Where to meet women and how to improve my social skills?

throwaway6ixside · 2020-07-22T19:14:14+00:00

Where do you meet women ? Go to places where your hobbies are. Do things you enjoy and find women there that way you guys have something in common. Improve social skills by talking to different groups of people, be knowledgeable, eye contact, and sound confident.

ChanSamdler · 2020-07-22T19:32:38+00:00

I’d say your first step should be to reconnect with some male friends from your past and try and gather a solid circle of male friends. Hobbies are a good way to meet high quality girls but aren’t necessarily the easiest grounds for pick up, if you can ever go to house parties that is the way to go for at least a starting point in talking to girls. House parties = easy mode Bars/Pubs = medium difficulty Nightclubs = hard mode But for sure there is more options than just that, as the other guy in the thread mentioned developing hobbies is a good thing in general regardless of whether or not it will directly get you girls it is likely to help indirectly. Also get some solid photos and jump on tinder etc, Tinder is pretty bloody ruthless in terms of the supply/demand of women (hard to succeed if not in top %10 of males) but it is still certainly an option just don’t use it as your only method. Best of luck!

inbredostrptw · 2020-07-22T23:22:43+00:00

This is a comment I made on another post and I think it can help here too.

I’ve was always introverted but still had one of the largest social circles and a lot of acquaintances.

So first I will tell you how you can get a larger social circle and then I will tell you how you can become more extroverted.

As I said, I was introverted, so I never spoke a lot, but, I was always listening and knew how to genuinely connect with people and could always chime in with insightful and witty comments. Listen to people and respond accordingly and you will easily make friends. Realize that other people are just like you, very complicated and interesting. Develop a genuine interest in people and it will be a lot easier to connect with them. To sum it up. Be interested to be interesting.

Now you need to meet people. You need to talk to people in your classes, you need to hit the gym and talk to people there, you need to talk to people at lunch. You need to to talk to people everywhere. In line at the bus, on the train, literally everywhere. This will get you good at talking to people and help you meet people. Now naturally you will not form relationships with most of these people. So to meet quality people that you can hang out with on a regular basis, you need to join groups or clubs. I’m sure you’re interested in something, whether it be books, chess, wrestling, idk. Find a club for it, and join it. Fraternities are good too. You need to put yourself around people that you will see often. Don’t have a negative impression of fraternities because of the stereotype. You can find one with like minded people that can be your friends. And if not, clubs. Although even if you are in a fraternity you should still join clubs.

By constantly talking to people and improving your social skills, by cultivating genuine interest, by becoming fun to talk to and thus more confident, you will become more extroverted. Really it’s about talking to everyone while also forming and maintaining quality relationships.

Some tips for talking to people. Listen intently. People will tell you what they want to talk about next.

Something I learned yesterday and was upset I couldn’t practice today because of rain, is not putting to much pressure on yourself. You don’t have to try to impress people with your conversational skills. Talk to people for fun. If there’s an awkward pause, sit in it. It isn’t always your job to fill the silence. It’s a conversation. It’s cooperative by nature.

I hope this helps. Any questions, feel free to ask.

Remember to lift.

Oh, also, sports are great. If you can join a sports team you’re golden. Playing a competitive sport connects men like nothing else in my opinion.

Spartawolf · 2020-07-23T16:50:43+00:00

Pick up a few hobbies and excuses to go out if you lack confidence to do just do it randomly on your own. I actually use https://www.meetup.com/ to find random pub crawls and make acquaintances, but you can cater your search for your own personal interests

Title	Where to meet women and how to improve my social skills?
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Date	July 22, 2020 7:08 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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