Just lame.
/r/askTRP26/01/18 07:57 AM
1

You lack frame and control. It sounds like you are out of your league in this new role if you can’t manage your life and you are increasing destructive activities. It doesn’t matter whose frame you are in, since you don’t have any frame neither one respects you.
/r/askMRP26/01/18 03:41 AM
2

You don’t sound prepared enough for imminent divorce. It also doesn’t sound like you know what you’re doing since you are talking so much. STFU more. Stop arguing.
/r/askMRP26/01/18 03:28 AM
1

You’re making too many excuses & wimping our before you even get to the lesson! Have you ever walked across a public park and encountered an “abandoned” playground ball or a basketball? You played with it right? Were you concerned you were a thief the whole time? Did you take it with you or leave it when you were done? Who cares because it doesn’t matter. See a girl you think is hot and flirt with her (practice). Start recognizing the reactions and IOI’s (practice). Start closing her (practice).…
/r/askMRP26/01/18 03:25 AM
3

I went through this in November. While I had been looking for a new gig and it was a point of conversation, it was a big shock that I got laid off in mid-November. It’s a major thing in anyone’s life, so not bringing it up is dumb. I brought it up with my girl and laid out the situation (impacts to upcoming entertainment and travel) as well as my plan on getting a new gig lined up. Here’s the thing, if she capped on me, even a little, she’d be gone. Anyone that kicks you while you’re down should…
/r/askTRP25/01/18 05:09 AM
1

Problem: zero frame and no captain on duty. So you’re sayin she buys you clothes? That is weak. But you’re really saying that you hunk she is buying shitty clothes - and you allow it? That is sad and unacceptable. Wife, who already makes crappy choices and buys clothes that you don’t like, suggests going shopping with you before a big trip and you are surprised at the result? Shame on you. How are you following in your Dad’s footsteps? Start being prescriptive with her. No more purchasing since …
/r/askMRP12/01/18 06:26 PM
2

There’s a string difference between acting like a petty bitch and handling your shit like a boss. How else can you handle this? She made a mistake. If it’s a one-time deal, just mention it in passing and tease her about if she screws up again you’ll take it out of her ass - as in anal. If this is chronic behavior, it reflects your lack of leadership and frame. But his passive aggressive crap you’re pulling only creates more problems and does nothing to establish your leadership.
/r/askMRP12/01/18 06:17 PM
1

Sounds like you’ve got no kids and no frame and your wife is a fatty. Why is it that you aren’t pulling the ripcord? Ignore her and work on yourself. He’s a reflection of you and your frame. So here’s what you see in her that is really inside you: lazy, overweight, physically unattractive, poor financial intelligence, and checked out of the marriage. Spend the time to work on yourself and practice these skills that you don’t have. Plan your exit strategy, maximize your offline savings (cash), an…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/01/18 08:54 PM
1

Yeah, your situation wouldn’t be any different if you had the money you junk you are missing. You still have loser traits, don’t have frame, and don’t sound like you are in shape.
/r/askMRP09/01/18 08:44 PM
1

Go back and read the sidebar recommendations about shitting where you sleep. Oh that’s right...
/r/askTRP09/01/18 05:22 AM
2

What are their ages that you can’t leave them alone for an hour?
/r/askMRP09/01/18 05:20 AM
1

Of course it’s a flag. Who cares?! You can’t spend your time trying to justify yourself to every woman. If she isn’t into you, that’s her problem. A fit, successful, worldly, 40+ man that understands TRP is far too busy laying pipe than to spend time convincing a woman to accept her. You should have a line out the door of sub-30yr olds that are happy to keep you entertained. Now think about what kind of problems this post-wall woman must have to stall. If you choose to respond instead of nexting…
/r/askTRP09/01/18 05:12 AM
1

What helps is taking all women off your pedestal; yes even the really hot ones that make your pants tight. Start practicing cold conversations with all women; at the grocery store, the bank, the mall, tour waitress, etc. at first even they will think you’re a Creeper. But with more approaches you’ll learn.
/r/askTRP04/01/18 08:49 AM
0

You sound like you have no clue and you are bitter. News flash: hot chicks get played all day long. They have to screen out the wimps, otherwise they’d wade all damn day. Start envisioning them as children. Laugh when they say something ridiculous and admonish then when they’re bratty. It just isn’t this tough.
/r/askTRP04/01/18 08:46 AM
12

You sound like you lack frame and confidence. Here are two basic phone tips: For calls during work hours: “hi, I’m in the middle of a project; do you need something important?” For calls during off-hours: “hi, what’s up?” Her: nothing. You: cool, thanks for the call. Come over later. Make sure you shave first.
/r/askTRP03/01/18 06:02 AM
1

Since you’re asking it makes it sound like you don’t have any frame. If you had frame to wouldn’t give a flying fuck what someone else thought about a thing you enjoy doing.
/r/askTRP29/12/17 01:17 AM
2

Wow, lots going on here. I know you’re in OYS mode, but you still sound soft and afraid and worries about how you’ll DEER next. If she told you she’s done, but you’re still trying to “save the marriage” you clearly aren’t getting the clue. Sure she might be telling you this because it’s true; but she might also be telling it to you to describe where she’s at. Either way, you can only focus on you. She mag come around and she may not; but you can’t do things that WILL MAKE HER do anything.
/r/askMRP28/12/17 02:23 AM
2

Wow. You fixed that vomit up like a surgeon! Painfully accurate.
/r/askMRP20/12/17 03:08 AM
0

You're being sensitive or defensive. No need for that. I'm giving you direct information but you're taking it as an attack. Your question is better suited to TRP. But even then, it doesn't sound like you are understanding or implementing the fundamentals. If I'm wrong, then educate me where you are leading your relationship or STFU, etc. Also, you stated that you want "effortless, easy, realxed relationship" and that you're surprised that a girl you've wanted to be with for a really long time is…
/r/askTRP17/12/17 10:19 PM
0

Your first mistake is posting in this forum where people are in relationships or regularly in them. The concepts are the same but the mindset and strategy is a little different. You can’t post your question in TRP because it’s obvious you don’t have any of the skills or comprehension. I don’t even think you lift weights. All relationships take effort. No relationship is easy. The moment you become complacent is the moment of your decline.
/r/askTRP17/12/17 08:14 PM
1

If youve done your work, you understand how much of a man you are and whether or not you can OYS. You already understand how a system works as well as how to diagnose a broken system. All that’s left now is for you to assess if this marriage is fixable AND whether or not you truly want the outcome. Time for deep honesty. BTW, that old phrase “staying for the kids” is bluepill poison. You’d want to train your kids how to stay in a sub-optimal relationship with a partner that isn’t worthy?
/r/askMRP16/12/17 07:44 AM
9

Frankly, naked is the best. My beautiful gf would look great in lingerie, but naked her is so much better. If you need something to sleep in, grab one of his button dress shirts.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/17 04:15 PM
4

Golf clap my brother. Well stated.
/r/askTRP12/12/17 06:24 AM
2

Disagree. At your age group (mine too) strip clubs are sad. Unless you’re at risk of actually fucking these strippers, they are busy laughing about how you’re old enough to be their Dad. It’s just too transactional of an environment for me anymore.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/17 06:13 AM
6

It’s an obscure process. My Ex-wife and I had threesomes for a few years; mostly with unicorns. The biggest issue we ran into was scheduling. You do need to build attraction since those girls have incredible power (and usually they are well aware). I’d recommend just being fun and making getting laid friction free. The double edge sword is that as you build attraction w/ the unicorn, it begins to imbalance the things w/ your wife. My only advice is this: it could end at any time so make sure you…
/r/askTRP07/12/17 06:22 PM
4

She’s got to be adding significant value to your life today. If there’s any “you need to prove” BS coming from her then she thinks you’re in her frame. It’s easier to cut the cord and start w/ someone else where you aren’t starting from behind.
/r/askMRP07/12/17 04:58 AM
1

When you go to interview for your next job and they ask why you left your previous job you won’t have to worry about avoiding telling them you were fired for sexual harassment or misconduct.
/r/askTRP01/12/17 11:39 PM
0

You must be feeling pretty good after listing all those feeble excuses.
/r/askTRP28/11/17 12:16 AM
1

This isn’t something you can control. If you’re like most soft guys, you’re encouraging her behavior. You have to start being direct with her. Step two is increasing the events you take her that will require dressing to show her body. Start by acknowledging her weight change as not good and find out what her plan is. If she has a plan, let her know she’s lucky and you hope it gets serious soon. If she doesn’t have a plan, you are shocked and you recommend she comes up w/ something quick to addre…
/r/askTRP23/11/17 01:55 AM
49

When you improve your physique, dress properly, and speak with confidence you open far more doors in life. I’ve had better job opportunities, better success at work, been singled out as a high performing athletics coach, etc. you also learn to game more areas in life; you ask for discounts, extra service, get barges waived, upgrades, etc - all by appearing as though those things are rightfully yours and influencing others.
/r/askTRP23/11/17 01:30 AM
3

Seriously! Go to 3rd world countries. Those people aren’t skinny because of the gym membership - they ain’t eating.
/r/askTRP21/11/17 05:31 AM
1

Are you comparing internship rates with salary rates? Don’t. You can’t lose what you don’t have (job offer). You should have a reason for asking for more money (competing company offer, other opportunities, etc), but first pressure flip if thy bring up the salary first. “Interesting offer. I’m aware of the market rates for an internship with several local (similar) companies and their package includes more features. Help me understand the rationale you’re using for this offer”
/r/askTRP17/11/17 07:52 PM
7

While I can’t say you are overreacting, it’s my persona opinion that you don’t wave a gun around and run your mouth about shooting it. I think you gave away the element of surprise and Sun Tsu would be disappointed. See a lawyer, learn the game you’re about to play, delete into cash, stay in the house. Personally I don’t think the PI route is worth it if you’re in a No-Fault State. Sooner or later she’s going to self-righteously spill her guts about how she’s been holding this in for so long.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/17 12:48 AM
1

It’s like you are able to identify all the problems and actions but you’re still acting clueless. Why don’t you make a decision instead of asking us?
/r/askTRP24/10/17 07:56 PM
2

Anyone ranting about women being whores to a predominately male subreddit will carry that stench of low value with them whenever they encounter women. It’s a sad cycle.
/r/TheRedPill24/10/17 07:47 PM
1

The only reason you’re asking here is because you already know the answer but you’re too much of a pussy to follow through with what you know you need to do. I’d immediately put the brakes on marriage plans and rigorously re-evaluate your life choices.
/r/askTRP23/10/17 11:31 PM
2

Of course you know it’s because the girl is new! How difficult is that to understand?! Close one relationship before starting another.
/r/askMRP19/10/17 05:08 PM
0

LOL. Please go back to playing your video games and playing with dolls.
/r/askTRP19/10/17 05:07 PM
1

Who cares if you like her?! She is done with you. Act accordingly.
/r/askMRP19/10/17 05:12 AM
3

Yes. Everyone is replaceable. Gave my Ex-wife every chance to turn the corner to get on the bus but she didn’t. I’m FAR happier now w/ my GF. High value, smart, redpill woman even.
/r/askMRP19/10/17 03:49 AM
2

Separation doesn’t do anything that divorce won’t do. She’s pulling the trigger for you. See a lawyer and learn what’s about to go down so you can set your plan and protect yourself. You’ll buy some time by “making the separation” official with an attorney. That should distract her while you protect yourself and stockpile cash.
/r/askMRP19/10/17 02:30 AM
0

For context, my wife was my 2nd and my first was only great in the “no longer a virgin!” aspect. We had good sex for most of the marriage and then around the 15yr mark we got the itch to experiment. And we started having threesomes with single girls (unicorns) and I got to have some side plates. I thoroughly enjoyed the variety and I liked the opportunity to see how my techniques worked on other girls. It was a fucking boost to resize I did things so well and that several told me they’d never ha…
/r/askTRP19/10/17 02:23 AM
3

You haven't put the work into being someone's women want, so this is the way it works. Read the sidebar.
/r/askTRP09/10/17 03:47 AM
23

It means "wrap it up".
/r/askTRP09/10/17 03:45 AM
1

Be attractive. Be engaging. Be confident.
/r/askTRP07/10/17 08:15 PM
3

Thank you for the caps. It seemed obvious, but sometimes you have to yell before they hear you. When can we talk about Fight Club?
/r/askMRP07/10/17 08:07 PM
2

Self improve cones first. Finish that job and then worry about getting laid.
/r/askTRP07/10/17 08:02 PM
2

I sleep naked w/ my GF. She's naked 95% of the time as well. It's literally step one of initiation. It leads to sex at night and sex in the morning regularly.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/17 07:57 PM
2

All things being equal, a wrestler needs to be aware of which foods provide fuel and which foods contribute to weight gain. It's the foundation that has allowed me to remain fit and lean my entire life.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/17 07:52 PM
4

Good point about injury or head trauma. At least you learn how to take hits to the head and keep functioning. The major benefit of wrestling is that you learn about close body combat and pain thresholds. The majority of the people I've gotten into a scuffle with turned into harmless kittens when I put them on the ground.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/17 07:47 PM
1

It's just fear and inexperience that brings on your reluctance.
/r/askTRP01/10/17 01:47 AM
1

When will you new its realize that Shit Tests are an invitation to play and have fun? You sound very low value at the moment. Why would she want to stay with you? These are the shit tests that hurt the most; the ones that remind us of how much work we have to to before we can have fun.
/r/askMRP01/10/17 12:48 AM
1

It sounds like you've realized that you have a lot of tools at your disposal but you don't understand what hey do or when you should use them. So she woke up from a nap in a mood; who cares? Give her a bear hug and cradle her in your arms and ignore when she acts like a child. Because that's what women do. Acting like a bitch to you? She's just flirting and playing. How playful are you with her in return? Get out of "reaction mode" and move forward with your MAP.
/r/askMRP01/10/17 12:43 AM
1

You can't fix the marriage because you are the one that fit your marriage to this point. You've trained your wife when you thought you were asking her for something different. Focus on making yourself into a man that women admire. Your wife will ultimately get first shot at being married to that man or you will realize that you e tied yourself to a low-value woman and you'll need to decide whether you stay or go.
/r/askMRP01/10/17 12:37 AM
1

Fear tactics seem helpful by they really don't accomplish anything useful.
/r/askMRP01/10/17 12:22 AM
4

I wasn't able to. It's like pretending your car doesn't have a flat tire while your driving on the highway. The kids see what's going on. You are training them. Do you want them to emulate how your relationship works?
/r/askMRP01/10/17 12:19 AM
1

Abs are built in the kitchen. You haven't mentioned anything about your diet. You can't do it all at once. If you want to bulk, get bulky and then cut.
/r/askMRP10/09/17 10:03 PM
2

Thank you for the kind thoughts. It's an issue because sex and sexual bonding are highly emotional for both men and women. Few are good at keeping those emotions separated. I've been around a lot of relationships that were open (and mine was only open to women because I wasn't interested in sharing my wife with another man) and they will hit a critical point. Like any man, more sex is good but more women to have sex with is better. In that moment, there is an implied "caring" that will grow. I t…
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/17 08:24 PM
6

It can work, right up to the point where everything implodes. If your man and your relationship are worth losing then this is worth trying. What I found in my last marriage is that the extra female partners were enjoyable, but instead of sating some forbidden desires, they always highlighted existing relationship issues.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/17 04:39 PM
1

First of all RPW isn't at all like your LTR was acting. Second, in an LTR, there are times when your goals have to coincide; otherwise why be in that LTR?
/r/askTRP09/09/17 12:56 AM
2

It's good that you've got many aspects of your life dialed in. I'd recommend just living your life like you're going to die next year. What would you do then? How many hours a day would you put toward the people in your life? What bullshit would you stop putting up with? Where would you go? What new things would you learn?
/r/askMRP08/09/17 11:28 PM
1

Well only a faggot beta would answer like you just did, so we'll wait for you to guess the correct answer.
/r/askTRP08/09/17 01:17 AM
3

Once you digest the pill, it shouldn't be anger, but more disappointment. For me it was the lost time. I'm 46 and so close to final divorce. The upside is my new GF is about 15yrs younger, attractive and a tight body. Sometimes I can't be certain if I've got ED or if guys my age just can't do sustained, daily, morning and night sex.
/r/askMRP04/09/17 11:47 PM
1

You are under the impression women use rational thought processes for these topics?
/r/askMRP02/09/17 12:01 AM
1

She needs a man that can lead her when she struggles and laugh at her when she shit tests.
/r/askTRP01/09/17 11:58 PM
-2

