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Met this girl at party, my friend dating her sister..

Took her home that night, didn't even try to initiate sex, we were both tired. In the morning we spent an hour talking and laughing, I've been with 19 girls, one of whom was a 1 year LTR (my extreme beta moment), but I never kicked it back and laughed like I did with this check..

asked her on date, she came through, we had sex after, and sex again in the morning

next date we grabbed food, came straight back to my place, made out, then she said we should wait, I was confused because we already had sex, she said she wants to make sure our feelings aren't "clouding our judgement..." so I laughingly said "weak" and rolled over to sleep..

She made it seem like she wants LTR but wants to get to know me first... I thought she was playing games, so I said fuck it I'll give her one more date...

next date she took me to a 3-course dinner and bought me drinks as well, she payed well over $100, including all the uber fairs... she works full time minimum(ish) wage and goes to school part time (we met up in a major city so we both went home after)

later start sex texting her, and then say "next time I see you, we're having sex"

she said "dont forget the rule"

to which I replied "No more rules"

she said "I cant talk about this now, not over text"

She freaked out and called me the next day after I stopped contact, said usually you wait to have sex until you have "the talk," I said not if you already had sex... and then I changed the topic

I though she was playing games because we already had sex and was going to break it off, but I've never had a girl invest that much when she barely makes money

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She is coming over to watch a movie we've both been waiting to see this weekend, and spending the night..

My only previous LTR was good sex for 2 months, then barely any sex for 8 months, and no sex for the final 2...

by the time the Ex and I broke up I was fat, now I lost a shit ton of weight, abs coming in, and literally bring a girl home every time I go to the bar with friends (like twice a month because I dont have time)

Im willing to have a LTR with this chick, even though its too soon to tell, but what I will not do is be a slave to sex anymore. She may be willing to give BJ but I rarely ever bust from those, if it goes on too long I start getting anxious because the girl gets anxious usually, and it turns to ED (guy goes soft) so its kinda embarrassing, I like BJ more as a warm up before sex really..

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Im going to try again this weekend... if she says no, should I:

Tell her she cant sleepover after the movie (already bought the ticket) and send her home

End it and tell her "we're not sexually compatible"

or say no sex, no relationship while having "the talk"...

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Im confused on what to do, am I asking too much or being too picky when it comes to sex? need advice please