I am one of these people whose sense of self-worth is based on externaml things like how jacked or ripped I am, how much money I am making, how I am dressed, how I look, how many girls ive slept with......etc.

Now I know a couple of guys who are absolute losers IN EVERY SINGLE ASPECT OF LIFE. They look average, their bodies are average, they are on welfare, and almost always dress the same.
Still, they have an unusual, unshakable sense of Superiority. Every guy I know that knows them too talks shit about them behind their backs but shows utmost respect in their presence and basically does whatever they tell him or expect him to do.

And they basically can get any girl they want.

Is it possible to reach that level of confidence? and how?
or am I cursed to stay like this till the end of my life ?