Do you ever get lonely?

silive · 2018-01-05T22:13:24+00:00

Well, you really want to get lonely? Then get married and you'll feel like you're in a desert all the time.

account4189 · 2018-01-05T22:52:12+00:00

I don't get past this. I'm still lonely.

But for me, MGTOW isn't so much about happiness as it is about happier than otherwise.

Yeah, I miss that feeling - but you know what I don't miss - the pain that comes with abandonment. That pain - and how it lingers. It's just not worth it to me. The highs aren't worth the lows.

DagonNaxos · 2018-01-05T22:09:47+00:00

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somuchluv2give · 2018-01-05T22:08:32+00:00

It’s called the “girlfriend experience” and your local escorts will provide the service for a nominal fee.

Neoneckbeard · 2018-01-05T22:13:42+00:00

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jkarovskaya · 2018-01-05T23:17:38+00:00

let's not pretend we don't have a biological need to be there for a woman and possibly children

Yes humans are social creatures, but we get conditioned by observing behavior when we're young, by movies, by media, by culture, by our family, and in many cases religion.

All those influences are lodged in our brain telling us there's something wrong if we don't have a woman living in our house and cohabitating.

I'm here to tell you that about 80% of this is cultural conditioning.

Many Amazonian tribesmen don't live like that. The adult males live in a group, for a lot of the day. They spend time with women and kids, but their life is focused on the male society.

Your perception of a "biological need to be there for a woman" is, in my opinion, caused mostly by the insular Western culture we live in.

I'm not saying that sex and a woman's companionship is not desirable. Don't misunderstand

The idea that you have to pair off, be the provider, cohabitate with just you and the wife, and "man up" is a completely contrived cultural norm, and it's been beaten into Tradcon society that if you aren't doing that, you are defective

Failure to launch

Basement dweeling dweebs and wierdo geeks are the only people who wouldn't gladly marry, have kids, and be the Patriarch of the family.

MGTOW is not about that AT ALL

MGTOW means real freedom for you to define your own path, your own life, and have the liberty to do anything you want, and forge a destiny apart from having to kowtow to the enslavement of marry/mortgage/kids/wage slavery.

Trust me friend, you can chat with any of us here who thought like you, and found out one day that your wife was bored, boning someone else, didn't "love" you any more, and now she's seen a lawyer and the Big Divorce is happening to you

Now you're out living in a crappy apartment or couch surfing while she stays in the house, gets custody, 1/2 your 401K, and you see the kids every other weekend and that's if you're lucky

Ask any of us how peaceful and drama free it is to come home, and it's zero drama. ZERO obligations.

Make dinner, play music, hit the exercise equipment, chill out, play game, movies, build a new PC, work in my shop, build furniture, go mountain biking, or head to the bar with friends.

Contrast that with Tradcon dad who has 1000 chores, obligations and errands to do for his family, and gets to fall exhausted in his bed knowing the next 30 years he's locked into a stressful job that he can't possibly walk away from

TL:DR MGTOW IS LIBERTY, freedom to live your life on your own terms, not compromise, and pursue happiness and wealth

Dating leads to mini-vans and paying for someone else's college

PantsInBed · 2018-01-05T23:06:54+00:00

Prostitutes, buy the girlfriend experience. They love that, you become a regular and they get your money. It's the same as the real deal, only honest.

2018-01-05T22:47:42+00:00

Lmao ew this sounds so weak and cringy.

ZealousMathematician · 2018-01-05T22:07:52+00:00

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BlackASouthernGirl · 2018-01-05T23:08:07+00:00

we are being heavily brigaded if you haven't noticed it yourself already...

2QuietDude · 2018-01-06T00:34:06+00:00

I just accept it. I've been alone so long I don't know any other mindset at this point. Its just there, joy and pain are part of the human condition.

argyrodes90 · 2018-01-06T01:02:46+00:00

No one said you couldn't have sex with women, or have a relationship with women. The truth is in the acronym, men going their own way. You decide what is right for yourself, but don't expect to find happiness in the arms of a feminized woman for long.

Vishapstein · 2018-01-06T04:42:10+00:00

If you want to hug something that really loves you, then just buy a damn cat or dog. Those animals will have unconditional love for you. A woman's love is conditional.

Ford42 · 2018-01-06T05:19:58+00:00

Ever get lonesome?

matthewcorr7 · 2018-01-07T02:09:00+00:00

Dogs are probably a good fix for loneliness. They also reduce anxiety and depression.

joewhyit · 2018-01-06T00:25:25+00:00

Took a lot of time to get over being lonely, but the longer I went by myself, the more I enjoyed it and the less I missed companionship. I guess I just got to a point where I knew in my soul that all I need is me. /shrug

unsheddogmatisms · 2018-01-06T05:23:14+00:00

I'm sure a MGTOW life is definitely the better option than a blue pill

The only sensible thing you've said.

let's not pretend we don't have a biological need to be there for a woman and possibly children

Let's not pretend we know the definition of biological need. Side note: you sound like a woman.

A life of solitude obviously leaves an empty void within us as men. I know I deal with it every day.

You have failed to self-actualize.

there is just a need to be needed.

You poor fool.

It's not all about sex,

Correct.

there is something else.

Self. Actualization. It's a real thing, you should try it sometime.

How do you personally get past this?

Stop being a neoneckbeard. partly /s

Title	Do you ever get lonely?
Author	Neoneckbeard
Upvotes	11
Comments	27
Date	January 5, 2018 10:05 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/7oeq73/do_you_ever_get_lonely/
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