I read so much advice on here and from books that i sometimes don't know what to do with it. If i read that you should ask questions for example i conciously have that in my mind when interacting with people to the point that it makes me less relaxed because i think about it. I feel like i actually do better and feel more confident with women and people in general when i don't try to follow any advice and just go with my gut feeling all the time but at the same time i do want to improve and hear what works for other people.

How do you handle advice you read? Do you conciously go around thinking about it and try to implement it and if so how do you avoid overthinking it?