To the older users

le_king_falcon · 2013-10-25T14:49:58+00:00

I'm 22, here's my current "red pill" doings.

Started lifting or running 5 days a week, other two are for team sports, in my case lacrosse, I chose it because it's fast, team based and aggressive. So it's hard work, it can relieve stress, allows me to make male friends and revel in the only true male safe zone in my life. Perfect for my needs and to be blunt I just love playing the game too.

Changed my job, it is less pay, however I have better hours, superiors who respect me and crucially it gives me more self respect than my previous employment.

I've radically changed my hobbies and downtime:

I've greatly reduced how many hours I play video games which has resulted in more focus and more pleasure from it.

I've started to read more and specifically look for books that actually give me something of value. If I can't justify it I don't read it. So George Orwell who challenges my preconceptions on society, in. Charles Dickens, a literary master, in. Trashy sci-fi/fantasy or pop culture books, out. There are the odd exceptions as reading for pleasure is a worthwhile pursuit in itself.

Live TV is out excluding the evening news and some live sports. Other TV viewing is highly curated and restricted to less than an hour per day. The only exception being documentaries which add value.

Finally I started mountain biking as I live right next to a mountainous national park. Now my skill level has improved I will soon be able to substitute some running for this. It also allows me to see interesting and beautiful places regularly whilst I'm doing something I really enjoy.

I've also consciously changed my circle of friends to be only those I genuinely respect and enjoy. This is a small change but it makes my social life infinitely more enjoyable.

Dropped Facebook usage to a once weekly check for messages, I find that I don't miss it one bit and would delete it if distant family weren't on there.

Finally I've started to look at how I present myself. For example: Improving my fitness, my wardrobe, my posture, my vocabulary, my accent, my tone of voice, how often I speak and becoming more aware of social cues etc.

Currently I have ZERO time for women and its refreshing, I'll change this only when an honest appraisal of my life allows me to be proud of what I see. My lifestyle probably counts as MGTOW, but fuck it I'm not going to bother with women until I know I have a frame that no one can fuck with. I refuse to be someone's bitch, I refuse to bankroll any entitled whores and I will live my life by my rules.

TLDR: Improve yourself first and foremost, if it doesn't make you better, ditch it or lessen its influence. Let nothing in your current life be sacred lest it weigh you down when you move onto better things. Do this and you will have the foundation from which you can build something worthwhile.

bsutansalt · 2013-10-25T13:14:03+00:00

Status is king. Focus on building your empire. Doesn't matter what it is in, just make it a goal to have some degree of status. The bigger and more lucrative your empire, the higher quantity of women you'll have to chose from. Some empires are better than others in the quality of women they draw in as well. For example, being a well known fashion photographer will open up doors to dating models and whatnot, whereas being a wedding photographer won't. Owning a club will give you gargantuan status with hot club chicks and service industry girls, who are often the hottest women in the city, whereas just owning a t-shirt store won't give you much status to many women beyond those who work for you.

Stayinghereforreal · 2013-10-25T12:46:34+00:00

Focus on career, health, and social networks. You want skills that people pay for, a body and lifestyle that will last decades, and a group of quality people who rely on you more than you rely on them.

If you have that, you will find life much better. Not easier, perhaps, but better.

trplurker · 2013-10-25T08:42:18+00:00

Confused about what exactly?

As for generic advice. Work on self improvement, as much self improvement as you can. Spend time at the gym and eat right, that stuff is harder to fix later on as I'm finding out. Work on discovering who you are, find hobbies that somehow improve your life but also find something that relieves stress (these things aren't always the same). Avoid getting attached to one girl, you have plenty of time in your 30's to marry if you want and if she's that great of a person she'll still be there for you.

Your time in the spotlight will happen after you hit 30. Make the right decisions in your 20's and your 30's will be a never ending sea of young pussy.

deepthrill · 2013-10-25T16:02:55+00:00

The others have given you good advice about self improvement. I'll go orthogonally and recommend you start trying to notice motivations for behaviors in women. Try to look at their actions in a RP context, and start to really delve into what you value in a mate (if you think you'll want a LTR in the future). Practice not forgiving negative behavior and rewarding good behavior, and notice the changes. Start learning how to be selective.

FortunateBum · 2013-10-25T20:04:52+00:00

Cash is king. The richer you are, the more options you'll have in life. This includes women.

Be healthy, exercise, cook, eat right.

Women should be way down on your list of priorities.

Helmut_Newton · 2013-10-25T23:00:21+00:00

Some good advice already. I would also add: seek out successful men, either men that you know personally, or men from history. Study them, learn from them. Use their struggles to improve yourself.

ShadowsByTorchlight · 2013-10-25T20:55:08+00:00

Go to the gym, and never stop going. Learn the basics of nutrition. And with regards to relationships, don't ever become so emotionally invested that you can't walk away at any time.

GunsGermsAndSteel · 2013-10-26T02:41:58+00:00

Jack off less, and work out more.

Stop caring what women think, they don't like it anyway and you're wasting your time because as soon as you placate one demand, they'll have another.

Don't get married. Don't even live with a woman. There is nothing in it to benefit you.

The cost of a wife is high. All the things you THINK you're gonna get from a wife in your 20's could easily be purchased: A maid, a cook, a prostitute, a dry-cleaning service- pay for all of those as needed, it will still be less than the cost of a wife, when you get divorced and she takes everything.

Title	To the older users
Author	FuneralMoon
Upvotes	5
Comments	10
Date	October 25, 2013 7:57 AM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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