Psychological changes after losing virginity.

DangZagnut · 2019-09-30T17:27:28+00:00

I have to be honest, I didn't notice anything when I did as a male. But then I never gave it any real weight or importance to "virginity". This seems to be some sort of huge deal these days, but I guess I didn't get the memo when I was in school. It was something that I figured would just happen when it happened as I didn't put energy into it.

When I was a young teen and accidentally figured out how to masturbate, that was a psychological change, because I had found an exciting new hobby and could have imaginary sex with anyone I wanted. Why waste time and money on less attractive chicks when I can roll up my sleeves and do some personal handiwork.

So when the actual "deed" came up it was just sort of making out that kept going further with this girl.

Kind of boring actually. Didn't even tell any friends. Just sorta was just sex. Absolutely no psychological change that I can remember. I'd be perfectly content if I had remained a virgin to this day.

holidaysboots · 2019-09-30T17:31:17+00:00

It's your disposition that changed and people react to that. You're likely more assertive in your interactions with others.

Inkfyuk · 2019-09-30T17:42:57+00:00

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2019-09-30T17:22:05+00:00

Can you give us an example of how their values in general change?

Krazyrobus · 2019-09-30T17:33:48+00:00

Meh, didn't feel any different, didn't notice anything different.

_kephri_ · 2019-09-30T17:33:52+00:00

No. Didn't notice changes you are talking about. Confidence, intimacy withing that relationship changes.

2019-09-30T18:08:32+00:00

The difference is probably this - A voluntary virgin feels that he has a higher moral ground than other people, which may or not be true, depending on who you ask.

But those who lose it, have sort of "given in" to a norm practised in society most of the times neglecting the "morality" of it, so in a way they are less moral but kind of more prideful.

I can give an example of how I used to consider ejaculation - I knew what it was from friends talking about it at school and I considered those who masturbated as lower than me. In the meanwhile I developed a habit of oiling my body before bathing. So everyday I would do that in the bathroom. As days passed I began paying special attention to my penis while oiling, almost unintentionally, because it felt better there. I would do that everyday and one day I kept going on the penis, there was a buildup and and I was taken completely by surprise when the semen was ejaculated. I hated it immediately. Extremely heavy guilt immediately took over me. I'm like those school losers now is what I thought. No one knew and I told no one. The guilt was so heavy that I refrained from even fondling my penis for 3 years until nightfall started. But after the first voluntary masturbation, it's grip was instant, and the guilt was gone. But I kept feeling impure all the time. I regretted losing my innocence later. My friends were however proud of becoming a man when masturbating the first time, haha. That's how many men feel after having sex. Trust me it's not about the pleasure at all, but simply a being's own mental concoction for feeling proud for practically what is nothing new. His feeling of accomplishment and pride is merely associated with female validation. There is nothing newer in sex, everything is already experienced. Sex is nothing but female assisted masturbation. Females have a genuine need for sex because of the craving of oxytocin but not a healthy straight man.

puregoldlight · 2019-09-30T18:15:28+00:00

I don’t know. But I remember I had a bud in 8th grade that seemed destined for great things. He played on the school baseball and football team. He took his studies seriously and Aced his tests. But then around 10th grade he got some pussy and turned into an animal. I didn’t even recognize him anymore by the time we graduated.

Title	Psychological changes after losing virginity.
Author	Inkfyuk
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Comments	13
Date	September 30, 2019 5:15 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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