Who cares what an HB5 says, does, or looks like?
/r/askTRP01/09/17 11:57 PM
1

Hopefully you haven't just recently noticed there are fantastically beautiful women at al age ranges. Bear in mind, I know a lot of these older women, as I'm in this age range, and I can tell you, without a doubt, that there is no substitute for youth. That doesn't mean I don't enjoy tagging them when the option arises (and when I'm not in a relationship).
/r/askTRP31/08/17 10:30 PM
1

The wall is like a biological clock. It gets more difficult and hard on the body to have kids in your thirties. The girls that have their fun and don't bother with any meaningful relationships get stuck competing against younger, more fertile women with hard bodies.
/r/askTRP31/08/17 06:38 AM
2

Why are you in her frame so deep? Why are you making stupid suggestions about her decision process? More STFU, more Amused Mastery.
/r/askMRP31/08/17 04:24 AM
1

She is setting you up to accept her mediocrity by fucking your brains out. Tell her you don't want sexy as much anymore because she's not as physically attractive at her current weight. Of course she will get pissed and your pussy self is going to have to handle some shit tests, but she'll either lose the weight or lose you. My ex-wife was like that. Always DTF and great at sex and even liked to bring other girls home for us to fuck. BUT, she could never kick the weight off and she always acted …
/r/askTRP29/08/17 02:22 AM
1

There's a lot of truth here, but you're showing too much fear at the same time. The Daddy complex in general is a better way to look at women. Think about it, for most of their life, their Dad is invincible and capable at the same time. Tickling them, teasing them, carrying them on his shoulders. And what happens when little girls are brats to heir Daddy? Does he get al butt hurt and start saying "but I'm the Dad! You need to respect me! Stop your shit testing!" - - nope, they get ignored or the…
/r/TheRedPill27/08/17 06:50 PM
3

You can't lose what you don't have. If you're too much of a pussy to answer that the sex is sub-par, then you'll have a very long road in front of you.
/r/askMRP17/08/17 03:29 AM
7

Time isn't your issue. The fact that you haven't done a level of work commensurate with changing her mind about your status is the problem. Maybe put as much energy into making yourself better as your putting into thinking about having sex w/ a person that isn't into you.
/r/askMRP17/08/17 03:23 AM
1

If that's really the case, even if you were running a solid MRP routine, you still need to put effort into turning her on.
/r/askMRP17/08/17 03:17 AM
0

Don't try to be something you aren't.
/r/askTRP16/08/17 04:25 AM
2

It doesn't sound like you are leading shit in this relationship. Why lie to her with that "something this year" bullshit?! Give her the recipe she needs to follow. Developing her education or career, if she isn't totally physically attractive then now is the time to address it, as for finances you should be in charge as opposed to asking her to do things. You've got a lot of ground to cover.
/r/askMRP16/08/17 03:03 AM
11

She's just playing with you. It was the way the two of you first related/bonded and you apparently handled it well enough that she gets to continue teasing you. She's happy it doesn't bother you because she doesn't feel that way about you. She continues to play the fun game that the two of you like to play. I don't see the issue??
/r/TheRedPill16/08/17 02:45 AM
2

I'm asking the questions to see what research you've done or if you've found a self-diagnosis. Do you have children? Have you ever coached children in sports? I'll give you a hint: your poor frame encourages your wife to act like a bratty child.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 09:54 PM
1

How much of the sidebar have you finished reading? How many days per week are you lifting weights? Your wife acts like a bully because you've got no frame. How did you act last time a man attempted to bully or ridicule you?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/17 08:59 PM
1

Thanks for providing examples. You showed conclusively that you've got zero frame. You are angry at yourself for being a beta pussy. Back to the sidebar and lifting for you.
/r/askMRP03/08/17 07:42 PM
1

By asking the question "What's wrong with her?" you are admitting that you aren't owning your shit yet. Start with you first. Grow, practice, learn, and apply your craft and THEN you can stand up and look around. Imagine you're climbing a mountain side by ladder. The view at the top is supposed to be amazing, but on the climb up you're in the clouds so visibility is very low. Don't be that person worrying about how the view will look or if you brought the right equipment because that's wasted ta…
/r/askMRP01/08/17 07:09 PM
40

First be honest with yourself about whether or not you think your body is at a level of fitness you are happy with. Don't use terms or excuses like pear bottom; do you have weight you rationally could lose? If yes, then lose the weight. As to insecurities, if your bf has a high enough SMV to date "model types" then be aware that your insecurity will grow until you are happy with you. Don't tie your body satisfaction to him.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/17 12:51 AM
3

Silk ties are fairly dangerous for rope play my dude.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/17 03:05 PM
2

You'll be fine. Executives usually speak directly and succinctly.
/r/askTRP29/07/17 12:09 AM
6

Catch & release. What is there that is confusing? Ever been fishing? Catch & release. It isn't "catch, pull into the boat, take measurements, show the other fishermen, pose for a photo, put on your stringer, then release". If a person is too much of a pussy that they need to take their ring off for C&R then they probably shouldn't me doing it. See an attractive chick, engage her, flirt, get her number, then move on. If your wife sees the number in your phone or pocket, the obvious response is "o…
/r/askMRP25/07/17 12:20 AM
1

Tough situation. If you already know you're going through w/ divorce, start researching and planning your exit strategy. The first issue is $$$ - make sure you've got some stashed. Easier to start now. See a lawyer today so you can figure out what the rules of the game will be. No sense in wasting 6mos when you could have an expert advising you. Dread is great and all, but you need to figure out a way to quit the excuses. Just practice your frame with her. Now is a great time since you DGAF (hop…
/r/askMRP24/07/17 04:28 AM
2

It's never too late to start being amazing. It's also never too late to kick dead weight to the curb. Don't just stay married if she isn't making your life better. Be aware though, I'm not sure WTH you've been doing for 4yrs, but if you don't know today, you might never know. Seize life friend!!
/r/MarriedRedPill24/07/17 04:23 AM
2

We are wired to think that familiar is better than it is; especially in situations where a woman rings out bell. Only you can tell if you're Oneitis for her. Sounds like it, but that might not be the worst thing in your position if you have the tools and use them. FWIW, I found myself in a similar situation, mid-40's, recent divorce, etc. audited a lot a lot of women before the divorce and the girl I'm with now was clearly above the rest (sex, brains, body, career drive, and i swear shes RPW) an…
/r/askMRP24/07/17 04:21 AM
1

My GF gave me a hard our first time we had sex. Let that statement sink in. There are lots of time that after spending time and effort to get her in the mood throughout the day, that she just isn't into sex. Do I come on reddit and complain that I got shut down? Shit no. You're alone with her, so do things you want to do. I don't need her to rip my clothes off and ask me to fuck her. But sometimes I'll be giving her a naked massage and I'll realize how tired I am so I'll tell her I'm not into it…
/r/askMRP22/07/17 06:47 PM
2

Why is my Honda not as fast as a Ferrari? Sounds like you're in a situation where you're waking up after 15yrs asleep/complacent. You chose a woman with a really strict/sheltered upbringing and you haven't put the careful time into her education to the kind of sexual relationship you want (because she's got the kind of sexual relationship she wants). She is not gong to do any of this on her own. She will only do it when she's attracted to you AND SHE wants it. You'll. Red to spend 90% of your se…
/r/askMRP22/07/17 05:27 PM
2

You are mistakenly giving yourself 50% Alpha credit. Reading your post I'm struck by the fact that you can't admit that you're at leas than 5% Alpha. Your SMV won't "grow"; you create it through hard work and effort. Until you realize how truly far away from the goal you are, you won't make much progress. See who you are today and accept your position. Then the work can begin. Stop worrying about being with a "strong woman" and instead worry about why you are such a weak man.
/r/askMRP19/07/17 03:54 AM
1

While your concern with "being ok" is disturbing, the real problem is the "you have to agree to what I want, the way I want it or you are Shit Testing me". Here's a better question: if this were a random girl you met at a party, would you have acted the same way? How many women would you walk out on before you realize that if you put a little more effort in your game, you'd leverage those handjobs into anything else you want?
/r/askMRP16/07/17 11:31 PM
3

Stop thinking things like this or saying them out loud. Makes you sound like a woman. This event began because you asked a question you should have known the answer to already. In fact, her response indicates that there's more shit for you to own before this ship can sail straight.
/r/askMRP16/07/17 11:24 PM
2

So you're leaving because your boss wrote checks he couldn't cash for a promotion that's "never been done" yet you are somehow both shocked and butt hurt? How about don't leave a job until you've learned everything you can learn from it.
/r/askTRP16/07/17 10:50 PM
1

So much talking. It sounds like you like this girl. That's fine. It sounds like you are josh very busy, although she gets moody when she can't spend much time w/ you. You don't understand frame or leading. If you want to lead her as well as spend time w/ her, why not find out what her schedule is and plan things to do with her instead of selling those bullshit MLM pills at al hours of the day? It can't be this easy; or can it?
/r/askMRP16/07/17 10:47 PM
1

Well are they old-manish? If she's accurately calling out your horrible clothing style, it might be time for you to re-evaluate your choices. If you like the shorts then use A&A. It's ok to take her comments as input. You don't need to share her view or agree.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/07/17 05:50 PM
2

Wow, you are very stupid.
/r/askMRP12/07/17 03:52 PM
2

This is a pretty deep concept that is easy to overlook. Initiating sexual situations for women can be as simple as being available and open to sex (like if you're presented with a gift). Initiating for you is unwrapping the gift. Note this does not mean she is gifting sex, it's just figurative.
/r/askMRP06/07/17 05:58 PM
2

You're over-generalizing. Hot women are like ping-pong balls bouncing around from one interest to another.
/r/askTRP05/07/17 07:54 AM
1

Thanks man. It takes walking through fire to figure it out.
/r/askMRP05/07/17 07:32 AM
6

It isn't a race thing. The person that asks those question is a person that is such a blue pussy they obsess on an issue they've made up in their heads (after not even applying the learning), but they bring their low confidence here and hope to get a free pass. It's a non-existent thing. Why do you care?
/r/askTRP04/07/17 04:24 AM
2

How do you know you lost your virginity? Same way. You need to actually apply what you read.
/r/askTRP04/07/17 04:20 AM
1

She just isn't that into you. Improve yourself and make changes from being the dependent little Blue Pill to being a captain. SHE won't be the one that determines when you've arrived. But maybe you'll figure out when to stop putting effort into something that isn't going to happen. It isn't her fault. You trained her.
/r/askMRP03/07/17 06:15 PM
9

You're at the normal point in life when you realize you may have fewer days in front of you than you have behind you. You've also spent most of your marriage training/enabling your wife to be the way she is. It will probably take several years to break her and even then she may not be the person you want to spend your time with. I was at a similar point at a similar age in my life. The wife wanted nothing to do w/ changes on her end while I spent several years growing into the person I wanted to…
/r/askMRP03/07/17 05:51 PM
1

It sounds like you're already on a failure path. Yes the failure usually adds up to your fault. You don't strive to better FOR the next relationship, the next relationship will be better if YOU are taking control of your life and being the best you can be for YOURSELF. When you are solid in mind and practice, plates or LTRs will put in the hard work to keep you (the prize).
/r/askTRP02/07/17 10:22 PM
4

TRP might look at this situation as "marriage is fucked so you might as well nuke it and go spin plates because AWALT" whereas MRP favors a moderate approach where divorce is close to the end of process. And it isn't "about sexual strategy" as much as it's about understanding the human interaction dynamic. More reading for you.
/r/askMRP29/06/17 07:02 AM
5

Abusive relationship w/ Father. Absent mother. Unresolved childhood sexual trauma. Anger control issues. No solid female friendships. Olympic hopeful level athletics background. Major self confidence and body issues.
/r/askTRP28/06/17 05:49 AM
1

Sounds like a bunch of pikers.
/r/askTRP27/06/17 04:10 AM
1

It's not limited to cheating. My ex and I had sex with a lot of single girls (unicorns). Very few people knew that we'd be getting girls phone numbers while out w/ friends and even fewer knew some of the girls we were giving rides to were actually getting ridden later that night.
/r/askMRP25/06/17 06:45 AM
2

Sometimes you can't continue to fake your interest or pretend that she didn't do anything to maintain your attention. Why fight for something you don't want? I'll tell you that the relationship I have w/ my GF is fantastic. Not every relationship can flourish again after it was starved for so long.
/r/askMRP25/06/17 06:38 AM
1

It's a convenient way for girls to brush off orbiters. Sometimes they do it because you aren't interesting and other times they do it because hey are screening out the losers to see which guys will fall for it or how they fold when they hear it.
/r/askTRP24/06/17 05:13 PM
1

Tommy Lee has fame and game so he doesn't have to lift. You have neither &I you're asking such a lame question, so you obviously need to lift.
/r/askTRP20/06/17 02:59 AM
1

She's either busy or not that into you. Or she senses your growing Oneitis.
/r/askTRP20/06/17 02:34 AM
14

No smoking if LTR. If ONS, I can withhold my disgust for a few hours of fun.
/r/askTRP20/06/17 02:33 AM
2

Cutting belly fat in one week?! You sound like a woman. A weak, fat woman.
/r/askTRP20/06/17 02:31 AM
2

The same way you initiate driving to dinner or entering a house.
/r/askMRP19/06/17 01:03 AM
3

A captain isn't worried about upsetting the crew when avoiding stupid decisions. Say NO to lending the money and instead tie it into a "give a mana fish and he eats today; teach a man to fish and he eats for a lifetime" sort of message. It will sound strong the first time you say it only because of your bluepill track record.
/r/askMRP19/06/17 01:00 AM
2

Lots of good insight in here, but here are my thoughts. Yes, it is a challenge to manage with scheduling and still keeping the experience fresh. I wonder if aiming for doing something every night is too optimistic? Focus on quality interactions, not quantity. With the right training & leadership, there isn't any reason your 12yr old shouldn't be able to be the babysitter long enough for you and your wife to leave for a few hours and come back when everyone is in bed.
/r/askMRP14/06/17 06:38 PM
1

Once you eject from the first marriage it's easier the next time. I think that's all it is.
/r/askMRP14/06/17 06:26 AM
1

I may be out of line, but I don't think day game is even an option at your age. Overall, day game is engaging anyone you're interested in and testing out techniques.
/r/askTRP14/06/17 03:39 AM
1

Do you work at the same company? Christ in a crutch.
/r/askTRP14/06/17 03:06 AM
0

Have you ever heard someone say "don't shit where you sleep unless you work at a 400 person company and the girl isn't in your department."?! Come on dude. You're going to have to engage some brain cells.
/r/askTRP14/06/17 03:05 AM
3

So, you're in high school now? Dude, there's plenty of time for women later. Develop yourself. See the world. Have life experiences. Some HS sweetheart isn't going to facilitate that. If you guys find each other again in 8-10yrs, cross the bridge then.
/r/askTRP14/06/17 02:24 AM
2

Why not focus on yourself and apply light game to outside plate potentials (see also Catch + Release)? The mere fact that you are frequently honing your skills w/ other women keeps you sharp, but it also reminds you that you've got options. The latter tends to be the most relevant to your frame strength.
/r/askTRP14/06/17 02:04 AM
1

The problem w/ your plan is that it's difficult to discern when you have a Type2 girl until after she's gone. Which is confounded by the fact that even when you think you've found a Type2 girl, the Type1 girls are so hit and fun to play with, that you soon think your Type2 girl isn't as important. The female version of this is called Cock Carousel.
/r/askTRP14/06/17 01:59 AM
1

You sound like a child. There are probably lots of different reasons your frame is so weak, but you can't demand absolute respect every time you think you deserve it. It sounds like she was playing with you. But since you've got no frame and you don't know how to handle shit tests, you failed like a brat and are no closer robber wanting to fuck you.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/06/17 02:33 PM
2

Again; it will take deep honesty with yourself. You're at the point now that you are supposed to be selfish and think of yourself (instead of putting "other" people in front). Do you genuinely like her today? Can you let go of the negative feelings? Is she providing value to your life?
/r/askMRP08/06/17 11:22 PM
1

It sounds like you don't lead and oh your wife and Mom are frustrated. You need to have the talk with your Mom where you tell her that your love for her hasn't hanged, but she needs to find a way to put the work in to make your wife feel comfortable. Then listen to her complaints about your wife. Now have the same conversation w/ your wife and tell her your Mom is going to make changes (and now bring up whatever your Mom told you in a constructive manner).
/r/askMRP08/06/17 10:11 PM
1

