I am on the verge of getting married through arrangement? Any advise?

Anupam200288 · 2020-05-09T11:27:18+00:00

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lolomotif12 · 2020-05-09T11:28:43+00:00

Don't.

MisterRoid · 2020-05-09T13:07:41+00:00

I think you need some experience in relationship management before getting married if you don't already have it. You have to lay down the law from the beginning to establish yourself as the leader in any relationship, or she will not respect you and you will have a miserable marriage. Act like a beta and she will probably see you as a beta until the end of time, no matter how much self-improvement you go through.

That said, I got married via an arranged marriage. Basically the brother vouched for me, I asked the father for permission to date his daughter and then I married her two weeks later. For me the feelings didn't matter much since I want her to give me children, but I'm fond of her and think it will be a happy marriage.

2020-05-09T13:23:30+00:00

If you have any money save up i would pack my stuff and run

2020-05-09T13:32:00+00:00

Do whatever you can to not do it.

Killjoys13 · 2020-05-09T13:55:10+00:00

Clearly, you are Indian and didn't have any luck in finding the right girl to marry coz LTR ain't your thing and now you are under family pressure of marrying a chicc coz otherwise you've failed your life. My advice, NEVER do it. I would never even marry let alone an ARRANGED marriage. Not only are you gambling with your life, but also her life. So, don't go for it and better yourself and just fookin' enjoy yo life!

On the other hand, unlike in western countries where even love marriages fall apart after a few years or so, arranged marriage seems to work pretty well in India. I mean everywhere I look, I can hardly find a love marriage couple and yet majority of the couples are living a good life, or atleast that's what it appears to be on the outside. I think it's because getting a divorce and/or cheating after marriage is a big taboo here.

In the capital (in cities basically), chances of getting cheated are relatively high but again, nowhere as close to other western and European countries.

I don't know man, it's a gamble, not kidding. Maybe she turns out to be just what you wanted or maybe she turns out to be a bitch, you have no idea and hence I would say NO, don't go for it.

And btw, it looks like even you don't want to do it, which is why you posted this question on this sub. I mean, this is ask'trp', everyone is going to say NO, it's pretty much obvious. So, your real question is how should I get in a stable relationship. And you are escaping all the fuss and hardwork of getting into an LTR by arranged marriage. You can lie to her and yo momma, but just don't lie to yourself. Figure what it is exactly that you want and just do that. Life is already short, don't kill it altogether by making a silly decision like tieing your life bonds with a stranger girl who would be better off in case the whole thing goes down, namean...

beginner_ · 2020-05-09T13:58:16+00:00

Don't but be aware and prepare for the consequences of that decision (which I have no idea about but you do, it's your culture).

shyrix · 2020-05-09T13:55:29+00:00

Wtf. Wrong sub.

Anupam200288 · 2020-05-09T14:35:34+00:00

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Title	I am on the verge of getting married through arrangement? Any advise?
Author	Anupam200288
Upvotes	6
Comments	31
Date	May 9, 2020 11:14 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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