Used to be fat now fit and mentally struggling to adjust to the attention and lack of confidence and conversation skills

redhawkes · 2021-03-14T20:56:49+00:00

Read "PsychoCybernetics". It's called Imposter Syndrome. You're still mentally a fat loser, so in order to catch up, you need to change your self image. In short, keep going, get success, and repeat, your subconscious will catch up, but read the book, it's a must.

lieutenantdong · 2021-03-14T21:20:49+00:00

Narcissism is a masculine trait and the polar opposite of submission. Its why it works. You can learn it (the fake it til you make it).

Well done on the work. Went through a similar journey but i have no shame in saying i loved the journey, the self reflection in the mirror and being able to look myself in the eye and the self validation good health gives. Maybe try a bit of that?

Theres nothing better than experience. Start with locking eye contact with everyone and never break first. It is such a confidence booster. People submit easily (men and women). Also move slow and talk slow, remember you're the dude and these girls are auditioning for you. Not the other way around.

Has your fashion changed? Do you wear clothes that feel comfortable and show off your gains?

jdotw9 · 2021-03-14T20:15:10+00:00

You worked on the external dimension of the problem, work on the inner.

No book, hack, course or video will help with that.

Havicii · 2021-03-14T21:16:33+00:00

The only thing to be better at this is just practice, there is no books that will automatically give u better conversational skills

I would get a job in sales or anywhere u talk to customers on a daily basis, it will literally change ur life

Maybe try to meditate? The voice in your head is literally jebaiting you, its like 2 brain halves where the one is logic and the other one is just filling ur head with nonsense (negative thoughts etc) Everyone deals with this differently and its up to oneself to come to peace with this.

Atomz00 · 2021-03-14T22:08:59+00:00

how many girls have you slept with this year?

once youve banged a bunch youll be sweet.

lifeintraining · 2021-03-15T01:48:49+00:00

Just tell yourself that every woman wants you whenever you walk into a room. Be consistent.

PostAndDelete · 2021-03-15T02:07:01+00:00

Try talking to retail workers at clothes stores etc, that’ll get you used to talking to attractive girls( because that’s usually the kind of workers there) without feeling like you’re trying to hit on them. It’ll build up your confidence and help desensitise that hot girl barrier you have in your head

zerohistory · 2021-03-15T07:00:06+00:00

Take acting classes, alexander techique classes. Learn a new skill: go back to school. your attention is great but its empty if you are. Fill it with skill. Confidence will flow.

Do something!

Title	Used to be fat now fit and mentally struggling to adjust to the attention and lack of confidence and conversation skills
Author	ChampionHumble165
Upvotes	19
Comments	18
Date	March 14, 2021 7:55 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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