Growing up in the Christian church, I was often told that I should do what is right no matter what. That is absolutely true. But even though that message wa preached so often to the congregations, I participated in, it was rarely preached that we should encourage and incentivize each other to do good. For example, children are supposed to obey their parents, but parents are not to provoke their children or exhasperate them. I usually only heard one side of that message. Husbands are supposed to love their wives, but it was rarely preached that women have a responsibility to make their husbands' lives easier and better so that the husband WANTS to love his wife.

Also, it is apparent that simply being nice is insufficient for a man to get good treatment from most women. Therefore, it is important to understand the incentives which go into having a healthy marriage.

At this point it is apparent that women must generally feel a real need for an individual man in order to willingly treat him well. Either they must crave him physically, rely heavily on him financially, depend on him to maintain her image and status, or something similar. And in order for her to feel that need, there must be some risk of her losing the thing she feels a need for if she fucks up. That is where we find the problem that we may actually solve within our lifetimes, gentlemen.

I'm sure we have all heard the story of the girl who treats a loyal beta provider like utter shit but goes crazy for the bad boy and treats him amazingly well and tolerates all kinds of mistreatment from him and remains unquestioningly loyal. Of course, none of us are willing to take the moral or legal risks of maintaining a relationship/marriage with those tactics, or we would not be here, but the point remains the same: she stayed with the alpha because she felt a need for either the excitement, the great dick, or something else he had. But she didn't value the beta because she can easily make her own money (women from poorer countries will happily treat beta men well by American standards) and tons of people already happily offer to kiss her ass so she doesn't value kindness and good treatment as much.

This is very consistent with redpill theory about how men and women love differently. Men love idealistically (what could/should be) and women love opportunistically (what is/what do I need/what can I get?)

The modern redpill community often focuses heavily on finding a way to make women feel that "need" for things other than money and good treatment. Rian Stone is a great example. He posits that men must stop thinking of themselves as a plowhorse that is necessary for the survival of the family and instead think of themselves as a luxury SUV that is optional but wonderful to drive and show off to your friends.

Women don't see a need for a plowhorse anymore (at least not until they start thinking about retirement); they can bring home their own bacon. But if you have an absolute shitload of bacon AND you are exciting AND good looking AND funny and high-status... well, what girl would want to miss an opportunity to enjoy and be seen with a guy like that?

But here is the problem: most men cannot and will never be a guy like that. As male competition grows, so will female standards... unless they begin to feel a real need for the average man once more.

And what will cause women to feel a need for an average man? Real hardship from which the government and simps cannot or will not save her. At this point, women can lose their jobs but still get government handouts. They can go to college and get bullshit degrees funded by grants and loans specifically for them. They can go into massive debt to avoid feeling a need for men, and believe that they will figure it out later or marry some sucker who will save them. All this eventually cripples them when they get old and the bill comes due, but during the time when men actually want them, they feel no need for most men.

So basically, the only things that will bring women as a group back into submission to men are a prolonged economic crisis or a prolonged outbreak of violence, unless men somehow vote away all the government assistance that women currently get (practically impossible).

In the meantime, men should focus on themselves, go where they are respected and valued, and vote in their own best interests if they want society to improve. There is not much else to be done at this point.

Hopefully this post helps someone!