I'm a Saudi Arabian man who moved to California for college at 18. Can't lie, I was completely awestruck the first week. I grew up in a country where women were covered up, school was all boys, and rarely interacted with girls outside my family. Here I was in San Diego, everywhere I looked there were hot blondes wearing mini skirts. I lived in a dorm and my second day, my roommate invited me to smoke a jay with him. It was an amazing experience, and I quickly fell in love with the country. I wanted this to be my new home, and as stereotypical as this is, I wanted to fall in love with a beautiful white girl and start a family with her. Back then, I couldn't imagine ever going back home for good.

I regularly went to Saudi Arabian, Lebanese, and Iraqi restaurants. The workers there were mostly middle aged men and I got to know them well. They would ask my plans here after college, whether I was gonna go back home. I would say no way, I love this place too much. They would ask me if I plan on getting married, and I said yeah. SEVEN different men warned me, "Don't even think about marrying an American women." One of them told me how he married an American and has not seen his children, and his now struggling to support them and the ex. I didn't listen to any of them, I thought they just picked the wrong women.

My best friend's brother (also a Saudi man), was accused of rape. He lived in Boston, I didn't know him but heard a lot from my friend. Although I didn't express this, I thought that he probably did rape her. A couple years later another friend was accused of rape, and deported on his senior year in college.

Why am I telling you all these stories? Because despite hearing all this stuff, I never once saw how fucked up the system is over here, I still 100 % planned on meeting a white girl and doing the whole "American dream". I don't know, I just couldn't let go of that plan, which I now realize was just a dream, brought on by a combination of naivety and Hollywood.

I had a bit of success with women, but would never have relationships longer than 3 months. I wasn't great with women, so I turned to PUA for help, and eventually found TheRedPill. A couple months of reading that sub, I kept hearing about MGTOW on occasion, but didn't think much of it. Eventually I checked this sub out, and have been lurking for 6 months. It took A LOT of denial, bargaining, etc but I finally let go of my "dream", which would have surely been a nightmare had I followed through.

I now see this country for what it is, hell for men. Why is it that men are consistently made into slaves by family court, sent to jail for crimes they didn't commit, have genitals mutilates, and I never about this on the news? Why is it that I am less likely to hear about men's suffering than I am about gender pronouns "oppressing women". What a fucking disaster of a society.

I'm not a MGTOW guys, but thank you. I am going back home, and I'm going to marry and have kids. My family is rich and a well know family name, which makes things a lot easier over here. I have the option and ability to marry four women and have a lot of kids, with no chance of divorce rape or not being able to see my kids. Any woman I marry will 100 % know how to cook, and will be much more submissive than any American woman. That sounds a lot better than becoming a slave to a woman and seeing my kids once every 2 weeks, if even that.