I was in a fun relationship with a foreign girl (yes, they are pretty good) who had to travel back to her home country to renew her visa. She would only be gone a few weeks. Her lease was up so I said she could leave her bags with me if she paid rent on them. She was only staying a short time in her country so she didn't take much with her. She definitely liked me more than I liked her and we had a good thing going - very feminine etc.

In her country she's a fitness instructor. Before she left, she asked me to copy some training videos to her iPad from her hard drive because she will be taking a localized version of the instructor course to teach in my country. She has about 50GB of them and I only copied about 5GB. She left her hard drive with me.

We talked over FaceTime every once in a while, then corona hit and WHAM travel bans. I soon realized covid was going to mean being in a "long distance relationship". Then the FaceTime calls ramped up (my bad, corona-induced scarcity kicked in). Long story short, I can't fuck a digital screen and I didn't want to be calling all the time so I told her I wanted to call less -about once every 2 weeks for my sanity's sake. She took this as not wanting to call at all, cried a lot and then cut all messaging comms with me. Overall, it's been pretty good. I am glad I don't have that false sense of security an LDR gives.

So right now this is sounding mostly like a pretty easy NEXT situation.

BUT

Before she cut comms she said "I would have you ship my stuff back to me but you have my laptop and that can't ship"

Here's what I'd like to know:

One day next year she will probably come back to my country, if not for me at least to collect her stuff.

I have her email so I can still contact her if I really wanted and I want to know if I should bother to communicate with her - for a good reputation etc. or to be the silent bad boy till she returns/reaches out.

I feel that I should upload more of her instructor training videos because I they might be helpful for when she gets back here. At the same time, I know that any effort I go through had better be for selfless reasons because of her hypergamy and solipsism and that she removed me from all comms so I shouldn't feel obliged to do anything for her.

It's been two months since the break in comms, right before it happened she sent me a package with some souvenirs and a card - the delay between sending and receiving is so much that it is going to arrive in a couple days time.

So whether I should reach out or not I'm not sure. My concern is that I'm damned if I do, damned if I don't. I've tried to be thorough and I know it comes as very oneitis-y... if plating more bitches were an option right now I would be doing that instead.