Just a stupid realization I came up with while I'm reading "no more mr. nice guy" for the second time.

Being afraid of how a a hot girl I want to chat up with might react can also happen because I place too much value in her opinion, even though she knows exactly nothing about me yet, other than maybe how I look like, and that's assuming that she noticed me or just glanced towards my general direction.

So what if one of the million girls on planet Earth might call you a creep just because you said "hello, what's your name" or some basic shit? If you browse this sub for a while, you pretty much know what that means. That she doesn't find you attractive.

You're not qualifying for anyone but yourself. And you should finally find the time to read "no more mr. nice guy". Not because I'll tell you "good redpiller", but because it might help you improve yourself. And do the activities he says, not just "yeah yeah, I get the gist I don't have time for that".

I grew up treating the hot girl across the table as a lion, and dismissed any thought of approaching her to even have casual talk as retarded, because "what if she thinks I'm creepy? what if she yells and calls me names?!?". By definition, I learned to overvalue a girl's response. But where do you think this started? If you said "childhood" you're not far off the mark.

It was when we were little kids that we were saying "ohhh, Peter likes Mary!" and the expression of admiration towards "that girl you liked" marked you as either "someone Mary rejected" or "someone Mary likes" to everyone in your social circle - classroom or even school. You think that because you were a kid that didn't affected your long-term behavior? On the contrary, it's because you learned to behave like that when you were a kid that affected your behavior.

Food for thought, eh?