How do you stop yourself from stalking?

Retspihi · 2016-12-04T16:17:56+00:00

Yeah that's pretty bad. Talk to a therapist

thor_away92 · 2016-12-04T16:26:46+00:00

Actually you just developed a habit. A habit that's easily triggered by pretty much anything. I always had this problem too.

I think it has something to do with dopamine. But for starters remove all the social media icons from your phone. When you get the urge to creep pull up TRP and browse that.

Actually most of this doesn't have to do with her, you, or Oneitits (it stems from it yes)

But this is more of a developed habit. This is why social media is bad bad bad. It does shit like this to you.

Or go full bore and delete all your social media.

EDIT: revenge fantasies may be ultimately unhealthy but they do help with coping.

Also get a sheet of paper and logically write down reasons why this bitch ain't shit.

Terminal-Psychosis · 2016-12-04T17:29:15+00:00

You seriously need to let that shit go. Stop that, now.

For god's sake, go get laid and get over her.

Also, get a real hobby.

KB11627 · 2016-12-04T16:21:23+00:00

It happens with a lot of people who suffer from oneinitis, just have self control and within time it'll pass

redpill_disciple · 2016-12-04T17:09:50+00:00

If reading TRP theory isn't helping you then talking to a therapist to get to the root of your issue probably will. There is no shame in seeking someone to help with your depression. Think of it as a temporary phase in your path to becoming a better man.

As for right now you should block her/unfollow her from all social media so you don't become tempted. If you find yourself falling into the same angry and depressing mindset then leave wherever you are and take a walk or take that anger out on the plates at the gym. Try not to let it define you.

Mindfulness meditation could also help you. I've taken a class on it this semester and it had done wonders for me.

zboo1h · 2016-12-04T18:04:38+00:00

Seconding the therapist recommendation. I'll admit that I used to have urges similar to yours years ago when I was thoroughly bluepilled and miserable.

What's awful about this kind of shit is exactly as you put it, that you "hate yourself" because of it, and that will only make you do it more. You're stuck in a vicious loop, bro. You have to pull yourself out by any means necessary, even if it means talking to a shrink.

You also need to replace the bad with something good - you need new hobbies, you need to join a club, you need to get MORE serious about your physique and spend more time in the gym - SOMETHING positive to replace the bad. It's not about NOT doing bad shit, it's about doing GOOD shit instead.

You're a couple months into your journey? That's the fucking prelude. You have so fucking much more to learn and so fucking much further to grow. You need to think long-term. Think of yourself in just two years - your physique, how many more women you've bagged, how fucking cool and confident you feel. That's where it's at - two months is fucking nothing. Keep going.

As far as stopping the actual action, you can control yourself. You think you can't for whatever reason, but you can. Just like a cigarette smoker thinks quitting is hard, but actually all you have to do is not buy the god damned things and then it becomes impossible to smoke.

You're going to make it, bro. See a shrink. Stop hating yourself.

Yashugan00 · 2016-12-04T19:21:09+00:00

Stalking is super-beta behaviour man. You've pedestalise her to the point where you follow but don't talk. Thats not just creepy, it's been criminalised. Expect a run in with the law soon if you don't quit.

Title	How do you stop yourself from stalking?
Author	ev3atmuzique
Upvotes	1
Comments	11
Date	December 4, 2016 4:11 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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