It's hose meanings as well as a third that perhaps you are getting skinny and not making mass. But mostly the first is what they mean. "You are getting in great shape and now I need to put work in"
/r/askMRP08/06/17 10:05 PM
1

Respect is earned. You don't sound like you are doing anything to command respect. Maybe spend time reading the sidebar AND APPLYING THE READING TO YOUR LIFE while you are in monk mode. You most likely don't deserve things or pussy, so stop acting like you do.
/r/askMRP08/06/17 08:08 PM
3

Frankly you should A) be leading the direction and change ups B) understand what gets her off and what she isn't in to. I tie a ton of my satisfaction to leaving my GF breathless. I can tell what she's into and what she's warming up to. Just like if you walk into a bar that is dead, you'd turn around and leave. I'll change a new position w/ in a few minutes if it isn't working. But I've never asked her if she likes something unless she's already given me the positive body response.
/r/askMRP08/06/17 08:03 PM
6

You come off like you don't realize how early you are in this process. After a year of lifting you are at 335lbs? I need some perspective here. Are you a 6'5" linebacker that can bench 350? You say you know she doesn't want you, then great. You understand that to be an indicator to your SMV. If it isn't where you want to be, then lifting and monk mode is for you. And reading the sidebar.
/r/askMRP08/06/17 07:49 PM
2

That was my first thought. At least he could be honest with himself. If you can't get over it, the. At least be man enough to close out the marriage.
/r/askMRP08/06/17 07:45 PM
1

It doesn't sound like you have awesome frame. It sounds like you've confused being Aloha with being an Autist. Your lame car project isn't the reason you got into this mess, it's the fact that she was gone for a week and it doesn't look like YOU care. Giving her some of the affection you were doing after you ignored her is the comfort test she wanted. It's ok to show your LTR your appreciation for her just like it's ok for you to admit that you should have grabbed her and kissed her first. It do…
/r/askMRP31/05/17 04:51 PM
3

You haven't realized that respect is earned. Also sounds like what you think of being Alpha is really just covert contracts that allow you to justify your lack of leadership. The house is a mess because you aren't leading and your wife isn't on board your crappy boat. She doesn't see you as a captain because what are you doing to act like one?
/r/askMRP31/05/17 04:25 PM
1

Those are comfort tests with the potential to be shit tests if she's physically not up to par.
/r/askTRP31/05/17 04:16 AM
6

Nothing to elaborate on. You lost no details in lifting. Don't appear to have read he sidebar. You have severe Oneitis. There's really nothing to say here until you start putting in some work to improve yourself.
/r/askTRP31/05/17 04:10 AM
4

The bluepill sub is somewhere else.
/r/askTRP31/05/17 04:04 AM
4

Are you autistic or merely the fun police? She's only playing with you.
/r/askTRP31/05/17 03:33 AM
1

Hot women (HB7+) are approached constantly. That's part of the reason you need to learn not to mate guard. A girl in dating is an HB9 & it's almost a joke that the moment I leave, some guy approaches her. It's amusing. I treat them like waiters.
/r/TheRedPill30/05/17 02:20 AM
5

They self-select brother. Your journey is to figure out how to handle yourself in a way where a woman chooses you before YOU leave.
/r/askTRP30/05/17 12:48 AM
3

If you had any confidence you'd be able to land hot girls and not give a fuck about nationality or ethnicity.
/r/askTRP30/05/17 12:46 AM
2

Strong work here.
/r/askTRP25/05/17 05:03 AM
2

In setting up your life situation for us, you've made a common error. You talked about how you've got so many things handled and how you're so capable. But in this example, you've described a Captain whose crew is another Captain that is sometimes drunk. You do not have a High Performance Team where every player knows their role. First: anyone threatens me w/ divorce or leaving or breaking up,m; I hope they don't let the door hit their ass on the way out. Fuck that noise. Second: this is YOUR fi…
/r/askMRP25/05/17 12:52 AM
1

Great post. It's not as common to talk about Beta traits having some merit, but you did a great job of contrasting how they can be a benefit. You're absolutely right that a blend of both Alpha and Beta traits are necessary if a long-lasting monogamous relationship is desired. Just DON'T forget about Fight Club!
/r/TheRedPill24/05/17 11:03 PM
1

Yes it's a massive Red Flag. They're surrounded by every guy that thinks he's Alpha or Chad. The hot chicks that work at these places get bombarded with offers, game, you name it. Tag it while you can and enjoy it, but move along.
/r/askTRP22/05/17 04:28 AM
1

The thing you think isn't oneitis is exactly you having oneitis.
/r/askTRP15/05/17 10:51 PM
1

There aren't answers that make her do what you want. Don't be afraid of answering her directly and letting her make her own informed decision. In that respect, any number of "I'm not looking for anything serious" responses will let her choose or you can choose for her.
/r/askTRP15/05/17 10:50 PM
15

It sounds like you already care too much. I don't recommend living in a car as a forward strategy.
/r/askTRP15/05/17 05:51 PM
1

You haven't done the work necessary for you to stand up as a man and recognize that your wife will either choose to follow the new you or she'll choose to think she can drag you into her frame for the rest of the marriage.
/r/askMRP15/05/17 05:47 AM
2

Unicorns are fictional, so hopefully you understand you're talking about women that don't exist. Beyond that, I've got experience with some unicorns. My ExWife liked other girls so we'd go out and pick up girls for threesomes. Guess what, these girls are called unicorns too. Most of them were single and they didn't play games. Just meet for drinks, go back home, screw most of the night and then play again in a week or so. I learned that Unicorns have an expiration date. At some point in the rela…
/r/TheRedPill14/05/17 06:10 AM
0

What kind of animal are you? Of course you should Manscape.
/r/askTRP14/05/17 12:41 AM
5

More like some combination of mindfuckery from her parents while she was being raised, which results in glaring insecurity. Do NOT try to fix her with BP orbiting behavior, but DO take advantage of the situation as she isn't able to accurately interpret SMV. These types of girls just want someone that doesn't care what they say about their looks even though she'll continue to fish for validation from you. I think it's a general rule that when you validate his level of insecurity, she'll naturall…
/r/askTRP14/05/17 12:40 AM
2

Maybe find out what she's looking for before jumping to diagnosis. Is she not getting multiple orgasms each session? How many is she normally capable of having? Does she like you thrusting harder or longer? I made it a practice to bring off whatever girl I was with at least once before penetration. I was fortunate to experiment when I was married as my wife and I brought home unicorns for threesomes. Turns out most chicks are the same. Flirt and tease with them before you get in the bedroom. Fin…
/r/askMRP12/05/17 01:00 AM
1

Yeah, you've trained her real good. Just grab her over your knee and spank her and then fuck her as necessary. That should take her intimation streak in a better direction.
/r/askMRP02/05/17 08:53 PM
1

Your woman was pissed because you've got no poker face and she suddenly felt like a damn waiter had more frame than her "man". I fucking hate when people cal me "guy" or some shit like that. Half the time it's just how they grew up and it's harmless (although still irritating). The half of the time they're actually belittling is different AND hard to be certain. So I just test them by taking their temperature with similar (good natured) treatment. I'll either summon them with completely the wron…
/r/askMRP02/05/17 08:51 PM
2

Yikes. Learn some frame brother. Bad idea.
/r/askMRP02/05/17 08:43 PM
1

Let's ignore your mastery of basic TRP skills for a moment. There are some fundamental ted flags here that you aren't seeing. The night didn't mysteriously go shitty because she went to he restroom and looked at FB. The problem in your relationship was brewing already and you still can't see it where it starts. Maybe you're both drinking far too much. But she is definitely too comfortable being a bitch and disrespectful. That means she thinks her SMV is higher than yours and she still doesn't se…
/r/askMRP02/05/17 08:40 PM
1

That escalated quickly. If sex weren't a problem here, this night could have played into an MFF threesome. If you're into that sort of thing.
/r/askMRP02/05/17 08:23 PM
1

If marriage counseling is a waste of time and money, stop going. I found benefit when my STBX and I went as it helped me come to grips with pulling the cord on the marriage. As to the home interactions, what I've found with so many BP's is they continue to act like a limp dick, even as they start to swallow TRP. Your failure is in leadership, which is a component of Frame. You were perfectly fine not wanting her fucking around w/ your project. So a better response would have been "this is my pro…
/r/askMRP02/05/17 08:00 PM
0

The fact that she's asking to use it as flash money means that she isn't 100% on board with your budget. Depends on how you're setting up finances and how much money she brings to the table. In my view, a gym membership is earned with results: I.e not going to be gym means she loses the membership (tricky since gyms are setting up contracts). Is she fatter than you want? If yes then no she doesn't get to use those funds for something else. It is possible to lose weight for 4mos and then not go t…
/r/askMRP02/05/17 07:43 PM
2

You don't need to always be high energy. Just make sure you have a meaningful presence.
/r/askTRP02/05/17 06:29 AM
3

You know why Moms usually say "you wait until your father gets home..."? It's because they don't always have power. You don't have power, so no you can't just tell her to do something. She has to want to follow your instructions or there needs to be the threat of something she doesn't want to happen. On to your second question of how to take back bets promises. Just make a new Executive announcement. Did you know that Sweden used to drive on the Left side of the road in LHD cars? They made the c…
/r/askMRP02/05/17 06:28 AM
3

What possible benefit do you get from "calling her out"? That's what a drunk captain would do. Start by being prepared. Do that by planning and researching. At the end of the day, you must consult an attorney so you at least understand the game. Currently you're still looking like a drunk captain.
/r/askMRP02/05/17 05:42 AM
4

You are making empty promises and she knows it. Once you become serious about actually divorcing her, then she'll make the decision for you by self-selecting. It will be easy. "Here are my expectations (you draw out specifically which behavior stops) and here are the divorce papers." Anything else and you are only deluding yourself. I spent 15yrs making those false promises. The moment I followed through, she self-selected and now we're divorcing. Easy.
/r/askMRP25/04/17 11:10 PM
1

Too much talking and explaining. You should experiment with giving concise directions to her; think of her as a courier.
/r/askMRP25/04/17 10:55 PM
2

You come across as needy. I trained my new GF and she'll probably be in training for awhile. She "likes to be quiet" which I suppose I don't mind, but I'll go down on her for awhile and then I pull off her to make eye contact with her and I tell her "you taste so good! Do you want more?" Then I might stop and ask her does she want me to lick her (I lick her) or suck on her (I suck on her)? Then I'll just do variations of giving her direction and choice but she has to answer verbally. Just be in …
/r/askTRP24/04/17 11:43 PM
1

Then maybe at time for you to do things you like and ask her to do things you want? This seems awfully simple.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/04/17 04:53 PM
1

Confident. They prefer someone that is confident enough not to ask such a lame question.
/r/askTRP23/04/17 05:58 PM
1

Sounds like you caved in her frame and reassured away any of the Dread that would have gotten you more compliance, more pussy from her or to motivate her to lose weight. This isn't worthy of thanking us. You blew it.
/r/askMRP22/04/17 04:51 PM
7

Why bring up this topic if you know you're significantly overweight? Is it possible that your SO was upset at being trapped into a question where the obvious answer is "yes, you need to lose weight because I'm not as physically attracted to you"? Never ask a question that you don't want to hear the real answer.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/17 05:07 PM
2

This is not the post of a person that has spent any time reading the sidebar.
/r/askTRP18/04/17 11:50 PM
1

How would you know how long it takes to "smash" a hot girl? And are you 15yrs old? Who says smash anymore?
/r/askTRP16/04/17 06:28 AM
1

I don't know that TRP is about sex alone.
/r/askTRP16/04/17 06:13 AM
1

Which values, specifically, do you feel conflict?
/r/askTRP16/04/17 03:56 AM
1

You are deluded and wrong. If she's as hot as you say, she'll always have far more wealthier dudes lined up for a shot w/ her. You barely outweigh me and I'm 6' w/ ~10% BF. Guess what? Chicks like bigger dudes. I'm in sales too brother. Guess what? The only person buying your "my true SMV is higher" garbage is you. You've got serious holes in your game and you're living in her frame.
/r/askTRP16/04/17 03:54 AM
2

But if you're truly at Dread 11, YOU can't fuck up. You don't control her and that's why you do you. She will self select so you don't need to worry. If you're this far along you could give a fuck if she stays it goes, so just let her actions show you. And then don't act like a bitch when her actions tell you she's not on the bus, but her words tell you she is.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/17 03:25 PM
3

I don't think you're being honest with yourself if you're at Dread 11. She doesn't treat you like the prize and you're tired of it. This level of dread isn't an incentive for her to give you something you want. It's the level where SHE TELLS you she's out or SHE SHOWS you she's in.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/17 03:34 AM
3

If you need to get to level 11 before she actually puts work in, I'm skeptical of a turn around. My STBX was like that. She stalled very early in the turnaround and I let her stay where she was. At some point you wake up and see yourself in life and you like what you see because you know you've put the work in. You see results and your peers acknowledge the results and the caliber of women that see those results starts to climb. And then you look at your wife that is still acting like a nag, gup…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/04/17 03:30 AM
3

Cocky: you tell other people how great you are. Confident: other people witness how great you are or hear about your greatness from others.
/r/askTRP14/04/17 02:41 AM
1

You don't attract an LTR; you find them through putting in work and meeting lots of women. Otherwise, your career doesn't necessarily help you get LTRs and I could even see it making the process more difficult.
/r/askTRP14/04/17 02:39 AM
1

So a guy with money banged some hot chicks in a big city and now he thinks they weren't "worth it". The messaging sounds more like he had a difficult time finding intellectually stimulating hot chicks, which is a No shit Sherlock moment. If someone gave you the opportunity to drive their Ferrari for a day, you'd do it. You'd fucking drive that car to get coffee, back to the office twice, over to the gym by the office and then the gym by your house and then you'd go out to dinner across town in i…
/r/askTRP14/04/17 02:13 AM
3

You brought up two different situations. In a party setting, being the bartender is great because you are the king. People go get shit for you. But if you've never tended bar in real life, you don't understand that dynamic so you risk being everyone's waiter. A Bartender owns the drink, makes recommendations, & controls the crowd. No I'm not making that, you're cut off, someone bring me ice, etc. They give directions that are followed and no one fucks with the bartender. If it's a "while you're …
/r/askMRP14/04/17 01:58 AM
2

READ THE SIDEBAR You've got no dread to give because you've trained her to think you're a pile of shit. Worry about lifting, creating frame and making yourself less of a piece of shit. Don't worry about shit tests, just STFO when she acts like a bitch or when she says something you don't like.
/r/askMRP13/04/17 10:24 PM
2

This is a pretty good list. 3: this is a great point for people that are afraid or "staying married for the kids". If your kids are older than 8yrs old, they definitely see the problem behavior and the effects of stress. So how do you want to train them? 5:look at the length of time you need to work together because of the kids and pace yourself. Not every battle needs to go in your favor. But also recognize that he boundaries you allow today are the prison you live in later.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/17 10:01 PM
1

A LDR is not a normal relationship with potential for long-term success. Think of a marriage as a business relationship with a successful, high-performance partner. You can never do enough vetting of this type of partner.
/r/askMRP13/04/17 05:46 PM
2

Too many questions. Sounds like an interrogation. Also the "you deserve a reward" comes off cringey. Either call her number like a man or don't, but blocking your number or whatever is pure weakness.
/r/askMRP13/04/17 12:53 AM
1

Consider that you aren't good at being sarcastic. Sounds like you don't understand timing and modulation, which are obvious components in new environments or around new people. The result is looking like an ass or people thinking you are rude.
/r/askTRP13/04/17 12:32 AM
1

Just buyers remorse. You're surprised it's actually going to happen and now you're nervous. Just go through with it and see how you end up. It works best when the girls are relaxed and friendly. Order a round of mimosas to take the edge off. Talk privately w/ your girl about an overall plan where you'll have more focus on your playmate on the front and then shift more to her afterward (aftercare). Don't force the situation of the girls doing things. That will usually unfold naturally. For me, so…
/r/askMRP12/04/17 10:19 PM
1

Negative. The success from TRP isn't advertising; it's from hard work.
/r/TheRedPill10/04/17 06:03 AM
1

Just keep it simple. "I'm in IT". "My team and I keep all the computers running and make sure the network is safe".
/r/askTRP08/04/17 10:42 PM
1

Dude, you're laying a child in HS and absolutely gripping the bat on why everything is working so smoothly. It's like you're trying to fuck this up to prove there's a problem. Lay off the weed.
/r/askTRP04/04/17 06:32 AM
1

