I need help.

Sal_Yodada6502 · 2020-05-05T17:15:18+00:00

It all comes with maturity and self realization, and you're still on the input side of both.

Acquiring those, you'll be more likely to seek relationship advice elsewhere.

brutalitymuffin · 2020-05-05T17:24:07+00:00

Education is important at your age but everyone knows that.

Imo the most important thing is finding a passion, but more than that what i might call a mission or a 'field of achievement'.

The best moments / experiences / achievements in your life won't come from pussy. They will come in other ways.

Anything is possible. I've met people who became cave divers, and swam through gorgeous, elaborate caves. Fantastic adventures! I would say that at your age it is important to become neophilic and curious. Go out of your way to try new things and a lot of things. Your passion might be rock climbing, literature, music, skateboarding, photography, chess, foreign languages, science. Try as much different shit as you can. Get out of your comfort zone. Utilise the resources you have. Time is on your side.

There are plenty of people out there who have actually succeeded financially in life, yet they have no passion, they don't know what to do with themselves. This shit is just sad. Finding a passion will enrich life more than anything else in my view.

womenofcourse · 2020-05-06T01:16:10+00:00

because GOD was telling the truth

we are designed to be with one person

and for both of them to care about each other

that's when sex becomes good

just sticking your dick will not make your happy

but you don't have to many girls to choose from

most are damaged

they have forgotten GOD

GoodMan_Gone · 2020-05-05T17:59:54+00:00

OP, I'll pretend to speak to my former 16 year old self on this one. Bro, the hormones are going haywire. You never looked at girls the way you do now! How the F can they be so stunningly smoking hot!!! and why didn't I see that earlier?!?! But also: why are they acting so childish? 1 to 3 years ago they were taller than me and far more adult. What's wrong???

That's mother nature, OP. For a brief time girls are ahead of boys. In their growth spurt and maturing. But it's a brief window. From roughly the age of 16 (can be some variance in that) they stop maturing and will be forever on that level. Where men will keep maturing until over 20.... Roughly around the age of 16 the stop watch is activated for girls/ women until they hit the wall. Everything is throwing towards them while you have to fight and crawl through the mud to forge your way. And as bizarre as this might sound: you are in the advantage. While your female age peers get banged 4 to 5 times per weekend you're busting your balls to make a few bucks at your side job. Thus learning the hard way the value of money.

Now for the unsettling part... I am sure "one day" you will find that girl to settle with, have kids with etc... But that's roughly 15 years from now. At the time you've clawed your way through the mud, fight for every penny and being tossed aside from those same hags over and over. Wondering why you are being so revolting to them and why the girls pick the most sorry ass losers imaginable over you. And when you're in your 30's NOW you are suddenly interesting for Stacey sitting next to you on maths (not because of you: she doesn't understand zip shit about maths and just want you to help her trough it). At that age she has had at least 500 cocks ran through her.

My advice, brother: keep that "I focus on myself part" and toss away your Disney fairy tale dream and let Stacey and her crotch spawn fend for herself forever. Having sex with a woman is not even as good as masturbating. When you masturbate you have the hand, cock, brain feedback which no woman can provide. Ffing is masturbating with a female body near you. You've seen the shit men have to put up with those creatures. They are not worth those 30 seconds.

Again: I wish I could shout that into my horny 16 year old ears and if needed beat it into me. But I can't, so I'm doing the next best thing I can, since you asked for advice.

It's the hormones speaking! Not you. And girls/ women are masters in taking advantage of that. DO NOT LET THEM!!

PrestigiousGreen3 · 2020-05-05T23:24:46+00:00

Check out seasteading. Give yourself a constructive persuit or go for a nice walk around the block check out the stars, knowing what space consists of how could you not find that interesting?

realChebz · 2020-05-06T00:23:09+00:00

You're way ahead of most 16 year olds. Find a hobby, something aligned with what you want to do when you start looking for a job. Trust me getting a leg up early on is going to be huge in future. As for urges, it will get easier to control as you get older. Easiest way to control them is to just avoid women altogether (this is up to you). Not going to give any PUA advice but if she doesn't text back, dont stress it and move on, you will forget her in a month.

ikhwan_arif · 2020-05-06T02:49:08+00:00

For one thing, if you have enough time to be wondering about a girl, that means you're spending less time on working on you. You may have low self-esteem if you care about if a girl likes you. The best way to get rid of that is to get fit, get into martial arts.

Martial arts does a number of things but 2 crucial things are discipline and it makes you discover who you are, the side of you that you didn't know you have. The more you discover and explore yourself, the more confident you will be and you will have raised your self-esteem.

Then you wouldn't care how people think about you, because you know yourself better than anyone. You no longer seek external validation because you have internal validation. You realize that the girl isn't the prize; You Are.

ransay3277 · 2020-05-05T18:53:02+00:00

Old guy here. First let me congratulate you. You have more awareness than 99% of the guys your age. I'm sure you have noted from this group and others is that most "women" your age are hooking up with guys older than you. Resources being the major attraction. Your time will come. Once you get into collage and are concentrating on your future, (Don't forget your physical health) I would not worry much about "girlfriends". I myself concentrated on cougars in college. As they say - don't tell, don't swell and happy as hell for some attention. Just remember that they are fun but temporary. Anyway, hope this helps.

Title	I need help.
Author	altorio_sir
Upvotes	19
Comments	9
Date	May 5, 2020 5:05 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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