If you're a strong independent women, why do you always act like women are victims?

If you're a strong independent women, why do you always act like women are victims? And also, why do you refuse to talk dangerous jobs if you're strong and independent. I was arguing with a feminist about the pay gap, and I said that if she wants to balance out the pay gap, she should join the army but not complain when she gets her leg blown off and discovers a reason why the pay gap exists. She flat out said no, so if feminists are strong women, prove it, instead of whinging.