Overcome feelings/attachment?

CorneliusBelfort · 2021-05-07T15:06:59+00:00

Be ready for the plate to break.

I was in a similar boat last year. Dating 3 girls and grew close to the one who I cared least about because she chased and sweet talked me me hard.

Within 1 week, her attitude flipped. Then she said she don’t want nothing serious right now lol

These chicks only want what they can’t have.

AboveNBeyond7866 · 2021-05-07T08:46:01+00:00

You developed oneitis for her no question.

She basically said I’m too full on autist-trp.

This is a shi test. If she's still fucking you, she's still attracted to you. If you go accordance with what she wants, she will get drier than the Sahara desert. She wants to make you open up by her saying that nonsense and once you do, I can bet you she"ll be gone the next day. Don't open up and remain emotionally stoic. Don't show any emotions in front of these chicks.

Keep doing what you're doing and keep her as a plate. If she gives attitude walk away and for the sake of God do NOT get emotionally attached.

319Skew · 2021-05-07T19:31:19+00:00

Always approach. You're not looking to keep her. She's looking to keep you.

It's night and day when she knows that you're looking for a reason to replace her.

QPRCHOC · 2021-05-07T18:10:12+00:00

I think a good learning point is to tone down some of the red pill shit if you’re open to something long-term. I don’t think that was necessarily a shit test if all you’ve truly been doing is acting like a cocky bastard.

Remember - TRP is good for getting you laid but beyond that you’d have to strike more of a balance.

Also, don’t mistake being alpha as a list of characteristics and behaviours you need to fulfil and exhibit. If you’ve been approaching plates by doing nothing but A&A, not showing your feelings etc then sure, that’ll work short-term and get you some pootang.

But I think what is often missed here is that a true alpha mindset is purely doing whatever the fuck you think is best and not giving a fuck about the consequences (within limits). Acting “closed off” and hiding your feelings with humour are potentially alpha traits, but if you’re doing it because you think it’s something you should do, then there’s still some work to do.

I would say if you’ve been fucking a chick for months it’s perfectly fine to start easing up and showing some emotion and being yourself. The best sex you’ll have is where there is true intimacy and comfort with that person. If that doesn’t work for her than fuck her, you should aspire to that mindset where you will not care. If it does, then you can take things in your stride from there.

Don_Draper27 · 2021-05-07T14:46:48+00:00

I'm glad that you're aware that it's not good for you to be the one who wants the relationship. Optimally, you want her to beg you for a relationship after at least 6 months of plating.

I think what stings the most is that she basically clearly said that she's seeing other people. I think I'm fortunate to say that I've never had any evidence from my plates that they were seeing other people. Lol I'm wondering right now how I'm gonna feel when I find out one day.

btt069 · 2021-05-07T14:57:12+00:00

how are your homies? are they cool or beta? you can talk to them. Never show yourself as a weak man to any women.

Youngyoda89 · 2021-05-07T18:49:02+00:00

I’ve never had a woman tell me this since discovering the pill. Even before. After getting played once, growing up with a psycho for a mother, I’ve gotten good at leaving.

I saw my mother cheat. At a young age. I recognized the behavioral patterns now and nip them in the bud.

Alittihad01 · 2021-05-07T09:32:33+00:00

idk what's wrong with you guys , you see the insult as a shit test and you see shit testing as some insults!

man she was insecure as fuck and wanted to reframe this shit , and apparently she did

if the bitch is fucking you , she wants you to be her boyfriend , unless she is a top notch whore!

and , never ever over invest! i think you gave her more than she gave you .

Title	Overcome feelings/attachment?
Author	CorneliusBelfort
Upvotes	17
Comments	22
Date	May 7, 2021 8:15 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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