disturbed dad look what dear balbby had to say

RealBazou · 2016-03-23T07:19:03+00:00

This guy can complain as much as he wants, she won custody. He's fucked and needs to get over it and change strategy. The kid is probably, sadly, a lost cause. All he can hope for is that one day the kid's going to wake up and desire to see his dad without mommy's influence. Good luck with that.

If he invests in his son and tries to raise him right, mommy's going to sabotage everything and turn him against him.

If he disappears completely, then he will miss out on his son's upbringing and will have to face the full power of his son's wrath, trying to justify his absence.

Damned if you do and damned if you don't.

Also, good luck trying to change custody. That's an effort in futility unless she's absolutely irresponsible (and juggling boyfriends isn't in the eye of the court).

I was listening to a talk show not long ago, and some guy called in to describe almost this very same situation (not rare at all it seems). The caller kept complaining about how the system was fucked, etc and complained and complained. The host insulted the caller by calling him stupid, to change strategy, but the other guy kept wallowing in pity. That call ended.

Another guy calls in right after that, explains that very same situation, but instead this new guy decided to ghost his ex and son, and for years it felt like torture. One day, it seems kiddo wisened up and started to doubt mommy's vitriol. He went out searching for daddy, found him, gave him the biggest earful of his life, only to slowly understand why he did it. Things slowly turned around, and kiddo had newfound respect for dad.

grasshopa · 2016-03-22T18:23:08+00:00

This was something of a "meh". What was she supposed to say? I agree with her; dad needs to be polite and considerate for his son.

What mom is doing may be reprehensible ( to me ), but legally it's largely irrelevant..most especially if dad still believes mom is a good parent. His son will be put in that situation, likely over and over again, so it's up to dad to help make that an easier process for him. If his son sees him treating these revolving men poorly, he may feel justified doing so, and where do you think that'll land him?

Now, had the question been; "Is that a healthy environment for my son?", then I absolutely would have argued the point. Were I dad, I'd be itching to file for custodial change on the grounds of stability ( although with a CO so fresh and with no significant change of circumstance, it may not happen ).

Title	disturbed dad look what dear balbby had to say
Author	oldsolder
Upvotes	3
Comments	4
Date	March 22, 2016 5:32 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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