At the time I'm posting this, there are quite a hefty lot of succinct yet accurate posts in our front page which complement what I'm about to say.

If you feel like you haven't progressed as much as you might have expected, whether it is about getting into a new career, getting in the gym or approach girls, that's because you're avoiding to face your fears.

And those fears are deeply ingrained into your head due to your blue pilled upbringing and environment that influenced you for a decade or more.

You might be afraid that showing your sexual intentions will make you look like a creep. Modern civilization, after all, is tuned all against the teenage male sexuality to the point of shaming. Look at nofap, noporn and the censorship feminists go through to filter sexual content in shit they don't even consume (like video games and tv shows). And while I see a lot of merit in quitting porn, there's no merit to going to the extremes of feeling dickless when you talk to a girl you like.

You might be afraid that you might fail to get what you want. Your plan might be to get fit but "what if's" start storming your head and they cripple you to procrastination and inaction. Maybe you're too fat and you're scared of the difficulty that is to keep your food craves back, maybe you're too skinny and you're scared of eating so much you might end up vomiting more often. Maybe you're afraid of being judged when you go to the gym.

And that doesn't have to be gym related but mission related too. Maybe you want to get into a career field that is foreign and you're afraid that you might put in the work but it won't matter. Perhaps your past experiences don't make you feel confident in your ability to follow through, or you're smart enough to know that just because you want something bad doesn't always mean that it's gonna happen.

I could go through more cases and this post would be a great wall of text, but my point is: You should at least try to find a fear that effectively keeps you from taking a step, whether it's the first step or the 13th step doesn't matter. Then decide to act on that and ignore your fear. Be brave about it. Study what you want even though you may even be 100% certain that you won't get it as fast as you might believed. Approach that girl even if you're 100% sure she'll go "get the fuck off, idiot".

Your goal is to convince yourself that you can handle the shit life throws at you, one fear at a time. Not more. Ever heard the line "if I don't do X I can't call myself a man"? That was the traditional way of men "mantra'ing" to themselves to act in the face of fear. Doubt is also fear of failure, by the way.

And to elaborate more on my point: If a fear is routed on past failures and general blue pill life experience, you need to do the action that is related with that fear enough times so that you overwrite your bad experience with recent good. The only way that's gonna happen is if you do that thing you have a fear around it a lot. And by a lot, I mean "over 100 times", not once, not twice or a dozen.

Example 1: You're scared of approaching because you're not the most attractive guy you know and she'll dump you. Solution: Do enough approaches until the idea of "approaching a hot girl" becomes "I'm approaching yet another girl". You effectively remove the weight you used to put on the act of approaching, and you only see it as just something that you do instead of something monumental.

Example 2: You're afraid of following your goal because you're uncertain of how things will end up. Meaning you're scared that you might invest time doing something that won't bear fruit, so you procrastinate doing it and you feel "trapped" in your mediocre job. The solution to this is to actually accept that indeed shit might go bad down the road and it may not work out, but instead trust yourself that you are capable of coming up with a plan B or C down the road.

That you can handle whatever life may throw at you and carry on, because you're smart and able to, is the very definition of confidence and personal power.