Thesis:

If you resist exploitation, you exhibit frame.

If you succumb to the succubi, you have no frame.

Body:

Here is frame: Standing up for your sole, individual interests as as a man.

the You person is all you have, for life. This dude, whose dice was rolled for him, through which you experience life through-- look dude-- the dice has already been rolled. At this point, you're here on TRP and likely want to commit to living in reality.

Recognize this: You're all you can strengthen, improve, grow. Part of growing is growing your frame. Your unbreakability. Your anti-pussification, anti-subservience, pro-equity, and pro-self-advocacy attributes.

You are your frame. You are your personal advocate and defender. And again, what is frame? It's ensuring you receive full, complete equity (aka value aka ownership) that you are owed, if you're in a negotiation with someone for example.

To put it short: sticking up for yourself and what deserve-- because you don't let people take that away from you. You will not be trodden on.

To stick up for yourself is to hold up the weight of integrity and unbreakability. you have to have the mentality. Which mentality? An unbreakable one.

Imagine a super solid doorway that lets some stuff pass, but not other stuff. What doesn't it let pass? The bullshit. The manipulation. Someone trying to fuck me over. Someone deceiving me.

That shit does not pass my figurative "frame"-- the doorway of my judgement of that which is or is not equitable to me.

Because I stick up for myself.

And to stick up for myself, I have to filter stuff. That is to say-- My brain has to filter stuff-- namely the bullshit and idealizations-- and see through to clarity and reality. Things people say. Things I read. The reality I perceive. Frame... Filter... Same same. It's something that monitors situations and ensures integrity with regards to myself, my needs, and that my equity is fulfilled. I can't let things into my frame that make me weak.

And at the same time exhibiting frame is You standing there beside You advocating for You and defending Yourself, as we've already mentioned. And at the same time, It's You being You. You're both the You and the Personal Advocate For you.. BECAUSE YOU STAND THE FUCK UP FOR YOURSELF. You're there as an invisible entity-- a clone, advocating for the real you. Imagine that. Me as someone who sticks up for me. Fucking slap yourself-- this should be you already.

You should integrate You, and You as the Defender of You, within You. This is frame.

And the stronger you are, the stronger your frame is, the more people notice. You're unshakeable. You don't get emotional. You don't lose your composure. Because you have solid frame.

So, before you can filter, you have to see/encounter the thing to be filtered: reality. the people around you. your experiences. and the rights you have to stand up for yourself and how you choose to exercise them. And... you filter out all the dumb shit, of course and recognize reality. Take the pill.

You don't explain your realizations to people. Why not? They're still in BP reality -- and they won't understand RP. They don't have the context to understand it. So, don't explain RP concepts, it's a complete waste and people will dislike you for it (b/c they don't understand why what you say doesn't mesh with reality. not b/c it's untrue... but b/c they experience cognitive dissonance).

How do the expectations that are put upon a man in your society relate to the frame of the average man? THat is to say... men are expected to work, and better themselves-- sacrifice their time and even lives for the betterment of society.

Do women claim equality to such expectations?

Do they actually intend on equality? Fuck no. That is "cognitive dissonance". People fronting (perhaps without even knowing it) and pretending to be equal to a man (yet they're not a man), or fronting and pretending to be an adult (yet they're a female who is 100% fully dependent on a man and exhibits characteristics of a teenager)...

In fact, let's take this as an example for analyzing the concept of frame-- Calling someone on their bullshit when they're fronting in public.

A. Loss of frame. Most people will lose their frame when criticized, especially in public. They're too uptight about protecting their ego because subconsciously they're not secure. Think about it-- If you're completely secure in yourself, you won't give a fuck about what anyone else thinks about you. You have "fuck you" status/money, or perhaps you simply have nothing to lose ("I'm completely fucking broke. SO what. What the fuck are you going to do? What are you going to take away from me? Nothing will change-- Fuck with me, I can lose nothing. Let's see who loses more first." --> type mentality) for example. Those motherfuckers bring swag that women detect on a subconscious level, and it makes the pussy tingle and drip. What am I talking about? Frame.

B. Maintaining of frame. You just called someone on their shit. Now they're cussing at you. But why would you give a fuck? You know you're right. You have the right to share your opinion. You know your life experience. You know you have more professional experience, life experience, better credentials, more education, etc. It's almost like talking to a child at a certain point-- so many out there are so sheltered. So again, in such a situation, you don't give a fuck because you have frame. Frame is not losing composure. Frame is security in yourself.

Frame is "fuck you" & "I don't give a fuck"

Because you know where the fuck you stand and where reality stands-- ideally together within your mind. That is the pill. So sensibly, you emotionally detach from someone questioning your integrity, as a father would from a five year old questioning his knowledge of the world. Why would you be attached to the assertions of someone you know who is full of shit? That would be illogical. A person with frame recognizes this. It's simply inefficient and a waste of time to entertain concepts and people you know are invalid.

And I don't mean to imply that someone with frame calls people on bullshit with any frequency. They might if they choose to black knight-- and hey, it's fun to do sometimes. And honestly it's a good test of frame. See how you react when you piss someone off with words and they react emotionally. Do you maintain composure?. The above 2 paragraphs are simply an example of a scenario which exhibits A. the opposite of frame -- losing composure, and B. Frame-- security, integrity, composure., the probable/stereotypical results of a black knighting (i.e. calling someone on bullshit, for example)

So, in reality, most cases, if you know they're full of shit you simply smile and move on. As men we have bigger problems than confronting such adult immaturity and refusal to by men or women to commit truly equal equity into their relationships/community.

