The only way I can see my needs fulfilled is casual encounters with people I deem stable (no mental illness especially bipolar etc) so the risk is minimised, I know you can't ever be 100% safe but I can't go monk otherwise I would snap and slip back into dating for regular sex.

Anyone else find it hard to draw the line where they feel comfortable but are still distancing from women? I can't give up physical intimacy and escorts seem an expensive alternative, I would prefer a stable (not bipolar or crazy) clean girl, plenty in my city but am I walking across a highway with this one?