39 great reasons to stay single for as long as you can.

genethedog · 2015-11-04T01:47:02+00:00

This is great lifetime advice for men but it's a litany of bad advice for young women.

Rhetorical rant for any ladies reading this: Go ahead ladies. Waste the best (hottest) years of your life fucking around, being selfish, playing games and acting like a teenager. By the time you want to get married and/or have a kid (and trust me, you WILL want those things) you'll be standing there with blue-vein sagging tits, a vagine that hang open like sleeve of wizard, a c-section scar or stretch marks, a deadbeat baby-daddy, complaining that there are no good men left.

Sorry girls but you have to make some sacrifices while you're young if you want those things because by the time you're ready to sacrifice, most of you have nothing left to offer.

tallwheel · 2015-11-04T06:43:19+00:00

It amazes me that some people can act like the reasons to stay single can be phrased in a gender neutral way. Being single is completely different depending on whether you are a man or a woman.

JUDAISM_is_SATANISM · 2015-11-04T16:43:52+00:00

This advice really only applies to men. I can't see a Woman choosing these perks over having a man to control or someone to feed her constant attention. I know a lot of woman that cannot live one second without a boyfriend.

SexistFlyingPig · 2015-11-04T01:13:51+00:00

Yeah, New York women talking about how it's great to always be single and childless, forever. It's not lonely and sad at all.

ahwsun · 2015-11-03T22:23:09+00:00

Funny stuff.

brownbag18 · 2015-11-03T19:56:57+00:00

One commentator said gold: I'd like to get real for a second. This is probably the worst article I've ever read. "39 Reasons Why You Should Stay Single As Long As Possible". Doesn't sound inherently bad. Starts with "Having the Bed to Yourself". Ok, haha, fine. That's cool.

"Your Favorite Disgusting Habits". Who you're dating shouldn't really judge you for your odd habits, but still, ok, fine.

But then "Sleeping Around"? Is that a joke? Advocating fucking 10 different people whose names you don't even know? I know people don't like talking about this stuff because they're afraid of hurting people's feeling, but this is ridiculous. Since when was this ok? No one wants to be the bad guy with this sort of thing but how can we let this sort of thing be permissible? It's not.

There has obviously been a trend toward deviating from "traditional" or "conservative" values, but I'd just like to say loud and clear that I still support them. I believe people should wait until marriage to get married. Couples who wait have a 5% divorce rate, compared to the 50% + national rate. I believe couples should pray together. Couples who pray have a divorce rate of less than 1%. I understand the sexual liberation movement, but progress doesn't always mean changing everything. Being a gentleman? Respecting women? Meeting the family? Those ideals have stuck around because they're damn good ideals. They foster strong and meaningful relationships predicated more on getting to know the person's heart, brain and soul than his or her body. It's a system of commitment that leads to a strong family life. Sleeping around advocates being noncommittal. I know people don't want to be "weighed down", but I think that's an awful mindset to have. What are you going to do when you get married, have kids, and the glamor of the honeymoon fades? Hop on Ashley Madison? The most valuable parts of relationships aren't the pretty ones, they're the ugly, grit-your-teeth, "feel like I want to give up" moments, days and, yeah, even years.

Relationships, the way they're intended to be played out, will enhance your life in every way, not inhibit it. You can still "Focus on your hobbies". If being with the person feels like a task, something to check off, then why the heck are you dating that person? You should yearn to be with that person, because it is with that person that you become the fullest and best version of yourself.

"No one keeping tabs on your actions" and "No Hiding Purchases"? What are you doing that would make them need to keep tabs? Moreover, if you feel the need to hide it, then you probably know deep down that you shouldn't have bought it any way. It's like not being cool with who you're dating knowing the password to your phone--if there's nothing bad on your phone, why does it matter? Chances are that if you're being smart and are worthy of being trusted, you won't feel the need to hide things from him/her and she/he won't feel the need to "keep tabs".

"Social Media" and your partner knowing more about your life than you want them to? Isn't one of the main points of dating and marriage to have someone with whom you can share your whole life and have no secrets?

"Avoiding a second family"? That's honestly such a horrible attitude. If you genuinely love and care for the other person (which should kinda be a prerequisite for dating), you'd want to make them happy, right? (I don't think that facet of a relationship has been condemned "outdated" quite yet) So why avoid such an important part of his/her life?

"Personal Growth" and "Your Career"? You are going to grow infinitely more through a relationship than on your own. Furthermore, the person you're dating/married to will only want to help you achieve your dreams and aspirations--career included. You only start to see your partner as an inhibitor of your dreams when you don't realize that in relationships the other person wants only what is best for you.

Many of the others, like "Choosing All of Your Own Activities" and "Not Having To Clean Up After Your Partner" are just so incredibly self-centered, they completely miss the point of a relationship. Your partner isn't a hassle--he/she is not a chore. Relationships aren't about you getting what you want, it's about giving what the other person needs. Until we realize that simple fact, we're going to be plagued by relational issues our whole lives.

"Pregnancy Scares" centered around not having to have "a talk" about whether or not to keep the baby? That's disgusting. This one is primarily from a girl's perspective...You're going to say a good reason to stay single is so you don't have to consult with the man who impregnated you about whether or not you should abort a life (or the possibility of a life, depending on your view)? You just want to act independently, as if sex, which is entirely relational, can be confined to just the physical? If you don't want to have pregnancy scares, here's a novel idea: don't have sex.

"Getting Married Is Such A Production"…"And So Is Divorce"? The fact that this person is even considering divorce as an option going into marriage shows how much her selfish attitude of sleeping around and not committing to someone has affected her. Marriage is a purchase, not a lease. You can't just say "I gave it my best shot". No. You have to continuously give your best shot, which means not giving up on her or him ever. Again with the whole "outdated" thing, but if you're a man, be a man: think and pray about it extensively and then stick to your promise. If you're a woman, be a woman and do the same.

"No Worries About Your Partner Sleeping Around"? This isn't even dating any more. This is like…friends with benefits. You can't have a real, healthy relationship without trust.

And finally, "Dealing With Someone Else's Emotions Is Hard". Well, guess what. Marriage is hard. It's damn hard. Get used to it.

I apologize for the unusual aggressiveness of this post, but I am so sick of this kind of thing. I'm tired of this whole self-centered, apathetic "Live It Up In College" and "Be Young, Dumb, Wild and Free" notion. I don't think it's ok, and I think it's even less ok to think it's not ok and then not speak up about it. Reality check: Barring rare exceptions, who you are coming out of college is roughly who you're going to be for the rest of your life. So instead of focusing on getting laid or being cool, consider investing in yourself, in another person and in your and your future partner's and children's future, because it's a reality you're going to face. Relationships aren't about you, they're about everyone BUT you. Maybe it's the outdated, conservative negative nancy in me, but committing? Being open and honest? Trusting? Loving selflessly (which is what love is, really) by thinking about the other person more than about yourself? Those sound a lot more important than being concerned only with your own agenda and sleeping around with strangers.

Title	39 great reasons to stay single for as long as you can.
Author	BrianW1999
Upvotes	18
Comments	14
Date	November 3, 2015 6:55 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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