FDS Newbie: I've had really good loving relationships in the past, but now that I've gotten a little older it is increasingly difficult to weed out LVMs (and I'm in NYC which is a mess for dating).

I don't have a history of being jealous, but curious what the FDS viewpoint is on this.

Summary points

  1. Mark met me in public, we bumped into each other again then he asked me out.
  2. He wasn't love bombing, but very flattering and enthusiastic about seeing me.
  3. A little pushy re sex, but I held him off until I was ready. I had to set boundaries on another matter, but I think that's settled.
  4. We've been dating for a month, I'm still dating another guy I've been seeing for four months. All's fair when there's no commitment. I'm still deciding who is worth it, if either of them.
  5. No issues with communication or unexplained absences so far.
  6. **He is in Cali for the weekend for a sports game.** He face timed me while he was walking around told me he had dinner plans for the evening with a **friend.** No gender specified.
  7. He had been posting stories on IG and I was deliberately **not** looking. Facetimes me from the match, told me he ate some good food, check the IG if I wanna see it. I check it and he posted his dinner and tagged the female friend. I checked her IG (public) and he's been peeping her posts for a while with likes and fire memes and whatever.
    1. Ok - **my guy told me this could've been intentional on his part**. I had two courses of action, completely ignore it or call him out. I don't know him well enough to know what would give him satisfaction (in order to choose the opposite).
    2. So - I just say in my sassy way **Sounds romantic** with the cool face emoji and some smiley thing. And then say, let's have a nice dinner soon.
      1. My point was testing him to see how he'd react. Would he validate me or blow me off? Would he be transparent?
      2. He was like **she's a friend from xy & z and of course we can have dinner. Let's do Saturday.**
      3. **But I'm still like you took a girl out to dinner that you're attracted to.**
      4. **don't worry about the hypocrisy about what I'm doing lmao**
      5. I ended the conversation by telling him to enjoy his match! (no sour tone)

Questions to readers:

  1. How would you have handled this? Would you have ignored it or otherwise?
  2. What do you think of my approach?
  3. Do you think he was baiting me and if so what is that a sign of?
  4. Comments on his transparency? Yes, she's technically a "friend" because you're not in a relationship, but there is something there. And as far as I know, he booked those tickets after he and I met because it's related to a recently planned sporting event.
  5. Approach to him going forward? I already don't initiate texting (v little) and literally plan on not texting him at all and seeing my other dude. Guess that's it right?