A ton of years ago i had this oneitis, we met in person but got closer online and blablabla u all know this story. Then we met a few more times in person and i was hard friendzoned. The point is: I wouldn't date myself back then. I was the drama king, weird skinny insecure and shy, with glasses and brackets. She was shy and insecure too, so now i see it was a good thing cause it would be probably one of those toxic relationships.

Anyway. Went no contact ( not exactly on purpose ) for all this time. I ve reached to old friends in this quarentine and this girl was from one of those groups. So now we r chatting a bit ( i initiate and it goes hours of chatting with she asking about stuff when the subject dies, ie its 50/50 i would say...sometimes she initates ). It turns out she is as cute as ever and fun to talk with. Girl with family values, good graduation, definetly a high value woman in my eyes. I'm tryting to limit contact to not more than once a week, because i m doing other stuff and its too easy to get sucked in convo. And i wont go back to best friend.

I think 1 decade is more than enough to kill the "but you r my bestie" vibe. I also changed a lot -- From PUA to RP to Lifting to 2 graduations and a good job.

I would like to take a shot again, i know someone will say "duude its oineeietes" but whatever. I won't bitch about it if doesn't work, but it ll be a lie to say "oh i just don't care". I don't care about the girls in clubs. It is not the same. Also she lives in another city, but in my line work i can live wherever i want from time to time - and next year its the time to choose another city.

That said.

How to approach this ?