Your path...

sadbasturd99 · 2016-10-18T13:16:49+00:00

I am as independent as I can be. But I am miserable. I have been told by therapists to do something. But I don't know what to do. I ask what to do, but their suggestions are: go for a walk. I went for a walk and it was not fun. They suggest if I walk more, I will feel better. I walk more and I do not feel better. They suggest the gym. I go to the gym and I feel much worse. I say "maybe if I could find a reason to live I wouldn't be so miserable". They say find a reason to live then. I say "how do I do that ?". They say, try going for a walk. Or volunteering. Ok volunteer where ? Somewhere. Where though. Well what are you interested in. Nothing really, except trying not to be in as much pain as I am in. How about taking a class ? For what ? For cooking. I don't like cooking. But it would get you out of the house. I don't leave the house because I have nothing to do. Maybe you should go for a walk. I have and it didn't give meaning to my life or make me feel better. /repeat

Eyes_Of_The_Dragon · 2016-10-18T16:57:24+00:00

I stood back and asked myself what do I want out of life. Since I've gone my own way, I stopped having a lot of nagging drama in my life. I can drop everything and do what I want without someone in my face. I focus on my kids and their future, and look forward to when they move out so I can just travel and be.

Every time I've had sex over the past year, I remind myself that this is just a "sex coin" she is depositing into a machine as credit for a relationship. It's not just fun for her, she is expecting to sit on my couch and have me pay for it.

I had a lot of things to recover from after the divorce, mostly financial and house related. I realized the house is my man cave, and I love being in total control of it. I love being able to spend my money my way without asking permission. I loved placing my needs before anyone else (without impacting the kids). I love being able to tell my kids that I will fund their college and buy them cars when they're 18, and not having to satisfy anyone else's selfish desires first.

This freedom is addicting. I have the wallet, I make the rules. Never going back to the plantation. When I feel lonely, I have options.

BobTheCube · 2016-10-18T13:26:04+00:00

Exercise and eat right. Obesity dramatically decreases the age at which a person develops high blood pressure, diabetes, heart attacks, strokes, sleep apnea, arthritis (especially knees, back, feet, hips), colon cancer, breast cancer, prostate cancer, blood clots in the leg veins, and various skin diseases (hard to clean between those fold of skin).

It's hard to be independent if you're constantly spending all your money and time on doctors and medications and your forced to limit your activity due to pain/discomfort/physical incapabilities. I live in the USA and work in healthcare. I've seen the effects obesity has on society as a whole.

Learn to cook. This ties into my first point. You can save plenty of money by cooking your own food rather than eating out. While the disadvantage is that you spend more of your time cooking, if you eat simply then you can actually cook large quantities of food in a short time.
I dress simply and purchase sturdy clothes. If fashion is your thing, then ignore this advice. By dressing simply, I essentially buy multiple nearly identical pairs of pants and shirts at a time. I literally have some pants and shirts that are > 4 years old and still intact.
I stopped getting hair cuts and instead use a pair of electric shears to cut my own hair. Since I'm going bald, there's no point in spending money to have someone cut my hair. If fashion is your thing, ignore this advice.

bangarang121 · 2016-10-18T20:04:34+00:00

I'm getting good at being alone. I'm divesting from everyone and everything I can: getting a divorce, paying off debt, prepaid burner phone with a new number, quit Facebook.

I've got a huge library. Hundreds of books. I sit and read. I got rid of my TV and game console. Now when I get bored I work out at home. I'm eating better and working out.

I'm increasing my SMV for me. Women like three things: muscles, cars, and money. I'm getting better and more of all three, not to land a girl, but to throw it back at them. To say "I have what you want and you can't have it." Not explicitly through words or actions, but implicitly through focusing on things I love and ignoring them. If there's one thing people can't stand it's when people who really have their shit together ignore them.

Ohboohoolittlegirl · 2016-10-19T14:36:46+00:00

I have always been independent. Raised by a crazy ass mom that left my dad ruined, who chose another wife to make him miserable, I decided early to not let my life be dominated by women. Up to the moment that I lost my virginity, I was sure that it would change my life and that I would feel more.. comfortable with myself, but it didn't. The sex was nice, but it wasn't as good as virgin-me had imagined it would be and was definitely not worth bending myself double to go through hoops that girls made up so I had to prove myself. I just decided not to care how girls liked me and what they wanted of me. I still don't, but that sentiment has also expanded to other guys. I am who I am and I do not need to prove Anything to Anyone and I just wanted to live my life. I havent talked to my mom for the last 10 years and haven't seen my dad nor my stepmom in years. I feel great. I moved to another country where I feel at home and I will probably not move for a while.

Unlike most others, I have a gf and I am aware of the womens tendencies. I have decided that a relationship will be on my terms, not hers. In my younger years my mom and stepmom have manipulated me so much, that I have so much experience with putting someone in guilt and making unreasonable requests with tanrums, that I just laugh in her face and tell her to try harder. Which makes her furious but she keeps coming back.. i assume this is the jerk part that we all want to lose when we actually get into a relationship, but I kept it.. purposely..

Am I truly MGTOW? According to some, probably not cause I have a GF and I don't hate girls. I do realize since I was 12 that men are ALWAYS at a disadvantage and that females will exploit that at every turn and I will not allow myself to be beaten down into submission. My mom and stepmom did that without me having a chance to get out, it will NOT happen again.

Title	Your path...
Author	s0ma_
Upvotes	4
Comments	15
Date	October 18, 2016 12:08 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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