Why do betas do this?

VasiliyZaitzev · 2020-04-26T19:23:35+00:00

Why would you take a girl you cared about to bars?

VasiliyZaitzev · 2020-04-26T21:48:12+00:00

Or is this how these fucking guys are?

^ It's this one. Beta thirst is REAL. They're delusional. Don't let it bother you.

Story Time: Waaaaay back in the 90s, a guy my then LTR knew took her on a date. How did I allow this, you might ask? He lied to her. Read on.

Basically, he mentioned to her in class that that day (a tues or wed) was his birthday and "a bunch of us are going out on Friday to celebrate." Well "a bunch of us" turned out to be just him and her. He picked her up (at which point, naive her assumed that they were meeting other people at the pub we were all going to meet up at), took her to a nice restaurant and bought her dinner and tried to get her drunk. She was a bit panicked about it, but knew that if she just sat tight and stuck to public places, she'd be fine because I (and her brother and some other friends) were meeting her out later (there was about a two hour span from when he picked her up to when we were supposed to meet up, and for those 2 hours, he got to live the dream.)

So once her brother and I turned up and figured out what was up, we took him outside and explained the facts of life to him, i.e., that the only reason that he wasn't getting tuned up in the back alley is because my LTR had begged us not to, but he needed to leave before we changed our minds and that she needed to never hear from him again.

We go back inside and one of her girlfriends asked, "Where's Billy Beta?"

LTR's brother: "He had somewhere else he had to be."

Her: "Where was that?"

Me: "Anywhere but here."

So yeah, the Beta Delusion can be strong.

DoesItMatterTooYou · 2020-04-26T19:33:40+00:00

It sounds like you have a pretty good LTR and situation there. Sort of like you're the Lion that doesn't GAF but let the lioness toy with them a bit before they get smacked away.

A high value women that submits to you but still maintains her own strong frame with simps like that can be a power combo. Obviously your game has to be tight but that's blocking/tackling for you now likely.

Hell she could likely have those chumps paying for drinks and shit or doing other flunky shit.

Up to you but as long as she's lined up properly I say make the most of it because you aren't going to change the betas.

Whisper · 2020-04-26T21:17:54+00:00

Well trained women mate guard themselves. If she's doing that, don't intervene unless someone tries to strongarm her. If she isn't, you need better control game.

2020-04-27T01:10:44+00:00

Love this post because it reminds me of so much I see consistently. Let me walk you through a bit here.

I date a very beautiful girl. She's about a HB8 with the girl next door kind of look that many guys really love. Extremely fit. Bleach blonde. And very nice demeanor too that makes her approachable.

I've been with her 4 years, so a long time to observe how others act. I'd need more than my hands and feet to count the amount of guys that have tried "something" on her, even when I'm there. From roommates of mine staring her down drunk and trying to chat her up, to friends of hers/mine asking for her # and to hangout even though they know she has a guy (she'd tell me), to random people while out, to co-workers... literally everyone wants to hit on her.

I'd say 9 out of 10 are beta as fuck. They're trying because they have no options, and interacting with a hot girl is a rare experience for them. Literally ANY positive sign--as little as talking to them--they need to hamster as a reason to pursue her.

And honestly, it's annoying as fuck. Sure, I can swat them away. Sure, they're no threat. But everyone wants what I have, and it's fucking annoying. I wish I could just live life and not have these weird fuckers constantly trying to intervene, whether they're "threats" or not. But they keep coming, and they always will keep coming. That's the life of dating hot women.

You honestly don't need to do much with those 9/10 guys. Just dismiss them one way or another, and it won't matter.

Then, of course, there's the 1/10 who actually have some level of game and are Alpha to a degree. Those are a bit trickier to handle. They likely don't pose an immediate threat as much as they can make you look worse by comparison, which will degrade your value over time if a lot of men seem better than you. The best thing you can do to minimalize that is just working on your own SMV and conversational skills, so that it happens as infrequently as possible. But it's still her job to reject them, if it gets there.

spedoid · 2020-04-26T22:49:19+00:00

Don't intervene and complete ignore them. But yes, you should definitely be lifting especially if you aren't already

Title	Why do betas do this?
Author	Ulterior-Lamp
Upvotes	4
Comments	13
Date	April 26, 2020 7:13 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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