That's a young age to expect much directed training. At the Elementary school ages, they're personalities are growing based on the world around them and how you lead them at home. My 10yr old son is really shy as well. Although I'm very gregarious and talk with everyone and he's with me a lot when I show him how to engage people or how to think of social situations and outcomes. But as soon as he's around adults or strange situations, he's damn near autistic. It's a process of time, leadership a…
/r/askMRP04/04/17 06:20 AM
6

You're second guessing because you can't get the subservient image out of your head. Instead picture it as either controlling the pleasure she gets or manipulating the pleasure you get. Try making her ask you to do things. I like giving my girl oral, but instead of her just receiving, I talk to her and make her say or do things to keep earning it. Something to think about.
/r/askMRP04/04/17 05:26 AM
2

It sounds like you're still visibly rejected and you don't believably have other important things to keep you occupied.
/r/askMRP02/04/17 10:35 PM
1

Getting better from dietary changes? Obviously. Getting better from TRP? No. I had serious acid reflux form HS until I was in my early thirties. Finally cut out soda completely and watched the pH conflict w/ some foods and wow, who knew? No more acid reflux.
/r/askMRP02/04/17 10:22 PM
0

Negative. At her job she's captive and too strong of an approach could make her feel cornered.
/r/askTRP01/04/17 11:09 PM
1

Release implies a successful catch. This was just a random bump. They feel good, but not much progress aside from showing you you're still afraid of your shadow.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/17 11:05 PM
2

So 35, married with 3 kids, claimed to be successful, but not smart enough to avoid the legal issues w/ bagging a cute girl from the office? I'm. It convince you know what you're doing.
/r/askMRP25/03/17 03:04 PM
1

A great Captain doesn't need validation that they are the Captain. FYI, that is the mark of a shitty Captain that needs to always feel like everyone knows they're the captain.
/r/askMRP24/03/17 05:48 AM
2

Yeah, on the one hand, it's hard to show her that you actually know what you're doing. You probably need more than a solid year of mastery before much changes for her. On the other hand, you can't manufacture genuine attraction for her because you can't get past this thing that you helped her do. I yes I'd leave you with this: if you are a solid man practicing the solid fundamentals of MRP, I'd say it's difficult to give you a hall moss to kick her to the curb. Do the work. Put in the pain. Plan…
/r/askMRP24/03/17 02:27 AM
1

Are you autistic or were you dropped on your head as a child? I already know why your progress has been slow, but maybe you don't. At some point, being a man means handling things because you see they need to be handled. But come on, this is your own kid that's sick and it would be easy for you to cover this without making a big deal about it, but you've got some sick, pedantic fantasy about training your wife to ask first?
/r/askMRP23/03/17 06:33 AM
1

Wasn't here a rule about not coming here w/ problems in a LDR? Like, no shit there are problems.
/r/askMRP22/03/17 05:00 PM
3

You've decided, but you're still too weak to move on the direction you need to. You absolutely do NOT need more information about the hotel room. I'm guessing you're too weak to do anything with it anyway. You're at the brink and you're looking for any reason to convince yourself to stay married. More lifting for you and STFU.
/r/askMRP21/03/17 07:16 AM
1

Experience makes you look confident. Acting like you know something you don't makes you look week. The solution is to be confident in whatever level of beginner sex you're at.
/r/askTRP16/03/17 06:43 AM
0

I've been coaching my two kids in a rec soccer league for a combined 10 seasons. Rec league is about fun and basic skills. Even kids that play up in development teams begin to miss the enjoyment of no pressure and having fun. You holding frame is as simple as telling your wife the kids had fun and you aren't seeking her unsolicited advice. If she tried to help again or says anything aside from "yes sir" or "yes coach", just do what I'd do to any of my players; it's 10 push-ups. And I'm not even …
/r/askMRP16/03/17 05:27 AM
3

A great way to practice getting fired. Brilliant idea.
/r/askMRP15/03/17 06:17 AM
2

Cold approach is great but it sounds like you misread their environment or misapplied your approach. Or AWALT. But learn the environment and pace your entry, otherwise, there's more of these failed starts in your future.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/17 06:16 AM
1

So.much.talking. #walloftext I don't typically give a lot of tolerance for shark week. But regardless, you missed an opportunity to be fun or at least to grab her in an bear hug and carry her around. No "I be peelin' these potatoes boss; peelin' 'em real nice" joking around?
/r/askMRP15/03/17 06:07 AM
1

This comment needs to be higher. Sex is supposed to be relaxing and fun. Your brain will kill your hard-on every time. So trade off and have her focus on pleasing you. At the end of the day you're in bed w/ a naked, willing girl. That's a win. You can always try to break the troubling moment by owning it and laughing it off with her or take a drink break (water). Or do what us older guys do and go back for another round of oral on her before trying again.
/r/askTRP14/03/17 03:58 AM
2

Think of needing her as being a little puppy on a leash that's jumping up on its owner for attention. Think of wanting her as a caveman going up to her, throwing her on his shoulder and then taking her back to his cave to screw for hours.
/r/askTRP11/03/17 05:02 PM
2

Oh my god Becky! How rude.
/r/askTRP09/03/17 12:54 AM
2

Cringeworthy
/r/askTRP03/03/17 06:43 PM
3

You need to design what your ideal 48hr period looks like and then take actions to implement. Start with getting up on time, no alarm snoozing. Ideally, you'd put in a 20-30min exercise followed by food. I'll skip the middle of the day, but make sure you are properly hydrated with water all day. Avoid carbonated drinks and coffee/tea. But assume you want to be asleep at 10PM. You should have a light dinner with no spicy food, no caffeine or alcohol (wait until you're in your sleep schedule befor…
/r/askTRP28/02/17 09:32 PM
3

Be confident, charming, & engaging. You aren't flirting with her or showing her you are stronger than she is, but you will show her that you can be fun to work with even if you need to lightly tease her. Confidence sells. Be direct and speak your mind. If the interview or the opportunity aren't going your way, I highly recommend the technique of an early fold. Politely thank her for her time and let her know you don't feel the opportunity, as described, is in line w/ your goals. There's a mild p…
/r/askTRP28/02/17 09:20 PM
2

You sound wonderful! But I'm already in a relationship. It does sound like you're trying too hard to be something you think your captain will want and that might be coming off disingenuous or at least it's a confusing image. Own your shit. You're not a tiny waif, you're a tall voluptuous (hopefully. OT overweight) woman. Be the target and practice being surprised at what form your captain might come. Something you said about how you dress classy, but men want to see you as overly sexual reminded…
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/17 09:12 PM
1

This was just you practicing having a spine. Now you have a glimmer of what that feels like, you are losing if you are in a LDR. She might as well be a plate now.
/r/askMRP28/02/17 08:58 PM
1

Better the hard truth than allowing you to feel success from going on a date and failing to execute. The entire time she was probably waiting for you "when is he going to kiss me/ touch me".
/r/TheRedPill27/02/17 06:44 PM
1

You're making lots of excuses. How's that working out for you?
/r/askTRP26/02/17 05:23 PM
6

That isn't anger, that's the fire hose of truth.
/r/TheRedPill26/02/17 05:05 PM
1

It's always more than you want. Every state is different, but there are online Alimony calculators from State websites that will give you an idea.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/17 03:51 AM
1

Keeping her name and hyphenating are not indicators of commitment. If your girl is published or renowned, there is a PARTIAL possibility that you let it slide. I wouldn't though. Take my damn name exclusively or no deal. The beauty is, it's her choice. Join or die.
/r/askMRP23/02/17 01:02 AM
1

The short answer is, if she's pregnant and you've barely laced up your RP shoes, you're shit out of luck while she's going through her massive physical, emotional, and hormonal changes. Find your own frame, read true fundamentals, lift.
/r/askMRP17/02/17 08:05 AM
1

If you're in MRP you are at least committed to being the best you. Only when you are the BEST are you at a point you get to decide your wife sucks. Right now, this is all a reflection of you but you keep talking about her. I know it's overwhelming and depressing and not fun. It doesn't feel fair. But a man does his work which it sounds like you haven't done. Do the work and earn the choice.
/r/askMRP16/02/17 12:39 AM
1

That's your effort? I mean, congrats on banter w/ a young girl, but have some direction. Catch & release is when you get digits and throw the number away. This isn't that.
/r/askMRP16/02/17 12:33 AM
1

What answer did you come up with when you read the sidebar and why aren't you clear?
/r/askMRP16/02/17 12:30 AM
1

After extensively reading the sidebar material, what do you THINK you should be doing? Please report your gym stats.
/r/askMRP16/02/17 12:29 AM
1

You should be reading the sidebar before posting. This sounds nothing like you know what you're doing and you continue to DEER and accept her shit. Access to your email?! Access to your phone location?! Brother, if you can't justify a $5 purchase to yourself with confidence, you need to look at your position w/ more honesty.
/r/askMRP16/02/17 12:26 AM
2

So.many.words in text. You spent all that time talking about how you are on a path and this is not an example. You only work 4 days a week and she can't handle her job while you're gone?time for tough love w/ her. Start polishing up her resume and get her working. Also, lots of beta enabling wrt your kids. They don't have crap for leadership w/ a weak SAHM is why shit is loose over there.
/r/askMRP16/02/17 12:22 AM
2

To reiterate in case anyone missed it: They will follow or they won't. But you must be one they want to follow FIRST.
/r/askMRP14/02/17 08:07 PM
3

You're still looking at it from the relationship perspective. MRP is for YOU and recognizes the importance of giving the relationship a chance under the new you. But you can't get there unless you put in the work first. And frankly, the best person to practice on is your current nemesis. She doesn't have to agree that she's on your bus, but you have to know it's your bus and how to be the driver. (Disclaimer: my STBX chose not to be on the bus and I'm very happy without her; though Dad for the l…
/r/askMRP14/02/17 08:05 PM
4

Why on earth is this post on TRP?! You paid a prostitute for sex. You didn't earn anything or accomplish anything. As for her giving you such accolades, how naive can you be to believe what a prostitute tells you? She just wants your desperate, repeat business. Can we please put an end to "lost my virginity to a hooker" posts in TRP?
/r/TheRedPill13/02/17 12:36 AM
1

Why does this belong in this subreddit? Where is the relevant TRP content?
/r/askTRP06/02/17 11:41 PM
3

Agree & Amplify. You shouldn't really ask questions if you haven't read the sidebar; otherwise you look clueless. Once you read the sidebar, your questions will have better content because you'll be on the same program as everyone reading TRP.
/r/askTRP06/02/17 11:13 PM
5

You don't always need to since most women see white knights and Blue Betas quite easily. I'd use amused mastery and AA
/r/askTRP06/02/17 10:35 PM
1

Keep telling yourself that.
/r/askTRP03/02/17 01:19 AM
1

Dinner at your place. Cook something simple and small. Straight to couch, floor, or bed.
/r/askTRP03/02/17 01:17 AM
1

Why would someone you haven't had sex w/ need to know? You sound afraid of the answer because you care to much about what she will do or say next. Maybe she only wants to spend her time w/ a guy that will marry her and get her pregnant. Might as well do her a favor and let her know that isn't you. No need to pretend like you're something you aren't.
/r/askTRP03/02/17 01:13 AM
2

Actually, in spite of losing frame (which you need to fix), given the information from your bro, you probably played it really well as dread. Now act like YDGAF and use text for logistics to fuck her.
/r/askTRP03/02/17 12:24 AM
2

I recommend a Period tracking app to do this. I used to use one for this purpose a few years back, although for slightly different reasons. My wife and I were holding up w/ a handful of single girls and the app was great for making notes about cycle, frequency, ration, etc. the toughest part of scheduling threesomes is working around 3 people's weekly schedule, but it seemed like menstrual cycles killed more date opportunities than anything. The app helped fix that.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/02/17 12:18 AM
4

You got duty sex, but thought she wanted you. Then you got butthurt. A) good for her for letting you fuck her when she wasn't into it. You should have gotten it over with, instead of continuing to prolong it. B) you wanted sex w/ her after a big meal (before she could digest) and she obliged you again to take care of your needs and yet again you decide you want to pull a marathon sex session. You need to work on your timing and awareness. She sounds like a great girl that is trying to please you…
/r/askTRP29/01/17 05:20 AM
1

Since you've been clear about the relationship, she is self-selecting out of it. If she is potential LTR, then figure out how to close that gap.
/r/askTRP19/01/17 02:43 AM
1

The fatal flaw is"don't fall for someone else". With her being completely out of the picture, any girl or plate is going to garner more of your interest. I'm not saying the olympics aren't awesome, but my STBX was an Olympic hopeful growing up. Her training, dedication, and pain tolerance is above the majority of men. But that kind of heavy training changes a person. Even if you did his deal and didn't fall for another awesome chick, be aware that your GF will be going through mental/emotional c…
/r/askTRP19/01/17 02:01 AM
3

It's a good story, but not much of a FR. Note of concern, if she can't tell you her weight, but she'll tell you how much she "lost", that's cause for concern. My overweight STBX wife was famous for all that stress snacking and proudly reporting "lost 2 more pounds" but it was just cyclical gain/loss/gain/loss. If you want to use frame here, I'd suggest telling your wife after one of her proud "lost 2 pounds" moments that it would be something to celebrate if you knew how much she weighed. Only t…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/17 10:48 PM
0

That was a long ass post about how you've got your shit together and don't have any problems, but your girl has a problem. You spent so much energy trying to prove how dialed in you are that it's possible you think you are as dialed in as your acting.
/r/askMRP12/01/17 02:54 AM
2

There is incredible value in knowing when to walk away. That doesn't mean it's easy or the preferred option, but leaving is an option. Disclaimer: I left.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/17 04:08 PM
4

Tread lightly w/ other couples. When my wife exhibited the bi-sexual side I simply said "no dudes". We went on to be very successful landing unicorns and spent about 7yrs having threesomes w/ young, single women. But in the early days, it seemed like the only path was to play w/ couples. Just letting you know, that isn't necessary. Put in the work of training your girl how to project a low anxiety sexual confidence and the girls will come. My wife could pull phone numbers and girls on a trip to …
/r/MarriedRedPill11/01/17 04:00 PM
0

You might as well stop posting in any RP related subs with that mindset. There are several BP subs that might be more comfortable for you.
/r/askMRP06/01/17 05:56 AM
1

Learn to summarize your issues. Way too much puke. I couldn't read it all. You might be too weak to make things work with her. She might be too strong/BPD for your "strength" to work. At the end of the day, she's the only one you'll be able to practice this shit with. So put in he hard practice for 6mos and then pull the plug if you have to. Only then would you have a shot of starting over clean. It isn't always possible to make a shitty marriage awesome after so many years with ducked up leader…
/r/askMRP06/01/17 04:12 AM
3

Find a way to specialize in your professional or personal skills. I've been positioning my professional career to allow for sideline consulting and speaking at regional and national conferences. I can do my job remotely from anywhere, so over the next few years, I can work on building my personal brand and future client list while I'm getting a $100K+ salary. But just so we're clear, real wealth is reflected in lack of debt and asset growth; not income ;) I'd far prefer a Lowe salary w/ no debt,…
/r/askTRP06/01/17 03:46 AM
1

If you can't create an event with a $10 bottle of wine in the park, then money to go "out on a date" is false security. I'm in the final stages of divorce and have moved into a new house. Literally empty cupboards, some bar stools, the stereo and my bed in this place. I've been chasing a 9 recently and dealing w/ divorce finances being thin. But she's spent the night several times recently after I cooked her dinner and shared a bottle of good wine. See, it isn't a question of "do you want to go …
/r/askTRP31/12/16 07:15 PM
1

Find something you admire about her (or that she puts hard work into) and concentrate your energy on that (you're such a great dresser; definitely an eye for fashion) but then cross reference it to make sure you aren't stepping into familiar territory with all the orbiters (you're so pretty, wow you're beautiful). This is actually a life technique that works in all of your circles. When you can learn to give this genuine compliments to your boss or other successful men, you identify yourself as …
/r/askTRP28/12/16 01:10 AM
1

Continue to lead and do new things. Don't fall into the trap of a routine. Start having less sex in the bedroom at night. Seek out difficult projects or conversations and confront them head on.
/r/askMRP28/12/16 01:02 AM
2

I usually wait until we're heavy into sex and if they're doing a bad rendition of fake porn star, I'll stop completely, so I have their full attention, and nicely tell that that doesn't do it for me.
/r/askTRP25/12/16 07:32 AM
5

"Have a seat right here". You sound lame and now you're hamstering a way to justify getting a girl hammered and taking advantage of her. If you had any skill you wouldn't need to get her blackout drunk. I do hope you sweat this one out. No rational person would think you were clean here.
/r/askTRP25/12/16 06:05 AM
1

