So i had a thing on and off with this girl for about an year. I was an absolute dickhead thorwards her, some of the shit i did to her i still cringe if i think about it. Our last interaction was around this time last year, i went to visit her, refused sex with her and ended up acting like an autistic kid around her friends. An absolute shit show.

I couldnt understand at the time why i was being a cunt to her.

After swallowing the red pill i understood that my frame would absolutely shatter around her, and ive recently realized that because of my childhood i have the emocional Intelligence of a 7 y/o (so eg when i Lost my frame, or She did something i didnt like, my automatic response was to throw a fit and try to make her feel bad to "gain an advantage").

Ive been working hard on improving this side of my Life, and me and this girl have both moved on with our lives. The thing is she is a very close friends with my sister, so she often comes up in conversations and my sister has moved to this girl's town, so i think its very likely we will cross paths in a near future.

I in absolutely no way want to pursue anything with her, but was thinking of sending this girl a message, kind of apologizing, to tell her that i now kind of understand why i was a cunt to her and that Im working on the issue, this as an attempt to not make things akward in the future and kinda rest my mind.

Am I hamstering and should not say anything or is it a good idea?

Thanks guys

Tldr: should i apologize to a girl for being a dickhead now that i understand the reason behind it