This Danish female journalist leaves Sheryl Sandberg’s strategy in the dust, and says it as many modern women think it. Later she whines about the lack of “good men” in their thirties, unable to see any connection.

 

Her first article was published in the Danish newspaper B.T as well as in the biggest national female magazine ‘Alt for damerne’ (Everything for the ladies). The google translations are pretty terrible, so I’ve fixed them. Check also the links to see how hard she hit the wall(s).

 

As a single, I understand SO well that many are unfaithful

 

It is not a surprise that many find it difficult to keep the promise of fidelity until death, says Pia Damsgaard Bach

 

Whether adultery is okay or not, is a recurring theme in ALT for damerne, where we both talked to the woman who is her husband unfaithful with several men, and with the woman who forgave her husband his infidelity. In this column Pia Damsgaard Bach puts focus on if the requirement of monogamy may be too hard to live up to.

 

Column: Oops. Imagine that the innocent Anastasia Steele forget to take the pill, as her dream prince Christian Grey in the film "Fifty Shades of Grey 'insists that she must take. Their hot play bears 'fruit', and they move to the suburbs, the kid is crying, the weekend goes with a trip to Djurs Summerland [danish amusement park] and visiting the in-laws. How long will they continue with the hot sex games?

 

The whole hype around the Fifty Shades of Grey movie and books makes it painfully clear why we are so many singles and why men and women have such a hard time getting a monogamous relationship to work. It ought to be a wakeup call to all of us that there is something wrong.

 

For it is not about, that all women suddenly are desperate to get smacked in the butt, get hung up in the ceiling or be bound by a ridiculous sex slave contract. It is about that most women crave for a man who makes an effort. Use time on us. We hunger for adventure, for a lover, a man who knows what he wants and does not believe that two thrusts and a sigh is eroticism.

 

Nobody can be everything

 

As a single woman I almost never meet men who make an effort, and it should be no secret that I in different ways have "met" some men throughout the ages. Broadly speaking, there have been two types of men. The sweet, gentle, attentive and sympathetic men who makes good fathers and faithful husbands, but do not have a lot of Christian Grey in them. Who really want to please their woman, so that the woman in time can’t be bothered with him. She longs for Christian Grey, who knows what he wants and is not afraid to say it.

 

The second type is the alpha male who has "known" many women and isn’t with the same for a very long time. He is alluring, exciting, sexy and knows how to get a woman to spread her legs, but he's not so good for romance, conversation and more soft things that many women also want to have.

 

I think most women dream of the perfect mix between the two types, but like the soft man's softness eventually becomes annoying, the alpha male becomes less sexy when he is pressured into a relationship. [He] Either surrenders himself and becomes soft and indolent, or he is struggling to get out or bangs somebody else. In this way it is a shame that our society is so focused on coupledom - the ideal that you have to stick to the same person through a lifetime.

 

Could not we loosen up a bit and admit to ourselves as a society, that two people cannot be everything for each other throughout their whole lives? One need not be a sexologist or psychologist to figure out why the sex lives of most slowly fade with the years. It gets boring. In my generation, it is of course also very few who have the same job for decades, live in the same place or are eating the same food every day. For why should we when the opportunities are so many? Would it really be so bad with a shot of Christian Grey - a little adventure - sometimes, even though you are in a stable and loving relationship with someone you love? Why do we insist on limiting ourselves in the name of love, now that we are only here on earth in such a short time? Why is the ideal not to get the most out of the time? As a single and free [woman], I understand SO well that many have difficulties holding their vows of fidelity to death. If we really loved each other, would we not wish that the other had so many great experiences as possible instead of building a coupledom-prison for each other?

 

It’s incredible to see what little sense of reality she has, and how she feels entitled to have men and society change to suit her own needs. It would also be interesting to know how she feels about men having a similar view of women as being one of “two types” (whores and madonnas), and wanting to have a “good mother and faithful wife” at home and a side-chick for a little bit of “adventure” once in a while.

 

[Check also: “Female Fifty Shades of Grey readers more likely to uphold sexist attitudes, study finds” and “Self-entitled women are more likely to endorse benevolent sexism study finds]

 

6 months after her first article was published, she wrote another one, titled “This is why it’s so hard to find “good” men in their 30s” again in the female magazine ‘ALT for damerne’ (Everything for the ladies).

 

Here are some excerpts from the article:

 

Recently I have been seeing many women in singles Facebook groups complain that the men they meet and date, are only out to get sex, they are unfaithful, dating several women at a time and generally just behave crude.

 

And being the cucked and sexually boring guy with all the responsibility sure is a better alternative… right?

 

I thought that if now these women weren’t being such angry bitches who complained all the time, they probably had better luck finding a "good" man... These thoughts I take back. Sorry.

 

It turns out that there may be something about it when many well-educated single women feel that men have changed in recent years - they have been more disinterested, less chivalrous and extra sex-fixated. But actually it is not the men's fault. It's a question of supply and demand.

 

Fewer and fewer men find any benefit to committed relationships, and are simply giving women the respect that they are giving men: none.

 

Education creates a shortage of men

According to the brand new American book "Date-onomics" where the male author looks at the issue with statistical and sociological eyes, women's rising educational attainment makes it harder for us to find a "good" man - which is to say a man with a similar or higher education than us. As the most women prefer this. And according to Statistics Denmark [Danish governmental organization] 45 percent of the 35-year-old women in 2014 had completed a higher education, while the same applied only to 31 percent of men.

 

“Oh she's a gold digger”

 

She embodies all the traits of the stereotypical toxic AWALT, concentrated into one person, similarly to how Trigglypuff does for Social Justice Warriors. She’s an alpha-fucking, beta-buxing, gold-digging, entitled and self-centered post-wall slut.

 

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