Then you aren't evaluating them rationally. Indecision is a killer.
/r/askMRP25/12/16 02:20 AM
5

You sound like an idiot.
/r/askTRP19/12/16 07:45 AM
1

You should have been touching her long before you got to the movie.
/r/askTRP10/12/16 04:54 AM
0

DGAF, DGAF, DGAF.
/r/askTRP10/12/16 04:53 AM
1

The LDS girls I went to school w/ were great to party with. Stop making excuses and roadblocks. Pace your drinking, be gregarious, circulate the room, and never forget that plenty of girls in LTR's are DTF.
/r/askTRP10/12/16 04:39 AM
1

You're under the impression that other guys are fitness testing bro's? Just demonstrate frame, OYS, and DGAF and you'll stand out in a crowd like a sore thumb.
/r/askMRP10/12/16 04:09 AM
2

You're still too worried about how she feels and it sounds like your confidence is lower than your SMV. I you aren't confident, you've got nothing for her to desire.
/r/askMRP05/12/16 02:56 AM
7

That's the thing brother, I only care if you weren't aware. Far be it for me to come into your sandbox and tell you how to play. As a person that already spent the time "trying to decide" about staying married and ultimately chose to get divorced, I'll say that you can feel feee to PM me ;)
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/16 08:43 PM
5

Great post to help others set their trajectory. In a personal note, if you aren't sure you want to be married to your wife, I do not recommend going through the financial path of refinancing or purchasing a home. Put it off until you KNOW what you're doing.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/11/16 08:19 PM
13

This is a shit situation for sure. You've only been together for 6mos and you're considering a lifelong relationship with her (with a kid). Your biological clock has you hamstering. There are so many unchecked variables you'd probably be more accurate if you threw a dart at a target.
/r/askTRP29/11/16 02:32 AM
3

Don't bring race into it. You sound like you're looking for validation or at least permission to be mediocre.
/r/askTRP28/11/16 10:28 PM
2

Don't want time bullshitting anyone as you're probably poor at it with respect to your field anyway. The screening interview is to learn why you're interested in he field and if your interests are a fit for the company. Instead of bullshitting here, just ask tough questions of them: what percentage of Aerospace Engineering interns do you convert for full time positions next year? What is your target % for conversion? What traits do the successful internship candidates typically display? How many…
/r/askTRP27/11/16 11:29 PM
0

The mistake I made years ago when I found a great girl that had a "rough childhood" is thinking how great she COULD be if I could help her fix a few things. It doesn't work. Over time, you will become the monster that she's convinced is holding her back unless YOU change.
/r/TheRedPill24/11/16 11:02 PM
8

That's a stupid second hand example. You obviously don't do this shit at a job where you big work. So in reality, rule #1 don't be an idiot.
/r/TheRedPill21/11/16 05:53 AM
1

Confidence and attraction aren't influenced by color. Your question, however, carries the stench of low self confidence.
/r/askTRP19/11/16 09:03 PM
3

Only when you're insecure.
/r/askTRP19/11/16 03:23 AM
0

I was at that point and ended up cutting the cord. While I grew to understand the RP path, I also realized that when I chose my wife, I was a different person and so was she. I wanted it to work, but she could never get out of first gear. And alternatively, with her abusive family life, she gets triggered by dominant behavior. I knew it was over when the daily great sex and blowjobs and regular threesomes weren't enough. To go back you have to want her. You have to want her as she is today, not …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/16 10:58 PM
1

If you're mean spirited, you're an asshole. If you're too worried about how she perceives you or how she feels about you, you're a blue beta. Hard to understand the setting from your post, but if you work for the same company, that is risky because she has more control to get you reprimanded or fired.
/r/askTRP15/11/16 10:05 AM
12

When TRP says use text for logistics, you come up with this hen chatter? Get back to lifting.
/r/askTRP15/11/16 03:30 AM
-1

I don't know many 18yr old girls that are into threesomes; especially ones they set up with their friends. She is more likely bringing someone on the offchance you're a serial killer. Just ask if the friend is going to join or watch.
/r/askTRP12/11/16 02:54 AM
3

Anyone can sail a ship in calm weather, but only a Captain can get you back to port in a storm. Most guys never had to put up w/ a difficult woman and that gets mistaken for "being Alpha".
/r/askMRP02/11/16 07:58 PM
2

Sounds like you might not be driving her inner basic instincts wild. You're just physically having sex. Do you tease &a flirt with her for hours or days in advance? Do you actively have sex outside of the bed or bedroom? Do you give too much attention to her getting pleasure? How adept at you at being dominant? If she's a SAHM then she has a job to do. Either she isn't clear about her job or she doesn't want her job. Maybe it's time for her to do a job to help provide for the family?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/16 07:55 PM
4

In my experience coaching children's sports and interacting with kids and parents from school, my observation is the kids are mostly products of their environment. In this case, it's more accurate that your 2yr old son isn't the asshole, but his Dad is the asshole. You also don't talk about your wife or her abilities as a SAHM in a positive light. She picks up on that as well. At the point that she said "you're scaring me", you should have heard that as some type of feedback for you to check you…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/16 08:19 PM
1

This made me laugh until I realized how accurate it was for my wife. Permanent shot tests and off the charts sex. Turns out, all of that crazy sex and threesomes doesn't cancel out the shitty behavior. Agreed, don't blame them, because they're just living out their training.
/r/askTRP01/11/16 12:15 AM
2

You already know the issue; you lack the respect of your peers because you don't show easiest for them. If you appear to be "flying off the handle" it means you aren't understanding the needs of the team or you're too much of a brat when trying to get air time for your ideas. Hear what your people have to say and seek to learn the pain. Only then can you lead or get buy-in for a solution. How do you practice? Stop pretending you're better/smarter than everyone. Agree w/ someone when they have a …
/r/askTRP31/10/16 10:40 PM
1

You're a bit young to be in a LTR. This is a blessing.
/r/askTRP29/10/16 04:32 AM
14

You like to hear yourself talk. Time to refine and simplify your message and stop preaching to people that don't want to listen.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/16 04:01 AM
2

Not really if what you posted was the text you sent her. If you had frame you wouldn't have DEER'd or you could have replied w/ logistics to see her.
/r/TheRedPill27/10/16 09:28 PM
1

If it's possible for you to grow to be more Alpha, you'll have a harder time tolerating who you were.
/r/askMRP27/10/16 01:21 AM
12

1,3,4 for me. It should be really easy. Never put your man in a position where he wonders what value you bring to his life. Also, make sure you're acting like the person he wants to grow old with.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/16 04:03 AM
1

That summation tho!
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/16 05:18 AM
2

Because you're still plugged in. Otherwise you'd already know that a woman isn't supposed to be your "other half". You're supposed to be 100% man and understand that AWALT when it comes to wanting to test you or throw tantrums.
/r/askTRP24/10/16 01:08 AM
3

Do you feel like a skilled hunter when you buy meat from your butcher?
/r/askTRP22/10/16 12:48 AM
6

You are clueless. Strippers might be fun entertainment, but their job is to game you from moment one. If they can't game you, there's hundreds more in line behind you.
/r/askTRP21/10/16 02:47 AM
42

No fat chicks.
/r/askTRP21/10/16 02:42 AM
2

It depends on how you define a broken home and what hag means to you. Each person is different, so you'd need to find a way to truly evaluate the good or bad things. I will note, from personal experience, when you get involved w/ a person from a totally different upbringing or social strata than you were raised with, there will be conflicting life plans that you'll almost always have to address. I'm not sure they can be resolved later in a relationship; they need to be resolved early on. Otherwi…
/r/askTRP20/10/16 06:41 PM
2

Only an idiot thinks they can afford a purchase based on what they earn. An informed man understands how their purchase can be justified based on savings, debt load and cash flow.
/r/askMRP15/10/16 03:51 AM
7

Sadly Trump has lost his own plot by continuing to fan the flames of his comments/accusers. He isn't passing shit tests at the moment. He's in DEER mode and needs to be in NEXT mode. instead of controlling the narrative or direction, he's wallowing in. Here we are in another scenario where a timeline prevents us from addressing the women's complaints fully. I think those complaints need to be addressed, but the brisk of what Hillary could do with the SCOTUS is, in my view, a greater risk.
/r/TheRedPill15/10/16 03:18 AM
1

The way you laid out your status and then the cursory look at your post history.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/16 04:27 AM
1

You're not coming in with anything to offer. A man that removes options (divorce) is a man with mediocre choices. You. And be quick to dismiss lifting w/ wonderfully perfect excuses, but no one else is obligated to pay attention. See you in 5yrs when nothing has changed.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/16 10:51 PM
1

FYI, it's difficult to fake attraction. If she doesn't physically turn you on anymore or she isn't into sex. Once you unplug, you typically start seeing all the BS you used to put up with.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/16 10:47 PM
1

Probably isn't your marriage and you may not be doing the kind of work that A) makes it your marriage B) makes HER want to join your marriage and follow you. Keep the calm focus on improving yourself. It's still early for you to decide on nuking yet. But the choice to join whatever shit show or success of a life you have is HERS.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/16 10:40 PM
2

Then let her know she's sending mixed signals and your sensitive brain can't tell the difference.
/r/askTRP09/10/16 03:37 AM
10

She's not into you.
/r/askTRP09/10/16 02:34 AM
9

Zero. Read sidebar. Stop asking stupid questions.
/r/askTRP09/10/16 02:32 AM
1

If I were your sales manager, I'd tell you to call on more clients ;) You're probably doing fine. If you appear antsy it's probably because they aren't getting the job done and they can realize it by your body language. Don't try to rescue them by "carrying" the conversation. Instead switch to open ended questions, followed by probing questions. "Tell me how you chose your career", followed by "what situation convinced you that you made the right/wrong decision", and followed by "can you elabora…
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/16 03:11 AM
1

I'd re-evaluate your perceptions of coffee date vs bowling, etc. why is the feeling mutual? How are you flirting differently than you would w/ bowling?
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/16 10:53 PM
1

You could try to give fewer details about yourself... You're marketable with strong grades and a critical Science degree (STEM) from a school with a positive reputation. If you can demonstrate how your talent with your skills (internships, projects, etc) that will help. Even if you are working on a project or app or business plan that isn't perfect, consider putting the rough outline on your resume. Not only will it show your creativity and how your brain works, the topic might resonate with the…
/r/askTRP04/10/16 04:58 AM
3

How do you accept the fact that water is wet and darkness comes with the night?
/r/askTRP02/10/16 11:31 PM
1

Not only is a woman happy to share her man, other women are happy to share another woman's man. My wife and I used to pick up unicorns a few years back. It was pretty frequent that if we were at a nice lounge or nightclub, she'd come back from a trip to to the restroom phone numbers and sometimes with a smiling friend in tow.
/r/TheRedPill02/10/16 11:30 PM
1

Yep. I practice AM w/ my daughter and the girls on her soccer team. It really is an interesting study to see how they act/react and then you realize how AM works.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/16 02:41 AM
2

Actionable? Yeah. BE MORE INVOLVED. There's your actionable suggestion. Volunteer at school and sports programs. Ive got a son in 4th grade and a daughter in 8th grade. I've seen firsthand how the dynamics of a female led education system continually remove masculine activities and demonstrations and punish boys that "act out".
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/16 02:10 AM
1

You'll know when you're persistent because you are taking measured steps toward your goal without reacting to the pressure of results. In other terms, if you're at bat, you're needy if you convince yourself that you need to hit the next pitch or you're a failure. If you're persistent, you look forward to the opportunity of having another pitch. You'll have an air of confidence about you. So stop acting like a woman.
/r/askTRP01/10/16 01:18 AM
1

I can agree that, rather than one definition, there are variations that play out as a result of environment.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/16 07:02 PM
5

I think fundamentally DEER comes from a place of a lack of confidence and a fear of judgement. I agree. In general a Captain doesn't want to be questioned by subordinates. Your first example of filing the TPS reports is funny. I've surprised some leaders in my company that I indirectly report to by essentially saying that same response and taking accountability. It shocks them onto their ass that someone could confidently admit they failed to do something. But the moment I take responsibility, w…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/16 04:30 AM
1

If you DGAF about the situation (like you're supposed to), you'd let it unfold. She'll make her own decision and that will decide the future path. Letting her self-select her own outcome without your influence is the marital equivalent of "head or chest?"
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/16 04:26 AM
2

An open marriage isn't going to do anything positive for your situation. I've been in a similar situation and all I can say is there isn't enough young, wild pussy in the world that can cover up a shitty home life. Be the model you want for your kids. Two separate, happy households is far better than one melancholy home. I suspect you're really not truthful with yourself about how you feel about your wife being in your life.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/16 04:21 AM
1

I' 6' and 170 and a 31W and I can't remember the last time I was more than 12% body fat but I've never had a girl say my hip bones where hurting her. It's possible you have more pronounced hip bones or she's a complainer or she's not that into you. Position change was probably a good idea. Next time tell her to shut up and fuck you like you owe her money.
/r/askMRP29/09/16 04:17 AM
1

If you replace the words "mid-life crisis" with "swallowing the Red Pill" it starts to make more sense.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/16 04:11 AM
1

Also, we have two kids. Honestly guys, her (our) life is awesome and has been getting consistently better for the past 5 years or so. A siren goes off in my head anytime someone says this. The siren is the sound of a clueless idiot identifying themself to the world. You confront this by being like an exciting man instead of an uptight hermit nerd. Your SMV is near zero if you can't find your way around restaurants, bars, night clubs, galleries, etc.
/r/askMRP29/09/16 04:09 AM
2

You traveled 7hrs to get home to your family and didn't bother to tell any of them when you would arrive? Or you didn't tell any of them how glad you'd be to see them in Xhours? You're not even being cordial to them. Don't confuse being stupid with Red Pill. It does seem shitty that you go to the store and don't tell them. There's a balance between setting yourself up to shop for $200 in groceries when you just wanted to grab batteries and steak. But you can easily be a Captain and foreshadow wi…
/r/askMRP29/09/16 04:04 AM
5

The truth of the matter though is that few people have the discipline to actually lose the weight. So, it's a waste of time to look at "what could be" because the chances are so slim they really can make that change.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/16 03:56 AM
2

The Pencil example is a cogent point that is a key that many people miss. You must find something you are proud about or impressed with. Even if you know you're the only one in the room that can throw a crumpled paper into the trash, it makes a difference because you have something that makes you the alpha. I usually tell people my superpower is Overconfidence, because there's no other way to describe when I DGAF about how strong, wealthy, or successful other people are. The real secret is that …
/r/TheRedPill27/09/16 04:54 PM
1

This sounds like you're propagating a shit show. If you've got kids w/ her, you don't the luxury of going no contact. You sound like you're punching above your weight on this one. You should get a lawyer and follow his advice about paternity tests.
/r/askTRP26/09/16 04:50 AM
1

She's not yours, it's just your turn. Mate guarding is a very white knight, blue pill behavior.
/r/askTRP26/09/16 04:28 AM
3

It's a great plan. That's how my wife and I picked up most of our threesomes. Doesn't matter how smooth you are one-on-one, in this arena, it's the ladies lead. It always failed if I approached or led the conversation. Mainly because the girls typically think you're full of shit or who cares how you act, they want it cleared with your girl. Once they know your girl isn't a bitch they come around pretty quick. My wife would come back from the bathroom with phone numbers and she'd get numbers from…
/r/askTRP20/09/16 04:49 AM
1

Save money, plan to move out with friends. Don't be in such a rush you make a financially poor move.
/r/askTRP20/09/16 03:23 AM
1

Fresh baked cookies. No one can resist.
/r/askTRP20/09/16 03:21 AM
1

You're making excuses. I took the summer off from college and that turned into 5yrs. When I went back to school, I was a similar age. Don't sweat the numbers so much. Just join in the fun and stop being a fat awkward weirdo. You'll do fine.
/r/askTRP20/09/16 03:20 AM
2

It's all up to you, but you can tell a lot about a guy that wants you to do things you don't like. Worse, those guys are usually the uncaring or obtuse lovers anyway; so it's more likely that he doesn't build trust with you sexually (as in, he's careful or gentle).
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/16 03:12 AM
1

Use method 1, but you've got to stop acting needy and meek. These are business transactions and you sound like you e got no clue how to sell yourself or your business in an extremely robust economy. And worse, you let one client become over half your business without a backup plan. Every damn day, your job is building business. It's time you act like you want to be self-employed or embrace the idea of being unemployed. If you're in a niche industry, try to set up local or regional speaking gigs …
/r/askTRP20/09/16 03:07 AM
1

