This post is a simple theory for guys like me who want to understand how the entire system works. It has taken me quite an effort to compress everything down to this, and I hope you will find this to be valuable.

"Take women for what they are. Women. Let go of the Disneyland notions you have made about them." -Me.

Anyone who has thought about the subject of life for 2 minutes will understand that humans are meant and designed in a very fascinating way to :

  1. Survive
  2. Replicate

And do that in the easiest, most efficient way we can. And all of our actions, behaviors, mental models and frameworks are there to perpetuate us. And all they need to be, is to be effective at their purpose of existence, which is perpetuation.

To understand social dynamics, the best way is to go about it is evolutionary psychology and understanding how it applies now. How we are today is very much built upon how we used to be, and how that came to be in the first place. People are fat today because in the caveman days, food was scarce, and we consumed as much of it as soon as we could. Now times have changed, but our circuitry remains the same.

Some things-you-should-know :

Individualism : Individualism is the moral stance, political philosophy, ideology and social outlook that emphasizes the moral worth of the individual. Individualists promote the exercise of one's goals and desires and so value independence and self-reliance and advocate that interests of the individual should achieve precedence over the state or a social group while opposing external interference upon one's own interests by society or institutions.

Solipsism : Solipsism is the philosophical idea that only one's mind is sure to exist. As an epistemological position, solipsism holds that knowledge of anything outside one's own mind is unsure; the external world and other minds cannot be known and might not exist outside the mind.

Narcissism : Narcissism is the pursuit of gratification from vanity or egotistic admiration of one's idealized self-image and attributes.

Utilitarianism : Utilitarianism is a family of normative ethical theories that prescribe actions that maximize happiness and well-being for all affected individuals.

I am using these terms to make this topic sound smarter than it actually needs to be. All of this because it lets me be specific and more pin-pointing. For the people who like things to be simple, what I mean here is that Lesser degree of narcissism + solipsism + individualism can be equated to just being selfish, self-interested and self-serving. When I refer to these terms, this is what I mean. This the first definition from Wikipedia. I am defining everything to remove ambiguity to the best of my ability.

Things are not binary. Don't be autistic. Here are some assumptions I need people to understand :

  1. Some level of individualism/solipsism/narcissism is present in everyone. In simple terms, self-interest and selfishness is present in everyone. But to varying degrees.
  2. Some level of utilitarianism is also present in everyone. Some level of desire to look for the "best for everyone" is also present in everyone. Also to varying degrees.

Assume a scale with narcissism/individualism on one end and utilitarianism on the other. One of the key differences between men and women is that men are relatively more to the side of utilitarianism than women and women are more towards the individualistic/self-serving side of the scale. The frequency distribution is a skewed normal distribution a.k.a. bell curve, with the mean, median and mode shifted towards either side of the scale.

Now that a framework of assumptions and definitions has been made, we can finally get to the topic.

So women. To put it simply, their decision making is completely based upon the fact that they are, and always have been; the vulnerable sex. And all their power resides in their sexuality, and the peak of that power doesn't last very long.

Because they are vulnerable, this amplifies the self-serving/individualistic/solipsistic nature exponentially. And vulnerability justifies it all. And the end (at least what they imagine the end would be), justifies the means.

Because the peak power of their sexuality doesn't last very long, this also amplifies the self-serving/individualistic/solipsistic nature exponentially. The urgency to maximize the benefits out of the peak of their power justifies it all. And the end (at least what they imagine the end would be), justifies the means.

Vulnerability :

To understand why is it this way; one must understand that women have always had a deep rooted insecurity about their survival and survival of their off-springs. They only have 500 eggs. 300 that can be reliably successful. 30-40 being the number of times they can be impregnated in their life. Men have virtually and relatively infinite sperm. Gestation is extremely costly for a woman in every which way. Ejaculation costs almost nothing to a man. Also, men have more strength and other factors which has made it easier for men to survive on their own. Women can't or it is very difficult for them. Also it is difficult for women to maintain agency of their sexuality by using brute force. Therefore, their agency is provided to them by men. Because it is in benefits both sexes and removes chaos from reproduction. But there is an ingrained anxiety about losing agency of their sexuality in all women, all the time. There mind knows this very deeply that the cost of any unwanted pregnancy is too high. It has an instinctual fear of losing agency of sexuality. This makes them vulnerable as well.

