I've read about symptoms of BPD online, and I believe she meets some of them but only in a mild way. I'm 24, she's 23. Been dating for a month, she comes across as very keen on me, I do like her and she has a 10/10 body.

  • She has a single mother, who has been churning out 7 kids. Probably from random boyfriends.

  • Father back home in another country. Hasn't seen him since she was a baby. She was born there but came here as a refugee.

  • 2 or 3 n-count. Apparently lost virginity to an ex bf who raped her.

  • We've done sexual things, but not full sex yet. She let me know to not even try as we wouldn't have sex. Yet her mood switches from her ideas to get a hotel when I see her next, to half an hour later being anxious about sex and being alone with me.

  • Her mood swings every half hour (only in a minor way, but its noticeable). One minute she will be laying in bed with me telling me I'm amazing, the next she is turned away and aviodant because I didnt feel like sucking her tit.

  • Has told me to my face she wants to push my buttons and see me annoyed. Just tonight she threatened over text to not speak to me tomorrow if I went to sleep. When I called her out on it, she confessed that she purposefully tries to get guys to break things off by annoying them, in order to protect her feelings.

  • I feel like I'm walking on eggshells as one slightly insulting comment will shut down her mood, or over text just lead to her reacting very badly.

Tonight we were discussing whether or not to break things off... for the sake of her feelings about starting a relationship going into the new year. She did say she really likes me and is worried about how strongly she feels.

So I've agreed that we'd meet to discuss in person tomorrow.

The thing is that I do like her as a person and that I will get great sex in about a week. She definitely has plate potential with the possibility of leading to a LTR depending how things go. It's just, there are these minor things like small mood swings, or even the fact I've had to spend hours tonight texting her to figure things out.

Is she just going to use up all my time? And would it be kinder to not risk breaking her heart, and letting her go before the New Years?

What do you think TRP?