I'm sure this will be downvoted, reported, and ultimately deleted, but before that happens, in the off-chance any of you read this and just want to ask questions or vent frustrations and get a male's perspective, I'm an average mid-30's guy who's been through the ringer in many relationships and feels bad that any of you found your way here out of desperation or low self-esteem. I'd like to offer my help in reminding you that a majority of us are people-pleasers who just enjoy the happiness of others, and seeing them happy with us.

If you want to reach out, feel free to message me before this gets deleted. I'll entertain anyone's questions or requests to talk. If it's any more effective, I can even entertain the idea of a voice chat so you don't have to over-analyze whether or not what I'm saying is sarcasm. Know that you're not as bad as you might think, others will find beauty in you, and being yourself without putting on a facade is the most effective way to find yourself in a long, happy, fulfilling relationship with someone else. Oh, and communication. Open, effective communication skills are key.

I wish you all well.