Because they are vulnerable, this amplifies the self-serving/individualistic/solipsistic nature exponentially. Because when you are vulnerable, you can't afford losing out on anything that is perceived as best option. Things like "The greater good", "What's fair", "Standing up for what's right", "I've made a commitment" and the lot get thrown down the window much more easily and mental gymnastics/"hamstering" is performed very efficiently to make sure that these concepts of "fairness" and "commitment" don't come in the way of the best option. Also the mental gymnastics/"hamstering" is done in such a way that the pretense that their decisions align with concepts of "fairness" and "commitment" is maintained, in some very warped way.

But whatever it is and howsoever they do it, it sure is effective at letting women make the best decision for themselves, be it ethical or unethical while making sure that she doesn't feel like she is a bad person for making that decision afterwards.

They don't have much time to maximize benefits from their peak of power :

Not only that, as Rollo puts it, women's flame of power as value in the sexual marketplace burns bright and it burns fast. They have a lot of options and a lot of power for a very short time. (18-30/32ish. Let's be generous). And in that period losing out on any good opportunity just because of some notion of "honesty" or "commitment" almost seems counter intuitive. Be it the opportunity to have sex with an Alpha male, or utilize any resources from a Beta male, or to keep switching between the two alternatively or doing both simultaneously.

Because they are the vulnerable sex, and because they don't have much time; they exhibit certain behaviors/tendencies.

These behaviors are inter-connected but manifest differently :

  1. Avoid accountability. Can let go of notions of being fair or honest very quickly if there is a chance of the consequences of their actions firing back at them : And they don't like being accountable at all. Whatever form it may take, or whatever they perceive to be dodgy. They avoid it instinctively. Because when you are vulnerable, you cannot afford loss of any kind. Even if you have to let go of any notion of fairness or honesty to hide the consequences of your decisions. Even if someone else pays the price for it. Even if someone is fooled into making life altering decisions because of your lie. Vulnerability justifies the behavior. The ends justify the means.
  2. Can let go of notions of being fair or honest very quickly if reward is high enough. And they are masters at rationalizing it away to remove their accountability and make themselves feel better about their decisions : They are very smart at maximizing benefits from minimum input. Being fair, honest, overt about their intentions, or being logically congruent doesn't matter. It all just has to be effective at maximizing benefits. The end justifies the means. And the vulnerability, justifies the behavior. [ Note: Benefits are not objective, but subjective. They don't really have to be benefits in the literal sense, they just need to be perceived by them as benefits. For example: Company of a perceived Alpha male. Which is why some women stay in actual abusive relationships. This might seem incomprehensible to us, but company of a dominant Alpha is perceived to be a benefit by her.]
  3. Briffault's law : Neither do they ever think that they owe anyone anything, because of Briffault's Law.
  4. Doubt-based decision mechanism : Because they are vulnerable, it is very difficult for them to be too sure about their decisions. They always keep testing their decisions, need validation from themselves and others about their decisions and they always want a Plan B and a way out. So that even if they fuck up, they can bring themselves to stability as soon as possible. Vulnerability justifies the behavior. The ends justify the means.

Briffault's Law is :

  • Even though a woman has accrued past benefits from her relationship with a man, this is no guarantee of her continuing the relationship with him.  (Translation:  What have you done for me lately?)
  • If a woman promises a man to continue her relationship with him in the future in exchange for a benefit received from him today, her promise becomes null and void as soon as the benefit is rendered.  (“I will gladly pay you Tuesday for a hamburger today.“)
  • A man’s promise of a future benefit has limited ability to secure a continuing relationship with a woman, and his promise carries weight with her only to the extent that the woman’s wait for the benefit is short and to the extent that she trusts him to keep his promise.

Why do women act in the framework described by this law? Well why wouldn't they. Why would any self-serving entity be fair and honest and overt? Why would any self-serving entity keep up with their end of any overt or covert bargain and not abandon the deal as soon as it can when it can see that there will be no harm to itself in doing so? It doesn't need to be fair, or logical. Fairness and all goes out the window when even the doubt of losing potential ground is sensed. Remember, they are vulnerable. Remember, they don't have much time. In their mind, they cannot afford loss or missing out on gains at any cost. Therefore, the decision-making mechanism just needs to be effective, effective at making women's decisions comply with her innate solipsism/individualism. Again, think of it all like a business deal. Or a negotiation. In a negotiation, why would you leave anything on the table that you could get your hands on? Also why would you not abandon the deal if it causes discomfort to you, and there will be no consequences? Why would you not lie and hide details which may make you lose ground? Why not especially when it not only is consequence free, but will make the deal more beneficial to you. If you could, why wouldn't you?