Maybe part of the program is just shutting the hell up and minding your own business?! Nowhere is anyone encouraging you to broadcast. People don't want to believe the truth. Just leave them alone.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/09/16 02:47 AM
2

Running away and fucking off is not a strategy. Who cares how you feel about your wife?! You're the one with a problem here. Guess which person on this planet is best suited to help you learn to own your shit and be a man?
/r/askMRP19/09/16 01:52 AM
1

Listen, this is really easy. If she says those things, that's how she feels. So start treating her like that. She's gaming you into giving her sympathy and love. You might have started to pul some of it back and so she's pressing you even harder with those shot tests.
/r/askMRP13/09/16 05:52 AM
1

Yeah, STFU helps you see your surroundings better whole the shit is flying. Since you don't have to think of something to say, you have time to think and watch what she does. But as you pointed out, it's like sitting on the bench while the team is playing; doesn't feel very useful or awesome.
/r/askMRP13/09/16 05:29 AM
1

How many days per week are you going to the gym and how much weight can you bench press?
/r/askTRP12/09/16 05:44 AM
4

First of all, knowingly participating in cheating is not a great reflection on you. Second, much like learning to never go into business w/ family or friends is just as difficult a lesson as not shitting where you sleep. Think about how you'd like to be a part of a "Church official sleeping with Teenager" scandal and how had would impact you and your family. General advice to having sex or losing your virginity to an experienced woman is to relax, have fun, learn, and above all DO NOT act like y…
/r/askTRP11/09/16 09:08 PM
10

Demanding she text you nudes is weak. If she's not into it, either cope with it or move on.
/r/askTRP10/09/16 12:22 PM
2

Don't change out your entire wardrobe, but make some strategic purchases for at least 2 different social situations you find yourself. That way you can start to understand how it works for you and develop your first stage of style. Plus, most guys will over purchase or purchase thugs that aren't realistic.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/16 01:07 AM
1

Lame question; about how much does it cost to tailor a real dress shirt?
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/16 01:03 AM
2

Dude, tell me a lightbulb went off for you when you just wrote this?! Zero, nope, WTF, Hell no - there is ok good to come of this. She's fucked in the head if she hunks screwing her ex in front of you is going to make you do anything besides vomit and curl up like a baby on the floor crying. Just drop her now if this is the kind of logic going through her head.
/r/askTRP09/09/16 12:19 AM
2

It should be a solid best practice to avoid hitting a woman under any circumstance. It can turn ugly regardless of how you intended it. Not because of her, not because of society. But because of the JUDGE. What are you prepared to tell the judge about your little slap on the cheek? Who the fuck cares, the only thing you need to know is that the JUDGE doesn't care what you think and isn't going to take lightly to you touching a woman like that.
/r/askTRP08/09/16 11:31 PM
2

While you're clueless and out of control, this will be what it feels like. When you develop yourself into a better man that you are motivated to be, you'll have to decide if she sticks around or not. At some level, she broke you and as a result, she doesn't want you. TRP does great at developing you into a man and many women want to be with a real man. But there's no guarantee your woman will want the man you grow into being.
/r/askMRP07/09/16 11:34 PM
2

Solid age reminder; pregnancy isn't kind to a woman's body at any age, but once they crest ~27, they lose a lot of elasticity and that wonderful "hard body after baby" bounce back.
/r/askTRP06/09/16 10:18 PM
2

I feel so sad for guys that are engaged to be married and they're already pulling this shit. Like they're joining a cool, secret club where the wife is "boss". The only lifeline I give them is "you could try telling her that you're going to [insert fun guy activity], rather than asking her, as if she's your Mom". They're so resistant though; maybe they're getting so much of that Alpha vagina they just naturally lose their balls?
/r/MarriedRedPill06/09/16 10:10 PM
1

That's good stuff. Nice and one-dimensional- but if that's the only tune you can play, keep at it.
/r/askMRP06/09/16 06:24 AM
1

But since she's doing what women do, you are showing your delicate side by being butthurt. Or you could use some frame.
/r/askTRP06/09/16 05:46 AM
3

Don't tell me that my day game is the problem. It isn't the problem. I'm in a college town and can't do shot with day game; definitely the town. Not me. Lololollololl
/r/askTRP06/09/16 05:20 AM
1

Correct. But is phrase your statement to be more accurate as such: *having great grades will allow a student to get a great job sooner and have strong career prospects more readily. * For corporate finance, Econ, & Accounting there is a bigger focus on grades. That's just how it is. Does that mean you can't get a good job? Certainly not. But there is a "path" that usually lines up w/ getting a job with the Big 3 and they rely heavily on grades, internships, and how well you demonstrate well roun…
/r/askTRP05/09/16 04:38 PM
2

You still seem confused, but at least you're trying. Still taking being a tough guy too seriously. 1) bookshelf- you didn't involve her in the acquisition process so of course the bookshelf isn't what she wanted. Now it's a constant reminder to her that you don't care if didn't listen. But you still too much "I got you bookcase, now shut it and like me". Get rid of the bookcase and consult with her on what she wants. Have her show you examples and what she's trying to solve. 2) kids, again, you'…
/r/askMRP05/09/16 03:31 PM
3

That's a great catch. I agree.
/r/askTRP04/09/16 06:24 AM
2

Just be aware and make adult decisions.
/r/askTRP04/09/16 01:51 AM
2

Yes, your private life will be under higher scrutiny. The risk is hat it sounds like you're going to go this direction because of the career boost it could give you, but if you get canned for a less than exemplary lifestyle, you'd sacrifice that benefit.
/r/askTRP04/09/16 01:28 AM
2

Comfort test.
/r/askTRP04/09/16 01:26 AM
2

You've done horrible. She's in your head. Even you know you should be lifting.
/r/askTRP01/09/16 11:47 PM
6

Please provide less information before asking us to diagnose. There is no reason to tell us your height, weight, BF, lifting regimen, former weight, how many months you've been losing weight, sample of your diet, areas you think you could use improvement etc.
/r/askTRP01/09/16 11:45 PM
3

Who fucking cares about your iPad. You assaulted a woman!! How dumb are you?
/r/askTRP01/09/16 05:57 AM
2

You went berserk and kicked and punched a girl?! Holy fuck bro, are you not following the Chris Brown debacle? do not pass go, do not collect $200; go directly to Jail. Women are basically children that aren't in control of their emotions at most times. The safe solution for you is not to be in those any side situations. No one ever went to jail for leaving their house to get away from a crazy chick. Contact a lawyer immediately.
/r/askTRP01/09/16 05:04 AM
1

It's almost as if this is a Red Pill Trojan Horse post that serves to send a message. Can't say I argue with it. [edit] the message to TRP readers about the stark cause/effect relationship w/ women
/r/askTRP31/08/16 11:09 PM
1

What about the people that delete their posts? Blue Pill move or perfectly acceptable? I think if hey came her for advice/puke and people spent time responding to them, they should leave it up to help others learn.
/r/TheRedPill31/08/16 07:00 PM
1

Yeah bro, don't touch women. It gets bad real quick.
/r/TheRedPill30/08/16 05:03 AM
0

Not divorced yet. I was against it at one point too. It isn't great for the kids. But I won't model the relationship they've been party to for the last 6yrs. She's had all the opportunity in the world to be a functioning member of the team. But she chose otherwise. I'm over it.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/16 04:42 AM
2

I had a friend that put his wife on a bathroom scale, weekly. Fucking savage! But let's be honest, you aren't remotely RP with how you're going about this. *"supporting" her as she stuffs her face *putting your foot down (calmly) *reasoning with her (or hiding) First the bad news. It doesn't sound like you've got much Red Pill in you. Now the worse news, even if you had some RP skill, waiting until your preg-zilla wife is raging on hormones isn't a great time to do much aside from giving her bru…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/16 04:14 AM
0

you put into words very well a lot of the things I'm going through. Most of all though: She had me, she had everything from me. All she needed was to treat me with respect and be a decent person. It's kind of funny now. Even if I had lost my way for a period and I wasn't the captain I should have been, it was her choice to gain weight and constantly rage at me. So I set my course, I dug into introspection and self-development and I communicated my expectations clearly (just like I do at the offi…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/08/16 04:00 AM
1

Yeah, that's the shitty side of having kids w/ someone and then breaking up. To lose most of the control of who hey being into your kids lives. Sucks man.
/r/askTRP29/08/16 05:07 AM
2

If you can't own up to it, it's no big deal.
/r/askTRP29/08/16 04:51 AM
2

Hey, don't get butthurt and start calling names. Show some substance. Money comes and goes, your character and substance is the key. Don't be sad that all you can get is bar girls.
/r/askTRP29/08/16 04:11 AM
1

Is it ever presented as "optional"?
/r/askTRP29/08/16 01:02 AM
4

You can't be this dim.
/r/askTRP29/08/16 12:50 AM
1

Wealth?! That's your solution?
/r/askTRP28/08/16 11:55 PM
1

Do things I want. Show me I can control you. Obviously you failed if that was your response.
/r/askTRP28/08/16 08:46 PM
4

They aren't really the kind of quality you look for. Kind of like looking for a wife that acts like a slut in bed but probably got that way with a high N count. The more solid you are as a leader and captain, the more you can grow the confidence for the two of you to explore variations sport sex.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/08/16 08:44 PM
1

Yeah, you didn't add or demonstrate value and you didn't lead. "Coffee in my bed or yours?"
/r/askTRP28/08/16 06:48 AM
6

"That's not the direction I'm looking for this to go." Simple, direct, & vague enough to get the hamster going. Probably leads to a shit test of"I'm not a white" or LJBF. Id you suspect she's going that way, you might instead switch to "let me know where you guys go and then meet me in the parking lot for a quickie"
/r/askTRP28/08/16 04:50 AM
4

She's modeling the frame you should be demonstrating.
/r/askMRP27/08/16 05:05 AM
1

Bro, you brought your family to live w/ your parents; you are not getting shit handled any time soon. You really glosses over the $100K debt thing, but obviously your wife doesn't think you've done much to solve it, otherwise she wouldn't be giving you an ultimatum. Figure out why you two aren't on the same page. You are claiming your wife isn't into you sexually while you're in your parent's basement?! I am shocked! Wake up man, your ship is sinking here.
/r/askMRP27/08/16 01:14 AM
4

You're showing good initiative, but concerning that he's 14 and you seem to be trying to "dock launch" a wake boarding beginner. Raise your communication to the wife and paint a big picture that she can see and have room to make decisions under. You didn't say you home schooled him, so the observant reader knows your wife spent the last Xyrs running the show. Now you come in and grab the reigns and pull a Cazy Ivan. Low percentage game there brother. You're the worst breed of absent father that …
/r/askMRP27/08/16 01:02 AM
1

Frame is having clear expectations and no silly covert contracts. "I'm starting a movie in 25mins; I'd love to run my fingers through your hair while we watch." If you something besides the movie you said you were watching, what incentive does she have to join you? What message does it send now that the movie can be delayed because of her schedule?
/r/askMRP27/08/16 12:46 AM
1

Truth in this post. Hiding the fact of "your questions are irritating" or "it bothers me when you tell me one thing and do another" inhibits your ability to move the relationship forward.
/r/askMRP27/08/16 12:40 AM
1

Yes I'm in the US although even agencies I could recommend might be a totally different experience where you live. PM me if you'd really like some suggestions. Otherwise, there are lots of admin or sales related jobs that leverage other skills than motivation. Banking, mortgage, even recruiting (if you're good at talking to people and seeing through bullshit).
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/16 07:21 AM
5

Lots of red flags frankly. You've got some heavy lifting to do and there's no guarantee how this will turn out. Have you ever heard the phrase "the person that has he least invested, has the most power"? Think long and hard about how that is relevant your relationship. Also, if you study personality development, you have both found the ideal person that will allow you to continue your dysfunction. For instance, you claim "everything is great" except he's a belligerent, disrespectful ass to you a…
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/16 05:43 PM
1

Bullshit. Why be so concerned about dating profile pictures otherwise?
/r/askTRP25/08/16 03:21 AM
1

Not trying to bust your chops, but who guided or supported you to that type of degree? I'd kind of like to slap them, on your behalf, but that seems a little overbearing at this point. You're basically an Administrative Assistant or secretary.; provided you're organized. You can find basic Admin jobs for ~$14/hr or more specialized Admin jobs for $20+. I'd focus on getting a job with a technology company as there are numerous opportunities to diversify your skills the more you understand the com…
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/16 03:09 AM
1

That's a very good excuse. How well has it been working for you? If you just pretend like you want to change the dynamic of your relationship, you'll see there are plenty of solutions. Or at least a RP Man would see them.
/r/askMRP24/08/16 11:15 PM
2

Stop waiting until the last moment of waking hours to initiate. Also, initiating fun or risky sex will have greater payoff for both of you. But if she's shutting you down, it doesn't matter how you looked in HS, you still aren't attractive to her; inside too.
/r/askMRP24/08/16 04:09 PM
6

Really curious what job you thought that degree would help you land.
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/16 07:00 AM
2

Less competition because so many are beta or because overweight?
/r/askTRP23/08/16 06:21 AM
1

You got introduced to the bartender?! Wow. Super fortunate. Wake up man, they're professionals when it comes to making people feel they "like" them. Every swinging sick in her bar is hurting on her and she's trying to finish her shift. There are only two ways to play a bartender: 1) she is immediately in to you and is talking about plans for later 2) you are a relatively consistent customer and she starts opening up to you.
/r/askTRP20/08/16 10:03 PM
1

I'm trying to figure out why you acknowledged her question. It just puts you in her frame.
/r/askTRP19/08/16 10:17 PM
2

They are..sort of. Learning how to hold a hammer and nailing some boards doesn't make you a house builder. The overwhelming feedback I see from the code school / bootcamp job interviewers is that they have such a small, fragile foundation. You'd need to have the expectation that you'll be earning a tepid salary and learning mostly at your own until you get a great job opportunity. For the lost part, what they tell you is possible after you pay for their course is significantly overinflated from …
/r/askTRP19/08/16 05:59 AM
1

Just move forward. Stop worrying about making a good decision for you that she also agrees with.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/16 05:41 AM
1

You felt that "yes I'm tired" was the right okay there? Jesus. You sound like a shut-in with no female options. Why aren't you busy doing something awesome? So you think she's telling problem at her awesome work BBQ that her BF is busy kicking ass at something or did she told everyone you were sleepy? That isn't awesome. Why would she rich to come home to you, sleepyhead?
/r/askTRP19/08/16 05:18 AM
1

You can look at it that way because you have a distorted view of what you're doing. If you're successful, either your customers don't have "any question" or they realize they need to reach you during working hours. It's like you're bringing your Beta relationship skills to work and trying to justify yourself :/ Practice being solid in business and not bending over backwards because you think it might raise your value.
/r/askTRP19/08/16 04:54 AM
1

Think of therapy as research. If you were going to build a deck, you'd seek the insight of a master carpenter. Apparently, you have some potential issues to get a handle on. If you can't figure them out on your own, engage a professional to assist. But be aware; excuses will not be tolerated. Own your shit and figure your problems out.
/r/askTRP19/08/16 03:50 AM
1

So you become physically disgusted by a topic that is as normal to women as Liftiing is to men? Sounds like you need to chill the fuck out and let women talk about what they talk about. Your anxiety is obvious to then, so it's something you should figure out.
/r/askTRP19/08/16 03:47 AM
1

Are you enjoying your wife's frame? Good because that's where you're going to stay until you sack up. Don't come here telling us "my kids are my weakness". I expect to hear that from a woman. Your kids need a rock. Be the rock or hand your bald to your wife.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/16 03:07 AM
1

Are you enjoying her frame? Because that's where you're going to stay until you sack up. Don't fucking tell me "my kids are my weakness". I'd expect to hear that from a woman. Your kids need a rock. Anything else is a disappointment.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/16 03:06 AM
1

A woman that says she wants a "Real Man" means not you. Or she isn't nearly worthy of a real man, so the statement is moot.
/r/askTRP19/08/16 02:56 AM
1

You're putting the carriage before the horse. The man proves he is marriage-worthy, but you're putting a marriage ribbon on HIM. This isn't pin the tail on the donkey honey. Working long hours and making "a lot of money" are not unilateral excuses to be a poor captain. That is red flag city. He's going to need to demonstrate that he can balance work and personal life. Otherwise, he's telling you the life he wants, even if the reality doesn't match his words.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/16 02:39 AM
1

