I (24) cold approach tourists in my city. One of them (24) we spent the day together, held her hands, lots of attraction and at the last moment she dropped the bomb: i have a boyfriend.

She left the city next day. I tried to get her number but she didn’t give it to me, she told me she’d reach out to me to buy something I make. I gave her my business card and two days later she sent an email.

I try to flirt with her but she “struggles” to keep it professional, often asking me more personal stuff. She stalks my Instagram although she doesn’t follow me. All of our interaction happens through email, I think because she doesn’t want her boyfriend to find out.

When I keep silent she’ll reach out saying something random, when I try to escalate she backs off. Then texts me again in few days. Praises her city to me, maybe wants me to visit?

If she’s that much interested, how treat her for maximum outcome? In the past I’ve made a girl return to my city just to see me more, but she was of course far more interested.

Bonus: she’s been with her boyfriend for 4 years now, her Instagram is full of pictures of them together. He seems in control of the frame but that’s what I grasped from the outside.