Vulnerability justifies and explains the behavior. The urgency, justifies and explains the behavior. The end justifies the mean. Whenever you are trying to understand women's behavior, just keep these thoughts in mind and it will all make sense.

"Logical" and "fair" are concepts which are only applicable in conditions where all counter-parties involved can cause reasonable harm to each other if they don't reach a consensus. Where any party lacks such ability of afflicting damage, it gets left out at the least, stomped upon at most. Most morality stems from fear. Fear stems from scarcity/fear of loss, pain or death; moreover, consequences. Whenever such fear and scarcity or consequences reduce, concepts like fairness lose value.

(Men usually have a bleak sense of fairness because in the caveman days, resources where scarce. If you fucked over your tribe, you would be killed. Women didn't do that because they couldn't afford/dare to. See: vulnerability)

These behaviors are instinctual to women, and part of their limbic system:

As Rollo says, men process life through the route of instinct->reasoning->emotion.

Whereas women process life by the route of instinct->emotion->reasoning.

To optimize/speed-up decisions, their decision-making mechanisms relies heavily on their limbic systems. When you know you are always more vulnerable, and because you have little time to make best use of the peak of your power; you really want your decisions to be as fast as possible. Therefore, a lot of women's decisions and behaviors are made and governed by autonomous circuitry. And those systems are very heavily inclined towards individualism/solipsism/are self-serving. They don't (nor do they have to/should) think about their decisions. They just see the situation and they know what they have to do.

This doubt-based decision-making mechanism has been in women for so long that their brains have been wired that way. It is an autonomous circuitry in their minds, and doesn't require much cognition, if any at all. Therefore, all of this is very much part of their instinct. They don't have to create mental logic gates. Their mind does it for them. Just like our male brain does when it looks at a slim girl with long hair and big tits. We don't have to calculate the chest-to-waist-to-hip ratio. Our mind does it or us and tells us in terms of level of arousal or lust developed/induced.

How vulnerability & urgency manifests itself in women in sexual dynamics :

Now I will explain how vulnerability & urgency manifests itself in women in many ways that we already know about, strictly in the realm of sexual dynamics :

"Shit Tests" and "Comfort tests" : Because of the vulnerability and urgency, Women keep doubting their decisions and will keep seeking validation and approval of their own decisions from others, and themselves. This root, ingrained insecurity in a very "cave-woman" way, which is in all women universally; is where things like "Shit Tests" and "Comfort tests" originate. They are never too sure about their decisions. When the cost is threat to survival because of sub-optimal male, you can never be too sure. When the cost is having sub-optimal babies after 9 months of hell and at least 5 years of nurturing, you can never be too sure. This is all instinctual as well.

"Pre-Selection" : The urgency to maximize benefit from short window of best opportunities is from where Pre-selection arises. To speed up the process of evaluating the value of a man, transfer some of that processing responsibility to other women, and take their word/perception for it.

"Alpha Fucks/Beta bucks" : This behavior again demonstrates how concepts like being fair and honest go out the window because of the vulnerability and urgency. This best demonstrates the higher individualistic tendencies in women.

"War Bride Dynamic" and the "Light Switch Effect" : Women are quick to adapt to new environment for survival. Because of vulnerability, their mind has much ease at moving on from a previous partner and getting on with the program, to ensure survival. And, if their previous partner was killed by the new dominant male in combat, this sends a signal that her previous partner was sub-optimal than the new dominant male, thus attach themselves to the new dominant male much easily.

Plausible Deniability : Because of superior survival skills and abilities, historically men have built the components of society. Therefore, have had an innate instinct and passed down knowledge from ages to not only cultivate it further, but also be responsible for it. Whereas women, because they are vulnerable, hate accountability and avoid it like the plague. Now, we understand that any misdemeanor that would damage society has always been treated with either booting from society (exile in the old days, jail in the modern times) or death. No one wants death, obviously. And women have a developed an understanding that they can't survive by themselves in exile. Which is also instinctual. Therefore, they have an instinctual aversion to being exiled, which further translates to an instinct to avoid accountability, which even further manifests the incredible mastery of using plausible deniability.

