So helpful...

level_up_always · 2019-12-21T05:27:59+00:00

“The best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago, the second best time is today”

Congrats on finding the sub and starting your level up journey! I’m only about to hit “the wall” myself at 29 and have been feeling a lot of anger about not learning these things sooner. I just keep telling myself at least I didn’t have kids (if only bc I never wanted them), but still can’t help feeling like I wasted so much time and wish I learned sooner. I never learned and no one ever taught me how to respect myself. It makes me feel so much sadness. In fact I was taught the opposite that if I let someone treat me like crap they will “see” and love me. Family included. Our entire society is based on gaslighting women into a bunch of bs bc they benefit from us having low self esteem. It’s really horrific. I hope these feelings go away bc I don’t want to be a bitter person. Although the red pill is trash maybe they’re onto something with the anger phase and this is just the female version. Best we can do is accept it and teach our children (metaphorically for me). I hope you are getting professional help and healing for your trauma ❤️

2019-12-21T11:28:54+00:00

I'm younger than you but the same thing happened to me during my childhood. So I became a pathetic doormat who would always forgive, beg and take the blame.

In the beginning of December I snapped and told my ex that I shouldn't beg for him to listen to me nor should I deal with his tantrums and fickle tendencies(he rejected me twice during November, and every time blamed me, distorted my words to justify him silencing me, he even said that I couldn't be loved because I have body dysmorphia and abandonment issues... Then he would act like he was being the most generous man on the planet).

When I snapped, he blocked me everywhere, and as usual offered no arguments.

It hurt at the beginning because I have been the most vulnerable with him, and believed him when he said he wanted a future with me.

Then he started to be mean, ignoring me, using the silent treatment, saying stuff like I'm a liar and dumb...

I'm alone now but I am much happier like than when I was with my boyfriend. At some point I was always anxious to not say the right things and scared of his reactions...

So yeah, it's never too late to move on from these stupid men! :)

Title	So helpful...
Author	FlyRach1973
Upvotes	58
Comments	2
Date	December 21, 2019 3:29 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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