My GF and I had a pretty bad fight yesterday, and I wanted some Extrp perspective on it

TheMadWoodcutter · 2020-07-20T03:03:07+00:00

Honestly your GF sounds unbelievably insecure. Why are you with her in the first place? My gut tells me she's using you (she probably doesn't even realise this herself) as a buffer so she doesn't have to grow up and develop some self assuredness and maturity.

scoopdiwhoop · 2020-07-19T22:35:47+00:00

I think that you're being a sensitive, kind, and generous guy. I think that you're looking out for her needs and not your own, which while selfless maybe creating a dynamic which isn't healthy for you as it's centered around her satisfaction.

I believe there are red flags in this relationship- the money aspect where she almost expects you to pay for everything and also the lack of physical affection which is something that you appreciate and want in a relationship. I'm quite worried about this situation and would suggest a sit-down conversation where you guys discuss your future together in the context of if she would be willing to split dates 50/50 and also be willing to meet your needs physically.

I slipped down into the red pill because of a similar ex and I think these situations if allowed to fester where you keep blaming yourself could cause you to be really unhappy but i'm getting red-flags about her and really think you should attempt to fix these imbalances in her effort,time, and willingness to spend money or leave her. Look how much you're doing for her, and look how she treats you when you try to talk about the situation and what's upsetting you. It sounds like she maybe walking all over you.

I'll add the disclaimer that I do still have red-pill tendencies and like you, and most people on this reddit, I have been burned a lot in the past and therefore have some cynicism that I've been working through in regards to relationships/flings/love.

Title	My GF and I had a pretty bad fight yesterday, and I wanted some Extrp perspective on it
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Upvotes	3
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Date	July 19, 2020 9:42 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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