The first step is realizing that you don't matter. Not does your opinion of your abilities or value matter. You're going out of your way to be helpful, with the expectation that anyone cares. That's called "covert contract". Read up on it. Almost any issue in the workplace can be fixed with two adjustments. 1) no one cares about you because you aren't as good at your job as you think you are 2) you aren't as good at your job as you think you are, so get back to working your ass off.
/r/askTRP19/08/16 02:21 AM
1

Sounds like you aren't clear on plates V. LTR girls. You don't get to choose which things are red flags and which ones are fine. You're also trying to act like you've got a specific SMV. It will vary from woman to woman and you can't leverage it or hold it up as fact. What you can Sonia be the prize and show her that she could be with the prize. She'll either reach for the brass ring or she'll completely miss the mark.
/r/askTRP19/08/16 02:01 AM
1

because of the Blue Brainwash
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/16 06:24 AM
1

You're early in your journey and there's nothing wrong with that. But a hooker isn't going to solve a single problem you have. You'll learn nothing, you'll have accomplished nothing, and you will barely have a limited understanding of a professional manipulator.
/r/askTRP18/08/16 05:25 AM
1

Balancing (my) work, kids, wife, life, and whatever she was doing with her kid, work, life; it ended up being once a month. It was an odd situation though; sometimes dating her with the wife and other times solo. Unicorns are fleeting after all.
/r/askTRP18/08/16 05:20 AM
13

I'm more concerned that you're "very happy" but wifey is a "frumpy grumpy couch potato". Look brother, keep lying to yourself, but don't come here and lie to us. Wife is a bitchy fat ass and not fucking you and now you're worried she has the hots for a real man AND she's even started to shot test you about leaving her for a babe that isn't a frumpy grumpy couch potato (I bet you denied it). Once you can admit the symptoms, you'll be able to find the cure. Until then, these posts are masturbation…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/16 05:16 AM
1

"Can Trey make a sandwich? Because I'm hungry. ".
/r/askTRP18/08/16 05:09 AM
1

The line is confidence. If you don't have it, you are shy & quiet. Be confident.
/r/askTRP18/08/16 05:05 AM
2

There is deep truth here.
/r/askTRP18/08/16 04:55 AM
1

You didn't explain much, but it sounds like you're trying to control too much. Let whatever caste in place fail. If this person performs a simple task; let them perform and be measured accordingly. When someone asks you where the task is, you just report the news: "I gave it to little jimmy at 9:15 this morning. Once he signs for it, it will go to Janet". I see this a lot in business. Let things fail. Stop trying to "save" the project by overcompensating. By doing so, you are engaging in a cover…
/r/askTRP18/08/16 04:45 AM
3

This is your wife? Active sabotage and deceit and lying just don't belong in a relationship. I'd kick her to the curb for this shit. How can you run your ship w/ a saboteur that impedes progress or uses it to manipulate?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/08/16 06:40 PM
1

lol! Please be my phone-a-friend.
/r/askMRP16/08/16 03:22 AM
16

This is a great point. She cheated but it wasn't very good. On any of the three times she's admitting that she ducked him bareback? And she probably wasn't screaming "God yes, fuck me with your huge cock!" More than 3 or 4 times each time.
/r/askTRP16/08/16 03:08 AM
15

Don't play hard to get. It's a simple statement. You were truthful. She was a liar.
/r/askTRP16/08/16 03:06 AM
1

Decline. If she wants to lift, that's awesome, but your lifting is YOUR time. It is not a shared activity. But you can create times to go w/ her. Also, be prepared that lots of shit testing and whining can occur if your girl doesn't already see you as a captain and show you respect. It's the first thing to go out the window when she starts to fail or when she feels the pressure of accountability.
/r/askMRP16/08/16 02:11 AM
3

Great post that shows the other side of RP. All the learning and practice is great. But it is for YOU. Not your relationship. Not your wife/LTR. You out the work in, you gone your skills, you lead, you kick ass. It's at that point when you get to make the call; the point when you have clear mind and you've done the work. You can finally understand if you're with a person that want the type of future you want. I am in a similar situation. Hold your strength and let that strength be your guide.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/08/16 06:15 AM
1

It all depends on your friend's leadership. If he's beta, she'll find the Chads she never got in her 20's.
/r/TheRedPill14/08/16 05:48 AM
1

"Yeah, and some of them are even good at it. Keep trying though". Too much talking and reasoning w/ her.
/r/askMRP14/08/16 05:27 AM
1

Your problem is you're still too Blue and you don't know when to STFU or DGAF. If she's moody indirectly. Ignore her and be productive or awesome. If she's rude or disrespectful, be absent without being obvious or butthurt.
/r/askMRP14/08/16 05:25 AM
2

If you were ever Alpha, you wouldn't have written this puke. Please don't delude yourself into thinking you're anything but an absolute rookie. Lying to yourself will impede your progress.
/r/askMRP14/08/16 05:21 AM
1

You are in her frame. "Great idea, you stay here and complain, I'm going to have fun"
/r/askMRP14/08/16 05:18 AM
1

"Careful what you wish for; you just might get it "
/r/askMRP14/08/16 05:12 AM
1

As far as get and I, she's not someone I wanna be with anymore. I don't want to be with someone where I have to be on my game 24 hours a day. That was my primary point to you though. If you want to develop frame and practice the fundamentals, the best person to practice with is the one that is most likely to pull you out of your frame. That way when you're w/ another woman, you know what you're capable of. Practice w/ her. She'll test your shit.
/r/askMRP14/08/16 05:07 AM
1

10-4
/r/askMRP14/08/16 05:02 AM
1

It works pretty good when you could care less if she stays or joins you. Good job.
/r/askMRP14/08/16 05:01 AM
1

I wanted to suggest this!! This is how you train a dog to heel. The moment they stop paying attention to the path or they try to go far in front of you, switch directions. Obviously you don't have your wife on a leash, but why not ditch her when she does this? Except make SURE you have the house keys and make sure you and your son show up every single time with ice cream.m.
/r/askMRP13/08/16 11:55 PM
1

While you are indeed a Blue jackass, no one deserves that shit. As to being too late, yes the marriage is over, but that doesn't have to stop you from making your strides in a personal level. You truly DGAF right now, so practice on this worthless sloot you married. Attorney is step one. Every move you make from today forward counts, you might as well understand the game as quickly as possible. Also, there was a story about a year ago, might have been saved in the sidebar, of a guy in a similar …
/r/askMRP13/08/16 11:11 PM
1

Read again; together 10 but married 8yrs.
/r/askMRP13/08/16 11:05 PM
2

I read the mirror to this story, in confession I think, from a girl's point of view where the she hadn't been w/ someone in a while and was still getting over her Ex - even going so far as to tell the guy and ask him to be gentle. Nope, rough sex, no condom, forced anal, switching holes, etc. yuck. Thanks for at least being a decent person about it.
/r/askTRP13/08/16 09:33 PM
1

While filled w/ conjecture, this post was oddly satisfying. The "behind the scenes" aspect is great.
/r/TheRedPill13/08/16 09:27 PM
8

It's a perfect mix for that mind type. I'm a tech recruiter and I've noticed it too. Some are just plain smart (possibly OP) because while they're young, it's a way to fill up some sore time and make great cash. I think though many seem to not be as fired up about engineering as they thought they would, so driving tends to give them instant controlled social interactions and helps them pay down debt or save.
/r/TheRedPill13/08/16 09:25 PM
5

There's zero RP awareness and influence in a man that says "I deserve great sex". Go back to Relationships.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/16 01:20 AM
1

MRP to me has always taken a deep stance on telling Men the truth about what a bitch they've been, then showing a clear path to being a real man. They aren't capable of making a choice to leave because they're such a pussy and overweight and lack frame. With RP men get back in tune w/ what their life should look like and THEN they're capable of making the informed decision to leave their harpy, overweight wives. My suggestion is to research what divorce would look like and then prepare for the d…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/08/16 01:17 AM
2

I'm in recruiting and on calls mostly anytime and anywhere. For the most part, people understand today's culture of always being available, so use it as a feeling of power that you get to control where your office is. Also, if you stick to the coffee shop tour, pretty soon you'll find which ones are quiet in the afternoon and which ones have privacy areas. Don't look for reasons the experience won't be positive.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/16 10:00 PM
1

Agreed. You neglected to mention that this type of Nuke requires careful follow-through. Not only does he need to put up or shut up now, I'm not sure how far you can unwind back to a productive level. He says he's prepared to dump her. I've got a taste of that right now. I wish he gets whatever it is he wants at this point.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/16 05:06 AM
1

While I totally understand that many white collar professionals are living a 50hr work week, you've got to look within and take an honest assessment of why you are working so much. Most people I know can't control their personal time and they let their work "interfere" by working a few more hours each day. But saying you work 10hr days is a cop out.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/16 03:34 AM
1

It's a tough time right now & wheels are in motion, but let's just say that every man has a limit and every woman needs to take care that she doesn't outlive her usefulness. There is a point of no return.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/16 03:31 AM
1

Can confirm: it's all fun and games until you realize childhood sex abuse becomes the elephant in the room as the years drag on.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/16 11:36 PM
1

If you're already describing regular activities as "stupid shit" it's possible the standards for respect and decency are already compromised in your family. Also, it sounds like you're a passive aggressive pussy when you "well maybe if you were paying attention..." - it's hard enough to read you saying it so I can only imagine how ridiculous you sound in real life. How about telling her "the elephant just sat in the mouse" or "there's a guy that thinks he's a monkey and he's winning the race"?
/r/askMRP10/08/16 12:52 AM
1

Yes. She's your wife and you absolutely are the one to tell her she's done. Why would you let a drunk teenager (I know your wife isn't really a teenager) make their own decisions?! Listen, you take them out, they get a little tipsy, then you take them home and fuck and everything turns out fine. Or, with your way, you let her drink to get drunk, say nothing and defer to her frame, then get into an argument, then deal w/ her throwing up at the club or getting into a fight and calling her own cab …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/16 01:21 AM
1

Yes. She's your wife and you absolutely are the one to tell her she's done. Why would you let a drunk teenager (I know your wife isn't really a teenager) make their own decisions?! Listen, you take them out, they get a little tipsy, then you take them home and fuck and everything turns out fine. Or, with your way, you let her drink to get drunk, say nothing and defer to her frame, then get into an argument, then deal w/ her throwing up at the club or getting into a fight and calling her own cab …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/16 01:21 AM
2

Meh, lots of words. You're trying too hard not to care and she probably sees through it like we do.
/r/askTRP08/08/16 04:51 AM
1

It's evident now, but you need to be in control. It says a lot about your frame that you deferred to her so many times, when it was against your judgment. But it's really positive that you recognize that now. So practice being decisive in all walks of life; not just at home.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/08/16 02:41 AM
2

They're one tool out of many that can help you achieve the goal of self-enlightenment. I've been to a handful of therapists in my life and for the most part, I've found quality guidance. But it takes work to reveal your fears and more work to learn the tools they give you. Most people think the counselor leads you & those are the people that spend too much time and too much money with not great results. If you want to build self confidence you have to practice finding value in yourself and your …
/r/askTRP07/08/16 05:10 AM
0

Food service in a real restaurant = tips. There aren't many jobs where you can earn more money for less work with few skills (aside from work ethic and motivation and organization).
/r/askTRP07/08/16 04:52 AM
2

You sound like a child describing how you fuck her ass when she isn't expecting it. No wonder she doesn't trust you. And no you aren't going to get her to beg you for it bc it sounds like you're far more invested in that than she is. What you could do instead is train her to enjoy the feelings her asshole gives her during sex by gradually introducing assplay into your sexual routine.
/r/askTRP07/08/16 04:48 AM
1

Yes, she went full retard. Now just sack up and move forward. Be very careful with her. Don't worry too much about TRP bullshit with an unstable STBX. You've got a new game to play now. She's also dragging your kids through the mud with her. Remember, this is the person you share your life with from here forward, so just tread lightly. AND ALWAYS IMAGINE WHAT YOU WOULD SAY OR WHAG EVIDENCE TOU WILD NEED TO ANSWER BEFORE A JUDGE.
/r/askMRP06/08/16 06:21 AM
1

It's painful to read such a simply laid out plan. Had my wife taken it to heart years ago (when I told her and when counselors told her), it here's answering chance I wouldn't be divorcing right now. Instead, she chose to continue exploding at ever real or perceived insult. She spent too much time being an adversary instead of a calm headed partner. Ultimately, she didn't bring enough value to my life to make me want to risk another 20yrs of my life on her.
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/16 11:09 PM
1

That's cool, it's a journey. Remember, what good is a first mate that doesn't listen, doesn't take direction, or loses her shit any time life hands her a wrinkle? You might try painting the picture of your ideal first mate as a person that is in control and can listen. Just because women default to screaming like a chimp at feeding turn, doesn't mean you can't hold them accountable to learning a higher order path. Since AWALT, we can assume that she thinks she's doing what's expected of her. Chi…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/16 11:12 PM
2

I think your FR is supposed to highlight clearing shit tests, however, to me I wonder more about what training you're giving her and how you're communicating your expectations? Not bagging on you at all. Sounds like you had a rigorous planning for this surgery with your connections to the surgeon and nurses. But if my wife would have said one word that wasn't a positive fucking thank you to that crew (her passive aggressive threat for having the surgeon's balls) I would have sent her home. Why w…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/08/16 08:43 PM
1

That is awesome to hear. You just had the crystalline point in your relationship. Of course it wasn't smooth and pretty, but you got your point across loud and clear and she knows the rules. I'm assuming when she smiled and hit her lip you proceeded to fuck her like a caveman.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/08/16 01:59 AM
1

Thinking you can coerce or entice another person to lose weight or build muscle is a losing proposition. You don't control other people; just your actions. Make your expectations clear; you want to spend your time w/ someone that wants to be fit and physically attractive. Then let her actions tell you what she's going to do.
/r/askTRP02/08/16 12:30 AM
1

There are times when you like your job and look forward to it, but it's the stability and lack of risk that is ultimately the cause for that satisfaction. Without risk or adversity in work, you will stagnate because there isn't growth arising from failures and frustration.
/r/askMRP01/08/16 07:10 PM
0

"There are plenty of guys are interested in girls with nice personalities that don't like sex. They'd be happy put up with you"
/r/askMRP01/08/16 12:23 AM
1

From what I can read, you are in no place to be extolling advice on RP, based on a poorly handled situation of yours.
/r/TheRedPill01/08/16 12:15 AM
2

She was just taking your temperature and possibly checking for weakness.
/r/askTRP30/07/16 06:44 AM
1

It will be awkward and it doesn't take any stones to approach a retail wench. Meet her for coffee if you have to, but get her away from work.
/r/askTRP30/07/16 06:29 AM
-1

Tell her to stop talking and get back to sucking your cock.
/r/askTRP30/07/16 03:58 AM
1

Once it stops being worth the trouble, it's time for a real decision where you absolutely own whichever direction you go; fix up the car over time and love the journey that has an obscure finish line or confidently drop that car off and look for a more suitable mode.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/07/16 01:32 AM
1

Wow, solid effort and it really hit home. I had my "you are fired" moment w/ my wife. That poky when it was painfully obvious it wasn't mutually beneficial and Th terms would always be readjusts to postpone payment. Thanks for the insight.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/16 06:50 AM
1

I lived in Tahoe for a few years. Same transient resident population and tourist surges. It took a year to break the ice. You know how it happened? It was literally a "hey buddy, hold that door" as a guy was walking into a retail store after hours w/ two cases of beer in his arms. Just do you and a door will open one day that wasn't there before. It will open when you're natural and comfortable by yourself (not the same as acting like "fuck you I'm a drifter"). But they'll be small moments of op…
/r/askTRP27/07/16 06:40 AM
1

I'm always surprised at how many people talk about how "I used to be blue pill, now I'm Alpha" and then go on to explicitly demonstrate their Blue Pill tendencies. You don't tell her not to do it. You tell her "it's a good idea (to have drinks w/ some single guy that all the "over girls" are into) because you've been wanting a reason to finally grab drinks w/ that cutie from the gym - you know, the one with the great hair and flat stomach? The one all the other guys want to bang" It's an alka se…
/r/askMRP27/07/16 01:13 AM
1

Great perspective. The title might not get the real it deserves, unfortunately. Your analogy about people asking how to do what you do, but having that realization of the work required is similar to career questions as well - so many just want to skip to the end where the awesome is. They don't realize, the awesome is a byproduct of mastering the grind; by the time you get there, the grind isn't a bother and the awesome is everywhere.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/07/16 11:12 PM
1

