Quick question ,

lately i have been back to my town from college. One high school relative tells me we should meet sometime. I do and i go outside with a friend whos been flaking me a lot lately ( i had no choice those 2 guys are family friends and he had to come). It all goes well and one of them tells me he will drop by at myplace so i can teach him some guitar. All cool .

Since then i recommended him to come like 3 times he always came up with excuses and flakes ( i believe some were lies to hang out with specific other people i know ) . About the other friend who recommended at first place was only using me to buy him some steam games(lazy to have paypal). I was pretty mad when i figured out it out why he hung out with me in the long run.

I am reading NMMNGuy and it says i should face my fears which was always rejection and how it affects me to ghost and have boundaries .

One of those guys who i were supposed to play guitar with , messages me today and tells me to go out for a movie at saturday and i went radio silence since then ( about 1 day)

Do you believe that i am butthurt ? I have read the post (Life is transactional) from archwinger and it says you offer stuff for something back.Does this scenario apply here? and i am really thinking about it.From the one side i feel like i have to ghost most of the people because of their beta traits and mainly of their disrespect but i am afraid to do it because i will end alone and i am not good at making new friends.