I had a few ideas floating around in my head and I was trying to connect the dots between them.

  • women will shit test, often without realizing what they're doing

    example: just spend enough time here and you'll see for yourself

  • women will quickly forgive an alpha's transgression especially when they're not "sorry," while betas will be ganged up on, especially if they apologize

    example: this guy vs this guy

  • women feel proud to be submissive to "real men"

    example: the downvoted / banned chick from the Operant Conditioning thread from yesterday. According to her:

    I was born submissive I don't think taking advice on a subreddit will further your dominance too much

    And I don't have the quote, since she got banned, but it was something among the lines of how her bf is the real deal and that's why she's happy to submit

  • women absolutely hate the idea of a fake alpha / "real man" / dominant guy

    example: TBP explicitly mocks the idea that dominance can be learned

  • It's socially acceptable for some women openly treat betas with contempt, as completely expendable objects, while others are willing to go to great lengths to please alphas.

    example: this blog and hundreds of examples in TRP marked with the blue pill tag. (All great examples that inter-gender equality does not and cannot exist, because intra-gender equality is similarly absent.)

    example 2

  • explaining yourself to a girl will kill attraction, not raise it

    example: constantly explaining yourself is a great way to drop a plate without hurting her feelings - she will drop you. Just try for yourself.

  • women, including atheists will rely on feelings, i.e. subconscious cues on whether to keep dating a guy or not

    example: On the one hand "something didn't feel right" and "there was no chemistry" are good socially acceptable reasons to dump a guy that "looks good on paper," and on the other, the girl that keeps coming back to her asshole bf is now cliche.

  • the fact that Game works so well

    this and of course there are countless other examples

What I think all means is that a really big part of mate selection occurs on a subconscious level.

My hypothesis is that somewhere along the lines, our female ancestors, the ones that survived and reproduced, had a mechanism in place which basically said -

"OK, since having children is such a huge investment and such a large risk, I don't trust you enough to make conscious decisions on whom should father your children. I don't trust you to correctly select the single best genetic donor / provider (father / husband combination) out of a bunch of would-be-impostors, so instead I'm going to do it subconsciously for you by amalgamating an immense amount data on body language, social dominance cues, voice tone, ability to pass shit tests, facial feature proportionality, jaw line, intelligence, wit, muscularity, skill mastery, etc, etc, etc, and give a 'feeling' if this guy is right or not. I'm doing this because I'm afraid you'll pass up the real deal for all the imitators out there who would be only too happy to bone you."

I know that's not exactly how natural selection works, but you get the point.

So where does that leave us at TRP?

We know that social dominance (even on a small scale between a bf / gf) is a major part of what women find attractive.

It makes complete sense that women want to separate the best from the rest, because of the massive biological risk they're taking each time they have sex.

At the same time, that banned girl from the Operant Conditioning thread (I'm using her as a representative of that type of mentality) thinks that you're either born a sub or a dom and that's all there is to it. If you don't have it, then that's just tough cookies, and if you try to mimic it with Game, then you're an ass, because you're fake, manipulative, a liar, etc, etc. As a side note, they'll tell you that make up and push up bras are perfectly fine. As a matter of fact, it's men who force women to do this via societal pressure, lol

So, since there is a community on sexual strategy, then by definition, every member here is not "the real deal," because the real deal shouldn't have need for a strategy.

The real deal should just be themselves. As a matter of fact, all men should just be themselves to help make the filtering process easier for the ladies.

If there was really no way out, then 80% of all men should just submit to their fate as genetic dead ends.

However, the good news is that personality is malleable. Not only that, but our society has been systematically feminized over the last half century. I think that most of the work to be done in making someone "the real deal" is restorative, even though "building up from scratch" or "fake it 'till you make it" can be a necessary process as well.

So, to put it all together, the takeaway for TRP is that it's important for women to select the best mate, and that they're really, really good at it. We can see this in shit tests, in having "a feeling" about a guy, in it being socially acceptable for women to have a laundry list of requirements for what kind of guy they'll date, etc.

The second takeaway, is that the best sexual strategy will be the one that passes all of their selection criteria, of which there are many. This is seen in Game, working out, making more money, dressing better, being socially dominant, having a specific body language, etc.

Cheers!