It's hard to imagine that you can't comprehend how monumentally stupid your idea is. I'd its not getting fired that's an issue, what about the legal ramifications of a sexual harassment claim?
/r/askTRP26/07/16 05:32 AM
1

Pick one relationship and drive that one, but if you choose to stay w/ your wife for the time being, you actually shouldn't be a lying, cheating prick. That is going to do you no favors in life.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/07/16 07:36 PM
6

It's a sense of not being shocked, surprised, or visibly angry that she did something so obvious; buy at he same time you're smiling in a way that says "that's your best effort?! How adorable; nice try."
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/16 05:02 PM
1

Yes, that's a dangerous, but apt comparison: does she treat every person (strangers and friends alike) like she treats you behind closed doors? Why would you accept any behavior from your woman that you wouldn't accept from strangers or friends?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/16 04:43 PM
0

Yolo brah
/r/askTRP23/07/16 06:06 AM
3

Cocky is when you tell people how confident you are. Confidence is when people tell you they notice how confident you are. If you're trying to elicit a specific response to get noticed, you're being cocky. If you're being genuine, people notice you.
/r/askTRP23/07/16 06:04 AM
2

Slow down tiger. Making mistakes is a critical component of success. But success without mistakes means you didn't learn. Just as mistakes without understanding doesn't help you learn. Is it admirable to learn by yourself without outside input or guidance? Absolutely. Is your learning less worthy or admirable if you receive guidance or mentors hip to understand? No. Careful peddling elitist bullshit. It's hard to keep an appropriate supply of boots.
/r/TheRedPill23/07/16 05:56 AM
5

We all have our threshold of tolerance for shitty behavior. Her rant is low on my threshold because it isn't harmless; it's an uncontrolled, disrespectful, inaccurate outburst. Did you talk like that to your teammates when something didn't go your way? Did you talk like that to your boss when he made a decision you didn't like? Did you say that to one of the players you coach when they made their own decision on a play? Of course you didn't do any of these things, because you have a modicum of f…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/07/16 11:31 PM
2

I've been journaling for the past few years. All on my phone in a Google doc. On he one hand, it is incredibly powerful to be able to log your thought stream and free your brain from continuing to ruminate on certain topics, but on the other hand, you have to work to keep a balance between "bitch dump" and productive processing. Use whatever method you want. I used the method that gives me 99% control on whether or not anyone will see it when I don't want them to.
/r/TheRedPill22/07/16 03:46 PM
14

Not sure if agree with all you listed. I definitely wouldn't want my wife handling 100% of my kids needs. Disagreements are healthy and productive if don't positively. You don't have to always be in a good mood, have an emotional spectrum, just don't go into depression. You left out intelligence, wit, and a drive to build a high performance team. Not to mention, being supportive, yet candid with performer feedback. Being enthusiastic about sex is important, but that is often a dashboard of how e…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/16 02:10 AM
1

Holy wow, I'm sorry man, but you have made a crappy bed to lie in. That was some stupid logic. You think she was a 3 or 4?!! Alcoholic, lying wife- basically nothing will change from her until this is under control. You don't control it and you can't effect change in it; she has to want it and then do it without you encouraging her. You need to focus on yourself and find a frame and figure out your image. Who cares about accurately handling shot tests when you're fat and your wife is drunk. Stop…
/r/askMRP22/07/16 02:03 AM
5

It just reflects your ability to train girls to be wanton sluts or her ability to get past the stigma of acting like one. I recently saw a question on another sub about "why do girls ask to get pounded?" or something like that. Most of the people responding were like "that only happens in porn". I haven't fucked a girl yet that didn't tell me at one point "you can do whatever you want to me". It's how you prepare them w/ teasing them to the point where THEY have to fuck YOU.
/r/askTRP22/07/16 01:42 AM
6

No, no, no. You don't get to skirt TRP for MRP because you already know the answer but you're too much of a beta pussy to listen to it. Yes, it sounds like Chad finished with her and since no other strong choice was available, she ended up w/ you. What are you doing about it?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/16 07:44 AM
2

Yes, but be careful you aren't jumping through your asshole to apologize. It should be like you opened the closet door in someone's house instead g the bathroom - "oops, sorry"
/r/askTRP21/07/16 02:54 AM
1

Your desire to understand in great detail is overriding your ability to change and it might very well supercharge the resentment of you from your mate. I've got one at home like you; not for much longer though :(
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/16 02:17 AM
1

Yeah, you picked up on that. It's a dirty secret that you have to envision a wide with poor behavior as a child or in the way you would a troublesome employee. Early in the journey, the gap might be too great to "all of a sudden" turn into the parent, but the ramp time for a true leader is often very short. You do it and don't worry about how it looks because that's irrelevant because you're doing it the way it needs to be done. I think it feels different to the wife because we don't actually tr…
/r/askMRP20/07/16 02:13 AM
1

Lots of men leave controlling nags. Since there's thee sides to every story, let's focus on you. It doesn't matter how much YOU think you've improved after being a controlling bitch - it only matters if HE thinks you've improved. Hold yourself accountable and stop justifying when you're out of line. Ever hear a man talk w/ joy about a backseat driver? STFU when he's flying a kite. If he isn't in imminent danger or hasn't asked for your opinion, don't say anything. In golf we cal this unsolicited…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/16 03:17 PM
2

Spot on w/ the BP assessment. However, that behavior aside, I see the situation as she's continuing poor behavior and only engaging him with childish "I want, I don't want your input, buy me this" attitude. OP isn't looking to negotiate per se, but I think he needs her to act like a First Officer before he gives what she wants. My take is that you should run it like when a child is asking for something, yet they haven't earned or demonstrated the right for it. It is called pay to play - do the t…
/r/askMRP19/07/16 03:04 PM
2

I found it oddly surprising to hear the rationalizations as well. "Here's money to encourage you to do something you don't want to do" - I'm more surprised that he didn't increase the monetary offer.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/07/16 01:51 PM
1

Thanks. I agree; confidence isn't a zero sum game.
/r/askTRP18/07/16 03:16 AM
13

Be the lead in the raging river; not the rock. Once you see that other people can get recognition or validation from you, but it doesn't put you beneath them, you'll begin to realize how much you've missed out on in life. Example: I'm a car guy and have been for the last 20+ years. Wrench on my own cars an build them as well. A friend of mine calls me and tells me he bought a Ferrari (a 328i Quattrovalve) and wants to show it me. Such a cool car with great presence, but nothing I can afford. But…
/r/askTRP17/07/16 11:32 PM
1

No. Women are doing the things they will do. Being frustrated or mad that I'm improving myself every day seems obtuse.
/r/askTRP17/07/16 11:12 PM
1

Agreed. But anyone that sells does not say they "talk" - they say they sell.
/r/TheRedPill17/07/16 06:25 AM
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Wow, lots of white knights in here; happy to jump in and make stories for OP. how about we just let him clear it up by explaining his situation. I said it is suspicious and he can either put that to rest or not.
/r/TheRedPill17/07/16 06:20 AM
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Isn't it ironic that you have described this as the perfect relationship with VERY little problems, yet here you are. Lazy wife, no sex, and you're clueless on what to do next. But you also think nothing changed. Why are you even posting in TRP when you aren't lifting or displaying any leadership qualities. You told her to go fuck herself? Really? Wouldn't it have been easier to admit to her that you have no control or admit that you are doing a poor job at being an Alpha faker? How about chill …
/r/TheRedPill17/07/16 01:10 AM
1

Meh, sounds shallow. You care too much about everyone else's perception of you and seem to get off on it in a sociopathic way.
/r/TheRedPill15/07/16 12:03 AM
2

They love to lie - it's so normal for them to create their own reality instead of working for it. She's pretty cute for a heavier gal though.
/r/TheRedPill09/07/16 06:47 AM
3

The correct answer is "thank you for the feedback, I will work harder". Telling us you've been lifting for two weeks straight is like saying you've already purchased shoes for a marathon later this year.
/r/askTRP09/07/16 06:30 AM
2

Stupid idea. It's a step above masturbation and not at all an indicator of being a man. Paying a random sex worker to act like she gives a damn about you so you can have an orgasm is absolutely nothing to be proud of.
/r/askTRP08/07/16 02:58 AM
2

There's no frame with text. Only confusion.
/r/askTRP08/07/16 02:45 AM
3

Sounds like she's getting laid by a more desirable man and you're believing the story that "we've got a solid marriage". You've got a lot of sobering up before you will see how delusional you are today. How much do you weigh? How tall are you? How often are you in the gym?
/r/askMRP08/07/16 01:40 AM
3

Wow. So much talking and feeble jabs. Try STFU for a few weeks or ignore her. Until then you are totally in her frame and your words are only encouraging her disrespect.
/r/askMRP07/07/16 04:48 AM
2

It's all about her ability for course correction and your tolerance for the time it takes her to correct. Sure you've trained her to have shitty behavior and you've rewarded disrespectful displays, but now you've learned a new path. You are leading and she is making her own choice on whether or not she wants to follow; not you. But that's a decision you can make when you're solid. So how do you know when you're solid? When you don't have to tell us how long ago you "swallowed" the pill, bc time …
/r/MarriedRedPill07/07/16 02:03 AM
1

If I look past the scattergories, machine gun writing style, I can confidently say you enlightened me on several concepts. Thank you. The "You" statements and "I" statements but was especially concentrated. But your summation was I point and it's a concept that isn't addressed much - she's welcome to earn her seat at the new table or keep acting like a shit and lose it. This puts then perspective on why my wife lost it. TRP won't make a woman do anything, burnt will show you how to lead. If she …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/07/16 03:03 AM
5

Beta & Oneitis. Since you have no other women to give your attention, this ONE woman has you in her frame.
/r/askTRP05/07/16 03:57 AM
2

Lasting longer and having numerous orgasms are completely different animals. If you follow the recipe of extended warm-up (flirting all day, string foreplay skills), vocalization ("I'm going to gently stroke your nipples until you beg me to..."), give her one orgasm before penetration, and then try to give her another orgasm just as you finish or just before you finish. This has worked well for me and when done correctly, she'll be too breathless and confused to know how long you lasted. MYTH: w…
/r/TheRedPill05/07/16 02:58 AM
1

"Let us"
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/16 02:18 AM
5

lol, it's hilarious how women get that impression that it will be so tough while they're gone. I do basically the same routine while she's out - totally clean house, dinner cleaned up, kids laughing and having fun as they get ready for bed (on schedule).
/r/MarriedRedPill05/07/16 12:27 AM
4

Way to make a great first impression!! Solid advice about concentrating on the positives and adjusting the mentality toward the traits that are desirable.
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/16 11:00 PM
2

But Beta orbiters don't have the balls to direct approach or heir idea of direct is "you're really pretty and I want you to know I have you on a pedestal already".
/r/askTRP04/07/16 10:17 PM
2

Let's not confuse your interpretation with what that phrase means.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/07/16 10:09 PM
1

Solid - it isn't a formula for a result, it's a way of living that helps increase your prospects AS A BYPRODUCT. The direct result is a better you.
/r/TheRedPill04/07/16 01:57 AM
2

Maybe it's your attribute toward women that needs adjustment. They see you coming a mile away with your "dogs are stupid, I don't like hearing them bark" attitude. That's surface level fakery and probably the reason your approaches fail. When you are so into yourself that you can't bring yourself to talk to another person c you think they're a waste of your time, you model your true personality. Enjoy the ride, engage w/ people and try not to be so full of yourself that other people avoid you.
/r/TheRedPill03/07/16 12:51 AM
2

Getting laid is what men do. While it shouldn't be the only goal, success w/ women seems to help all the aspects of masculinity fall into place - you're doing the things men's should do. There's a physical, mental payoff that comes from sex, that's and it shows in your swagger. You're never going to have swagger from masturbating. The times when my wife and I were regularly having threesomes w/ a few different girls, I was less anxious for the release but I felt drastically more virile and dange…
/r/TheRedPill03/07/16 12:39 AM
1

I'm cool with it.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/16 09:46 PM
2

It's a "nuke moment" that is very effective at defining the future course, due inmate part for the seeming overreaction. It sets the tone and in the right circumstances, that boundary isn't revisited.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/16 12:10 AM
1

Why is this post not in r/relationships where it belongs? Obviously you're in a shitty situation where this gal is a tiger in the sack but an overall shitty person the other 90% of the time. You're doing nothing except encouraging her to dance with her and rewarding her for the show. Spending anymore time w/ her is spending your life w/ the same shit. Why would you do that to yourself?
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/16 07:24 AM
1

I think you're on the journey if you're already resizing your errors. As to sex, stop using the formula of dinner, clean-up, ready for bed, in bed, sex, her orgasm, your orgasm, sleep While you're climbing the mountain, foreplay starts in the morning and extends all day. No one is waiting until the last moment of the day to have sex. Grab a few strokes early in the evening. Leave her horny and wanting for a change.
/r/askMRP21/06/16 02:26 AM
1

Marriage is all hard work, al the time. Few things are sweeter than new pussy (which you've found at work a 2nd time). You can't leave until you KNOW why you're leaving and until you understand how you got yourself into this position; because if you don't know that you'll just repeat. But yes, right now you sound like you met a cute young thing at work and you want to leave your wife because it's hard work and you have no idea why you'd say. It looks like you're a mess. Best to figure that out b…
/r/askMRP20/06/16 11:54 PM
3

They say there's enough natural chemicals and hormones flowing through a woman's body during and after pregnancy to the point where they could turn into capable protectors of their child. Add in all the crazy that comes from body image and finding out about their new role in life and you could see how your timelines mean fuck all to them. Do this; lift, take care of your shit, learn how to be the capable and stable father of your children that she can rely on, and own your shit for the next 6mos…
/r/askMRP20/06/16 11:45 PM
3

That's a result of lack of frame and partner ability. Through being on top of your shit and supportive of her, it's not beyond reason that you'd be able to run to the coffee shop for a few hours Saturday mornings whole your wife sleeps and gets some alone time.
/r/askMRP20/06/16 11:41 PM
1

What people fail to recognize is that, when done properly, a coach builds a trusting relationship with players. You can be direct with them because they know you care about their success. Because unlike most parents, a coach will reprimand you when you fail and praise you when you perform. We'll also praise your learning process.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/16 01:12 AM
1

Get sleep, eat healthy food, drink water, cut out substances, hit the gym.
/r/askTRP16/06/16 10:28 PM
1

Sounds like you are also a coach, but not clear. I like how you handled the situation w/ your kid. Maybe toss in some push-ups to keep his head straight. They need to cope w/ disappointment and lack of trophies in real life. Response to the father, if during the game, should have been "get off my field".
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/16 10:23 PM
3

It could range from chemical/hormonal imbalance to her not being into you. Bear in mind, when a woman can't lubricate, it's almost the male equivalent of ED. It's embarrassing for them and in many instances, it's just not under their control. I had a plate like that. She claimed it was the result of her BC prescription changing, but it didn't matter as much to me because she was kinky as hell and a really great lay.
/r/askTRP15/06/16 11:14 PM
2

Obviously they tie satisfying sex to validation (that they missed from daddy). The more the satisfy you, the higher their validation payoff.
/r/askTRP15/06/16 10:21 PM
0

Why does his question need to be face to face? Your stalling. Just cal her and ask her point blank and be done with it.
/r/askTRP10/06/16 10:35 PM
4

It sounds like Oneitis. Why this girl from 5yrs ago instead of any number of new women that you can find through work and effort?
/r/askTRP31/05/16 03:38 AM
2

Not sure what you possibly thought the answer to your question would be, but here's my take for any festival or timeframe limited event. Going into it w/ the intent to pull pussy is fine and all, but you really risk your SMV if that's al you're doing. Go for the event, hang w/ your crew and meet people. Chat w/ hotties and get numbers. But rushing a same night close may cost more than it's worth.
/r/askTRP31/05/16 03:20 AM
2

Just bc it seems like r/askreddit, doesn't mean it's an invitation for you to ask the group to masturbate over ideas in your head. But questions seeking real guidance are very much encouraged.
/r/askTRP31/05/16 03:17 AM
1

Diet soda is worse than crappy regular soda/Gatorade drinks. Water is king and it's free c
/r/askTRP31/05/16 03:12 AM
1

The change is for you. If you like you, then you're good. It sounds like the issues have been building for years air it will probably take "years" to turn them around. It's a huge problem to be thinking about leaving when your wife is 6mos pregnant. I'd say you're in this for the long haul unless you want another dude raising your kid.
/r/askMRP27/05/16 07:56 AM
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