No one said love would be easy most of the time we pick and choose what we want, a lot of the times we dont know what we want or what that is. I have been accused of not being choosey enough because I kept my mouth shut but then again I have been chastised for being to picky as well. In other words I expressed myself to firmently which I thought to be eventually wrong. So I rethought my approach, and tried to go deeper with the answer i received. Instead of trying to give similar answers I tried to relate. They way i could get closer with what they wanted instead of distancing myself, Do you want to match with the person or do you want to just know? When you start relating with the person on the things that make each other happy you start to see what kind of person he or she is and start to find commoner grounds to grow a relationship.