It isn't "classist" to want a guy who is financially stable. Some FDS followers are working class women. I cannot think of anything more privileged than telling women who have known poverty, that it is shameful to want a man who won't drag them back to poverty level.

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Former sex worker here.

I'm mostly an FDS lurker but every now and then I see people bashing FDS for being "classist" aka not wanting to date poor men.

It's particularly insulting to women like me, who have known what it's like to live in poverty. There is nothing glamorous or virtuous about "struggle love"

Also, no matter if it's the man or woman who earns less, the man is ALWAYS the one exploiting the woman, even if she makes more money than him.

Men exploit low-income women via prostitution, rent-for-sex arrangements, and just general financial abuse. Even if the woman earns less, she's never getting the money "for free". She is always selling some part of herself, whether itself her body or her freedom.

Low-income men exploit higher-earning women by mooching off of them. I know plenty of former homeless men who sweet-talk their way into women's homes, just to get off the streets. These men often cheat on and abuse these women, steal from them, give them STDs, make them miserable by abusing drugs/alcohol, and just generally sucking their life force, leaving her a husk of her former self.

In either case, the man isn't "giving up" anything, he is the one who is fully in control and exploiting the woman, no matter how much or how little money he makes.

It isn't "classist" to be wary of these patriarchal power dynamics. Women have a right to want a man who is roughly her equal, because that way she is less likely to be exploited.