So yeah....me again. After 3-4 months of actually internalizing TRP and working out and having a real job i had a chance with my oneitis. I've been having some plates in these months (2 to be exact ) but they weren't very special....just getting my needs done.

My oneitis came to my birthday party ( we share the same group of friends ) and even though we haven't spoken to each other in 3 months and haven't seen each other we were doing a pretty good job ignoring each other at the party still. After that we just started chatting and she kept looking at me talking to other girls and she just came to me and we chatted for a bit. She's been broken up with her boyfriend for a month and said she didn't even miss him so i took the opportunity of trying to escalate with her. Ended up just sleeping together ( no sex ) and cuddling and crap like that After that we talked and she started telling me that it's too soon for a relationship and she wants time to figure out her feelings. I managed to convince her to go out for a movie and talk relationships and have fun and at the end of the night i kissed her. Next day i get a text saying it all felt too soon and that i said that we were going to take things slow and this wasn't slow and that she doesn't feel enough for me to be in a relationship. I went back beta and tried to convince her like i did the previous time ....but this time it was different. She was convinced she was making the right decision cutting me out of her life.

Thing is i still feel like she cares about me, and i still feel like she likes me but i think she's just afraid of some concequences ( she had a toxic boyfriend that abused her emotionally ) . Do i even try to work things out with this ? Is she even interested in me? Or am i mindfucking myself because i invested so much time and i can't accept that she doesn't really care about me nor does she like me?

Edited for one more question: I'm also curios as to what's the point of all this if you can't be emotionally invested in a girl ? If she (or any girl for that matter ) only likes me when i don't give a shit about her...what's the point?? Why not just give up on girls forever and just pay for sex?