How many times have you heard women saying, I want to "grow" with a man and help him out in his journey of whatever it is. Wrong. This is all bs. They may say to there guy friends to hide there golddigging nature. They can't say this to there girlfriends or lie to em because girls can read other girls very well.

In reality what's happening is she deep down doesn't want to grow with anyone at all. She is waiting at the finish line for someone to show up, and have it all so she can just be his "wife" because she didn't have to do anything. Well this is the case most of time and reality is it happens very often.

Now my take on this is, there is no such thing as "true love" or "soulmates". Marriage is like a exchange. It's like a business deal in other terms. So in situations like these both don't "truly" love each other. It was just a deal but they have to act like they "love".

Now in some cases you have a true love story where guy and girls meets at bus stop or at some random place not knowing each of there's wealth, professions and something happens, they click and then "truly" fall in love and grow with each other or whatever. Well love changes over time but that's a whole different topic.

But what I'm trying to say gentlemen marriage is like a business deal. Its like you gimme this for that. And yk what? F that. Many of yall that say "true love" well yes it does exist. But for true love these are moments that lead upto it. Like the bus stop example I gave. If you marry someone off of there biodata, what's he married for? Lool. Because he's a "doctor" or whatever. Not for him.

In conclusion she doesn't wanna grow. She's waiting till ur fully established god knows when and then she'll see which is the best option she can get and then marry you. But there is no true love, no nothing. There was a story I read I'm gonna share it.