For instance...

You have a friend. Do you exploit them? Lets say they provide a certain value to you, when you cannot reciprocate. One month later, you have the ability to reciprocate. Yet, they haven't asked you for a thing. Maybe they already forgot about it. Do you mention to them that you will recriprocate now that you've earned what is due to them? A man does so-- a man pays his due. It is virtuous.

(That's not to say that one isn't anti-virtuous, or exploitative at times [hopefully only when necessary]. Machiavellian tendencies are an important part of frame. It's the part of a certain element of surprise, socially. It's holding out on someone who is trying to fuck you over, and then milking them to the best of your ability, b/c--hey -- fuck them. They just tried to fuck you over.

Another example: You are broke as fuck. You need help. Legitimately, you can't afford a place to sleep, and you're in a new city/state/country. Yeah, it might be exploitative/machiavellian to put on your best charms and try to make friends at a bar/club/party ASAP, but hey-- you legitimately have the need. It's ok to express that need, and do so in a charming way to get what you legitimately need: just a little help, the kindness of strangers, to help you get on your feet in a new place and hey-- if you're a good person, you'll reciprocate, and in doing so build community and friendships. )

Women know nothing of virtue, beyond what they feign based on their observation. Do they think deeply about the equity they've consumed vs provided? Of course not. Why would they? They've never been confronted with actual independence (in many cases) but rather, they expect to be a dependent. To be "taken care of". To be infantilized. Such is not independent. Such is not equity. Such is exploitation.

Such is their reality. They seek not to improve themselves. They seek to extract the benefits you've built through sweat and blood.

They seek to exploit that which has been self-improved and invested upon, without their actual production of any effort of work.

And such is prostitution. And such is feminine imperative. And females are simply one aspect of the realities in life which will challenge our frame, and to which our frame must stand up successfully, if we want to be successful. Other examples are work; friendships; negotiations; debates; etc.

It's a matter of confidently and shamelessly defending your rightful position.

If you resist exploitation, you exhibit frame.

If you succumb to the succubi, you have no frame.

TL;DR Do not be trodden upon. Confidently and shamelessly advocate for your own rights.


Alright, now how does one get to the point of having a decently developed frame?

Well, I think a large part of it is:

A. First, knowing yourself and knowing the world to the best of your ability.

B. Being secure in yourself and what you offer the world. This takes work (i.e. get to a place where you actually are secure: "fuck you" money, "fuck you" skills, "fuck you" socio-economic mobility, etc.) or a certain mentality (asceticism, minimalism, I have nothing to lose b/c I have nothing I need but the basics -- Buddha's 3rd noble truth).

C. i.Challenging yourself via phyical and mental stress inocuation. That is-- put yourself in difficult situations. I dare say dangerous situations (be careful out there), but like.. serious fucking adventure type challenges, where perhaps you are totally broke or just experimenting with living a super frugal, basic lifestyle and forcing yourself into a new place. Perhaps it's a challenging place, and you have no money, and you have to live in challenging situations, such as a tent-- b/c you're fucking broke. Or maybe you've simple had it hard already. Some super challenging life situation you got over. Very mentally and emotionally challenging. No-- Not challenging. Truly fucking trying. These are the trials of your fucking life type trials. The gauntlet.

C. ii. Or, take very physical challenging things for example: say, you go on a multi-day camping trip, the weather is totally fucking terrible and you've been hiking hard for 9 hours with just a couple short 15 min breaks in between, over mountain passes. Your legs are giving out, cramping up. You want to sit down, but you can't. It's dark, cold, rainy, and you need to get to the emergency shelter. You can't let your buddy[ies] down. You both/all need to get to the shelter or you'll be fucked. And you sure as hell aren't going to make your buddies carry you there, or make them be out looking for your pussy bitch ass sitting in the trail, simply b/c it's the most physically challenging experience you've ever encountered in your life. That's not an excuse, in fact there are none at this point. You simply need to grind it out, and put one foot after the other. It may be at the point where you have to hell at yourself out loud or within your mind, and slap yourself. Drill sergeant and discipline yourself.

Long story short, you make it, b/c deep down inside you know you're not a bitch ass. You push yourself further than you ever have, physically. You ever done that? You ever pushed yourself, or been pushed by the circumstances... really fucking hard? Believe me-- you will grow from that shit. It will be important life growth, and you will look back on those hard times with pride for the person they made you. Nothing compares to them, and so things seem easy in comparison. Those experiences drive you. They make you.

And if you haven't had such experiences, you aren't made. And neither is your frame. It's play dough. So get the fuck out there and figure out what your next big ass challenging major goal is. Bucket list that shit, and start planning.

What is stress inoculation training? SIT has been employed on a treatment basis to help individuals cope with the aftermath of exposure to stressful events and on a preventative basis to "inoculate" individuals to future and ongoing stressors. SIT is a flexible individually-tailored multifaceted form of cognitive-behavioral therapy.

TLDR: As a result of dealing with stressful shit... guess what? You get better at dealing with stressful shit. Challenging yourself is like lifting. You break down the muscle, and it builds back stronger than before. Same goes for frame