Summary: This post is to outline some mistakes newbie TRPers are making in their way of thinking and to propose a challenge. This is a challenge for those who are new and struggle with developing an abundance mentality. I suggest doing this after a lengthy monk mode and only if you are serious about swallowing the pill and creating true abundance.

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I see an increasing amount of guys on here who are still stuck in the friend zone or hanging around a girl like some beta orbiter but then claim to be swallowing the red pill. You simply cannot swallow the pill if you are not willing to remove the "bad" things or habits from your life. I will only focus on woman for this post, but some clear cut examples are:

  1. Hanging out with that girl you have wanted for years and never made a move on OR made a move on and failed miserably In her eyes you will always be beta and the chances that you leave the friend zone are about as good as being struck by lightning while picking up your winning lottery ticket from your local gas station. You cannot become a better man while still orbiting around some girl you have feelings for

  2. Not escalating on dates It takes a while to internalize the red pill. The difference between really internalizing something and making it part of you and reading information found on red pill is huge. You cannot cheat the system. If you are still not escalating to the point where you are not making out on the first date, then you are simply not doing it correctly

  3. Having oneitis over an HB8+ woman I recently had this experience myself; I met a stunning 22-year old Romanian chick, easily an HB9. As this was my first experience with a really hot chick, I half resorted back to some of my beta tendencies and blew it after a few dates. This bummed me out and I realized that it only bummed me out because my abundance in that league (9+) is weak. It is very easy to fall into beta tendency traps as the level of women you attract rises.

The solution - “The abundance nuke”

I challenge you to do the following:

After you have worked hard on yourself and improved your SMV, there will come a point where you attract a girl much hotter than what you may be used to. You will be able to attract her because you have been steadily improving your value. I want you to do the following after you have set up a date with this woman. It has to be a woman high enough on the HB scale that it makes you nervous to meet her. You will already be somewhat invested, regardless of what you have learned so far, simply because you are entering a higher league of women.

You will do the following:

  1. Set up a time and place for your date, make sure she confirms

  2. On the day of the date, remind her about your meeting

  3. Don’t show up

  4. Cut all contact – do not respond to anything, completely ghost her

Step 3 and 4 are the hardest part and you will experience some kind of dissonance, especially if you lack abundance.

This “abundance nuke “is a great way to shake up your system and to test yourself. You thought you are finally going on a date with a woman who would not even notice you a year ago. You thought you are finally going to be rewarded for your hard work.

You thought wrong. The elusion of short term gains isn't worth long term growth.

You are too invested and you must be willing to walk away from anything. That is the only way to build true abundance.

TLDR: You must be willing to cut ties with any woman, even while having very little to no abundance