Hiding their body count : Women know that their relationship market value decreases as their body count increases. They know that men perceive a past of cheating, whoring and slut-try as projection of future, which might make the high value men to not engage in monogamy, and not provide resources to them. So women will try to hide their body count or take out any accountability from their past to the best of their ability, so that high value males don't reject them. Because of women's innate urgency and disproportional number of high value men. Also, to a lesser degree; rejection by them can mean threat to survival. This also is instinctual to women. They don't think about it, they have autonomous circuitry which does it for them.

It is what it is.

How this affects society and why it is inevitable :

No Consequences for women. Society has collectively made ever increasing efforts to make sure of that. Beta will let go off all ground for a chance of a morsel of pussy. Right now, society, governments, beta men and women themselves help women with their survival/beta bucks side. There is a constant effort by the above mentioned groups to reduce the vulnerability of women. Beta men do it for the imaginary covert contract that they will be rewarded with sex, also because it is instinctual to men (See protector dynamic). Women lie to beta men and make them change society such that women can live almost consequence-free in at least the survival side of their human existence. It has all played out and has been very effective in insuring women of their survival, free of consequences. Be it divorce laws, me2, onlyfans or shaming the slut-shamers. It has all be fascinatingly effective at ensuring women can be free from any negative consequences of their decisions.
And where the above mentioned groups fall short, women start the daddy dynamic with the guy they perceive as most optimal, and in their imagined range/sexual market place (which is now global).

Deviations from monogamy and meritocracy are welcomed, increasingly : For any TradCons here, let me explain something to you. Alphas, Betas and women have existed together for as long as we have existed. The transformation of society in its current state is more or less predictable, and unchangeable. As long as science & technology makes deviations from monogamy and meritocracy affordable and bearable, nothing will change. Things can never go back (if by back you mean back when we just had wars until we made a bomb big enough to kill everyone). Understand this, that society has become too abundant and accommodating of bad decisions. Even if a strong uprising/backlash movement occurs, things will go back to status quo (today, or maybe even worse) after some time. Because there will always be Alphas, Betas and Women.

How men fool themselves and how to prevent it from happening:

We understand that women make use of limbic systems much, much more than us men. That isn't the only thing that sets us a little back, but also the fact that whatever use of limbic or "gut feeling" we had as men has been/is going to be completely demonized (It is a shit test in itself, I will talk about it in a later post). While making a decision (and I am talking about real decisions, changing jobs, relationships etc.), we rationalize and argue about any decision with ourselves. And we usually are very bad at this. Not because we can't do the mental math, but because we are able to shift what we consider "valuable" or "urgent" so easily.

Why are we able to shift that so easily? Firstly, because of the blue pill conditioning. We talk about that enough in the manosphere. Secondly, because we get too attached to our ideas and mental models and we don't want to be wrong. This is almost opposite of the "War bride dynamic" in women

Which is where our egos manipulate us so easily. Which is why, we are able to lie to ourselves so easily, especially when we want our mental models and way of living life to hold true, even if we know deep in our psyche that it will bite us in the ass because it is bad mental model. We want it to hold true so that we don't have to face the reality that we were wrong and that our whole lives and experiences and the way we used to process and register things was wrong. We want it to hold true so that our mind doesn't doubt its own ability to live and survive.

How to prevent that? This is where I personally believe the complete Red Pill theory can be compressed into three very simple things. The first thing concerns perspective and the other two concern the actions (pursue and remove) you take when you perceive things from that perspective. These three things/concepts are : Making yourself your own Mental Point of Origin, Deliberate action towards self-interest and Boundary Enforcement. Change all your mental models and framework to strictly align with making yourself your own mental point of origin. Exercise your new mental models in the form of boundary enforcement and actions directed towards self-interest. Un-apologetic self-interest. All of this to say that you should pursue things which are good for you, and remove/avoid things which are bad for you. You and you alone. Frame originates from the combination of these three things. There isn't much to say. You can ignore everything else I have written above. Nail these three things down, and that is it.

Life presents with situations too complicated to analyze completely or handle methodically. The best way to handle it is by understanding the dynamics and nailing the fundamental concepts down. I have given the root parameters and forces behind the dynamics to you. Take the basic equation of vulnerability and urgency as driving factors and then keep integrating it to understand how these two things manifest in more complex situations. What about fundamentals? Well, Lurk Moar.