I'm single but I wanted to ask to people who are married how did you settle? Obviously this is for people who felt like the settled in some way.

Do you ignore the thing(s) you think are flaw(s)? How do you stop wanting better? Do you try to think about the things you don't like in different ways and if so can you give examples?

I ask because everyone's advice towards me seems to be that I need to settle or lower my standards. So I wanted to ask people who have possibly already done it.

And I also want to open up the discussion to why I can't settle. I rode the cock carousel and I'm an alpha widow. Is this why I can't settle? Because I will have the memories of having had better always there? It doesn't make sense because that theory only applies to the relationship and not the bedroom. Since I have a very vivid imagination in the bedroom there is no problem with the lights off I just imagine my favorite past Chad.