I (41) just joined today. He (39) has been separated since last June, and I met him in September on a dating site. He initially told me he was divorced and then apologized when he was caught. I let the lie slide. We have since been dating and get along great.

I would feel so much better, theoretically, if I just stop seeing him until papers are signed. When I suggest this and implement it, I get chest pain from the loss and regret of the decision, and we end up back together dating again.

I know I need work, because if I cut him off and block him for a few months, I’m going to have a void (like drug withdrawal.)

I guess I need to be textually bitch-slapped about my poor decision to date this separated man.

Or maybe I need encouragement. I know this isn’t high-value behavior.