My fiancee is attractive, loves me, wants to start a family and shares the same goals as me. But as time goes on I am realizing how unintelligent she is

Bayarea_guy · 2020-06-01T00:35:01+00:00

You want unintelligent kids, because that's how you get unintelligent kids.

LaserEyes2029 · 2020-06-01T00:43:03+00:00

Can guarantee, she will make stupid friends who give her stupid advice, that will affect your quality of life.

If she is truly unintelligent (meaning unable to use reasoning of any degree) then she'll be running on emotions and dopamine rushes. And anyone who gives her the "tingles" better than you can (be it overly emotional windbag friends or another man) then you'll be on the ass end of a divorce rape situation.

painless42 · 2020-06-01T00:51:06+00:00

It all depends on your value structure. I have a buddy whose quite happy with a wife who’s dumb as a box of rocks. She spent 10 years at community college without getting a degree, has never held a job higher than an office assistant, and was unaware that Washington state and Washington D.C. were different places. She is however a great cook and a good mom/homemaker and that is what he wants at the end of the day when he comes home from work. The kids are clean and quiet and dinner is on the table. You don’t get that if you’re married to a patent attorney.

Personally I need more of a balance, but to each their own. If it bothers you now, it will always bother you. If it’s really no big deal now, it probably won’t become an issue later. After all, If you want to have a serious conversation about anything outside of the household, you should be having it with your buddy, your whisky or your dog.

NeoTheJuanDJ · 2020-06-01T00:55:09+00:00

What is the value add (besides sex)? What does she bring to the table (besides sex) to benefit your life that is worth keeping her around? She’s going to come with a lot of baggage. You don’t have to keep her around (you can do whatever you want to do), but you engaged this chick which would imply you at least have thought about longer term being a good idea. You made that decision. What is she bringing to the table? You’re going to have to train a woman you intend to stay with regardless, but how much work are you willing to put in to that? The “dumber she is” the more training, the more extra bullshit. The more she will waver from the path. The more impulsive and dumb decisions she will make (financial, career, not doing anything around the house, her health and weight, parental decisions with your kids, fucking Chad). You can do whatever you want, but at least consider this: What is the value add besides for what’s between her legs? If she is behaving this poorly before the contract is signed at the wedding, imagine her incentive to step her game up once it is, and there is every incentive for her to behave poorly after. This is nothing. Signing that contract and possibly bringing kids into the world with a dumb bimbo is a bigger decision that you may want to consider. Also, have you ever considered you putting a ring on a dumb broad may be a reflection of you and your decision making abilities. You can’t control her, she’s dumb as a post and that’s fine. How about you, you were the guy who got hearts in his eyes and put a ring on it the second he put his dick in that. What is the value-add, and would you rather be single?

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