I mentioned this in a comment elsewhere but thought it might be better as a post.

I've seen a lot of posts and comments here from young men who are having difficulty unlearning the rp assertion that women have it easy in dating/sex, as well as the overall misogyny. So I wanted to recommend a documentary miniseries from Australia called "Love on the Spectrum", which is about dating and relationships for young people with varying forms of Austistic Spectrum Disorder.

When I first saw the trailer, I was worried that it was going to be sensationalistic and exploitative, but I was extremely pleasantly surprised at just how sensitive, respectful, and compassionate the filmmaking crew were towards their participants. They follow a number of young people in their late teens to mid-twenties, some of whom are trying to date, some of whom are already in relationships, all of whom are on the spectrum.

One takeaway I really think the young men on this forum who are struggling with the points I mentioned above could get from this is the empathy it can cultivate for the young women on the spectrum who are followed in the documentary. Attractive young women can also be awkward, shy, and confused by dating! This is true even for women who aren't on the spectrum, but you really get to live it by watching the young women in the documentary.

Another takeaway I think the young men in this forum could find useful is that not all dating styles work for all people. One of the first young men they follow goes on a first date with a young woman he's met at a social function set up for people on the spectrum. He's clearly a very romantic fellow who has absorbed the societal lessons of how to make a perfectly romantic first date: he gets dressed up, he's taken her to a nice restaurant, he even brings her a single red rose. If all women wanted that kind of romance, she'd swoon at his feet, right? (I was practically swooning in my chair, and I'm old enough to be that fellow's mother! And I'm not even INTO societal notions of romantic dates that much!) But this young woman wasn't into those kind of romantic trappings, felt seriously pressured and overstimulated, and had to retreat and go sit at the bar to prevent a panic attack! I felt so bad for both of them, as a bit of communication before the date, like asking "What is your dream first date like?", could have prevented such a sad outcome for both of them.

As a polyamorous woman with three male partners, one of whom is diagnosed autistic, and another of whom is almost assuredly on the spectrum but feels no great need to get a formal diagnosis, I found this series very enlightening to watch in my ongoing work to better understand my autistic partners. I was so envious on their behalf of the kinds of support mechanisms available today to these young adults in Australia, as nothing of the kind was available for them when and where they grew up, and they both felt very isolated and confused. There was an ASD speed dating event with helpful cue cards for questions to ask, a weekend seminar in the form of a "dating bootcamp" led by a psychologist from UCLA who'd developed the program, and even a dating and relationship coach who specifically works with young people on the autistic spectrum to help them navigate such a confusing endeavor for them.

The other reason I bring this up in a forum for ex-redpillers is because I've seen the assertion elsewhere that a lot of the incel/redpill young men might be on the spectrum. Dating and relationships are certainly confusing and awkward enough for young neurotypical people, and adding in the difficulties that ASD tends to bring along, like difficulty in reading social cues and perceiving emotional states, makes matters so much harder that I could certainly imagine young men on the spectrum without strong support and acceptance from their families being radicalized in that way. My own autistic partners were both very much "late bloomers", but they were both raised by loving, non-misogynistic parents, which prevented them from ever becoming as bitter and angry as the young men who go down the the redpill rabbithole. I really wish programs like those shown in the documentary were more widely available, as they seem to have been a great support for the young people, men and women both, who participated in the documentary.

Anyway, if you've read this far, I hope you'll seek out "Love on the Spectrum" and watch it. I was able to get it via Netflix in Germany, and I hope it's available where you live.